I moved 3 hours away with my kids. Just recently divorced their dad was married before our divorce was finalized. He refuses to pay child support. He refused to meet me where he was supposed to meet me. I was living with my parents and it was stressful. I moved 3 hours away to live with my sister until I can get back on my feet. He is upset because of this. He still will be able to see the kids every other weekend on his visitations. He never came to school events. He never came to visit on days that were not his scheduled visitations. I had a hard time getting him to meet on the weekends he was supposed to meet me. Is it so wrong that I moved 3 hours away? the only reason I was living where he was is because I moved there when I married him. I am moving back to live with family now. Is this wrong???
2007-09-10 14:01:32 · 8 answers · asked by stop_staring_please 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not. The well-being of your children is first! He will always be your children's father, but now he is out of your life. You can do with it whatever you feel is best. You definetely need to make him responsible for child support...without a doubt. That are your children's rights.
2007-09-10 14:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by M. J. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it isn't wrong. You are not his slave, you are his EX-wife. You got divorced and that means you need to be able to get on with your life. Obviously he is getting on with his life if he isn't taking as much interest in his children, not paying child support, and trying to make the scheduled visitations more difficult for you.
Just tell him to learn to live with it or he can uproot his life and more closer to his children. Also, if he refuses to pay child support, you can go to the courts and ask them to take away visitation rights until he starts paying up. You can also request that his checks be garnished (I used to work as payroll in a company and several of the men had $$$ taken out of their checks and sent directly to their ex-spouse). I know that sounds unkind, but if he can't be stand-up enough to pay for his own children, he shouldn't have the luxury of being "daddy" anymore. And if he refuses to meet you at the time and place that is agreed upon for his visitations, just simply refuse to make other arrangements. Tell him that if he can't be respectful of your time, you won't have time to get the children out to see him. Again, sounds unkind, but if you do this once or twice he will probably see the light and start behaving himself.
Just one more thing. None of my business, but if he was married to you (technically until the day that your divorce is finalized you are still married), he can't be married to anyone else. If he got married again before you were divorced it is against the law and the second marriage is not legal.
Good luck and don't let him boss you around.
2007-09-10 14:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Manda B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not wrong to move away. You have to do what you have to do to survive. But- His responsibility or lack there of is going to hurt you and your children in the long run. Your children will not understand his wrong doing! You need to fight for visitation. Call Legal Aid! They will help you fight him for free!
Another thought- Why would he have to pay child support if he has custody? Either way you must fight for your rights, if you don't your children will be the ones who suffer. Any parent that fights makes a statement about her morals. Don't go down as the " one who stood by and watched".
2007-09-10 14:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you have info on if he strikes closer to the place you would be. yet you apart from would must be questioning and placed it in writing if he's exterior that 15 miles hindrance. So artwork on an in intensity plan now for that rather of basically "letting it pass" and coping with it later!
2016-10-19 23:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to read your divorce papers. If it states that you can't live more than an hour from where your ex lives then yeah it is wrong. He can take you to court over it. Didn't you even bother READING the divorce papers you signed?
2007-09-10 16:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could move closer. You need a family's help, now. Don't deny him visitation unless he is harmful.
2007-09-10 14:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move where and when you want. he has nothing to do with it unuless it was mentioned in the divorce papers. btw, his narriage isn't legal if he married before you two were divorced
2007-09-10 14:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope don't feel bad....You got to do what is right for ou and your kids....
2007-09-10 14:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋