For all you people who've been divorced?

Question

What caused your divorce? Why do you think your marriage ended? or was it one solid reason?

Answer 1

me personally, my ex cheated, i think it was alot of things, we were alot different, i am a sensitive guy, she wasnt, i like romance, she didnt, only problem was i didnt find this out till after we were married, she put on a good show

Answer 2

Was married for 18 yrs, first part was good...last part was a nightmare. People change all the time. I wanted a divorce because he took the love I had adn turned it into something more than hate. I was physically, emotionally abused by the man I loved I kept holding on thinking he would change. He was alywas sorry. I get a black eye, next day hes bringing me home roses. Those "Im sorry'' gifts. My children was tired of seeing him do things to me. It was mutual for us to divorce. Hes still abusive to women, tells us about it. Says that should make me feel better, well it dont. I dont like hearing of women being abused in any fashion. Divorced now for 5 yrs. Best desicion I ever made. He still torments me from time to time. Has threatened to kill me still yet. He has moved to the town I have raised our children in. Drives by often to see if I am home. He told me one recently he was at a his gf house, woke up outta a dead sleep, drove by my house because he knew I wasnt home, but had to confirm it. That was a bout a 75 mile round trip just to see if I was really home or not. Solid reason?? YES! But it never ends...

Answer 3

It wasnt 1 solid reason it was a stack of reasons but on my divorce request papers it was just irreconsilable differences.

I got with him when I was 16 he was my best friend , we had our kids young bought a house young , he worked from 4am till 2 am the next morning ummm yeah just a whole lot of little reasons and I am not sorry for it.I got 4 gorgeous children out of it he got the house , cars , furniture and the savings account.

Answer 4

Well, my ex-husband cheated on me but I think the reason he did is because we grew apart and instead of leaving me, he decided to cheat. I learned a lot about a relationship after we split up. If both of you are not in it 100% then eventually it will end up in divorce. My ex-husband an I did not have very good communiction and I think that is the #1 reason why it ended.

Answer 5

No single reason, we grew apart as our family grew instead of together. I became the responsible one and got to be a nag. He had many outside interests that didn't include us as a family and were very expensive, and the more I nagged the farther away he got.
Counselling saved my sanity and stopped the nagging, but the partnership was beyond saving. He liked his lifestyle too much too change and I couldn't live that way and raise my children never knowing if I would have the money to feed them.
We are on friendly terms and I wish him well- 8 years later.

Answer 6

Married at 21 and 25 yrs old. Didn't think we were too young at all. OVer the years (now we are 31 and 35) we just changed in so many ways that next thing we knew....we didn't even like each other anymore. I feel like he pretty much stayed the same but still acted like a highschooler. Still partied, drank, smoked pot, hung out with friends and did things that two married people with kids shouldn't do anymore. I wanted to be that typical married family wiht a house and hanging out with other married couples with kids.....family trips, school things, sports things with the kids....all those typical things that you just do as you grow up and change into an adult/parent. He wasn't interested and felt like he regretted getting married young and having kids. He never attended any of their functions, didn't want to meet new married couples, didn't want to come to the weekend BBQ's where drinking and smoking pot was not the focus, etc.. It's not like he was a bad father, actually he was fun and the kids see him as a Big Kid with them. But inside he was just waiting for them to get to bed at night so that he would drink and smoke and watch South Park. He never grew up and openly admitted to never wanting to really grow up and that he wished we hadn't bought a house and that he was happpies when he and I had an apartment, worked PT, and I smoked and drank WITH him. Well, of course I stopped all that "highschool" stuff once I got pregnant at 23. Anyway, so we divorced three years ago....he still is the way he is.....I am remarried to a wonderful "man" and we have the typical "boring" married life that my Ex wanted no part of. I am so happy now and our kids are actually well adjusted and doing well. They just see their time with me all week as the real life with responsibilties, school, homework, extra curricular activities, play dates, etc.....and their weekends with dad are just for "fun"....going to fun parks, mini golf, chuck e cheeses, fast food, restaurants, etc...no discipline or any "parental" things....he just plays with them. He is now dating and engaged to a 22 yr old college girl that doesn't even have a job and loves how they just hang out and party when they don't have the kids. SO, to each his own. I am just glad that we had the guts to divorce because our kids are better off with two parents APART, yet two parents are happier this way.

Answer 7

I just posted a Q? myself...if u wish check it out :) This is my response to yours: We hardly knew each other therefore many disagreements, incompatibility, different views in life, goals. Also his family had lots to do with it.....expecting him to be there for them financially. All these problems caused our sex life to diminish lil by lil...to the point that one day it was gone completely. Having our children sleep with mommy was a big mistake too. Pride was a cause too. Waiting for him to initiate instead of me jumping on my hubby :( He got tired & gave up on me. Me? I felt like he didn't love me enough. Sadly, we made many many mistakes....if I could have 1 more chance with him......I know it would be successful :) Now go ahead & read my Q? and you'll know what I'm talkin about. Life turns in crazy ways.....I don't know what our future will be like....but I do know...that if God wants to save my marriage then I'm all up for it :)

Answer 8

It takes two to make a marriage and there were multiple reasons for my divorce

1) I got pregnant w/my son after he begged me to - his face told me it was over when I told him I was pregnant

2) he cheated, lied, drank and was physically abusive

3) he left me alone with a 6 week old child to raise and every bill we ever had

4) we were way to different and should have just broke up after the first time he cheated.

5) NO COMMUNICATION ANYMORE

Answer 9

Elie, i had 2 and an annulment.
my first, our son was stillborn. a few months later she walked out, nothing said. 15yrs later i came across her and asked her y, she said she felt totally responsible, felt i was holding it against her and couldn't find a way 2 talk 2 me about it so she just left. i did not hold our son against her.
my second was a cash flow problem, namely her mom inherited a bunch of cash shortly after we married, told her she could share in it if she left me, and she did.
the annulment was i married a gal 1 month after her divorce was final...problem was her divorce papers said neither party shall marry unless to each other for a period of 1 yr.

Answer 10

18 months into our marriage my wife was contacted by a old lover from twenty years ago. A married man of ten children.I had no clue what was going on,just working my *** off to give us a better life.She asked for a divorce and left me for him,although he's still married.

Answer 11

My marriage ended for several reason, but the main reason:

lack of communication

second reason:

In-laws

Third reason:

lack of intimacy

Fourth reason:

Lack of same interests - didnt' do thing together.