Marriage & Divorce - 13 September 2007

My son hates my husband so much that he wont come a visit me when I have visitation days.
I married the man who demolished our family so I understand what he feeling about us are, I don't push anything.

My Ex. finally got a family therapist for him after a few weeks The therapist had everyone involved in on a family session. My son went postal on us to the point that when my husband started to get defensive my 14 year flat out told me he did not want to be my son and he will continue hating me to my grave!

I finally got courage enough to say my response and my son tore me to shreds!
It was bad, now am taking antidepressant and seeing my on therapist about my own issues.
After 3 months we all sat down again, My son gave me an ultimatum dispose of my current husband and never have contact with him or my son would dispose of me!

I don't want to lose my son this way, but he hurting what should I do?
Choose son, or husband I can't have both, my happiness gone either way!

2007-09-13 23:16:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out that my husband never loved me and he just married me out of convenience. This was a 13 year relationship and I'm very hurt. We are now divorced. I feel like he has taken my important years away from me. I'm 36 and married when I was 26. I wanted to have children but my now ex husband couldn't. He still continued to stay even though he didn't love me. Why would someone do this to another person? I married for the right reasons. Don't you think this is an act of selfishness on his part. I could never do that to someone as I think its wrong in God's eyes. We all have our judgement day right? I know the world has changed but we shouldn't deceive another person. I'm sorry but I'm hurt and I'm angry.

2007-09-13 22:37:25 · 20 answers · asked by cathy h 2

My sister is married and has been having an affair with a married man for a few months even though her husband has cheated on her in the past this is her first affair ,the trouble is they are both very keen ,and see each another once a week i am just worried on how it might end do you think they can fall in love and then two family will be distroyed both with children.He was after her for a few years before the affair started.

2007-09-13 22:04:00 · 11 answers · asked by Jenny 1

pls. help me if I am right or wrong for this??? eversince, I never been so free to do what I want for myself. after I finish college until now I been working for almost 9 years on my job, and I never experience given my self a break to make myself happy. I never go out, or to priorities my self needs. I help my family as I can before buying something for me, atleast twice a year, (hard to explain what my situation right now) but would be good for me that I am planning to priorities my need maybe 10 years from now. to explore different places that i want to go or whatever that I want to do. (I am now 28 years old) and still doing my routine life work and home.

2007-09-13 22:01:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have absolutely full trust in my husband. then one day, he had to be hospitalised for appendicts. in these few days when i'm alone, i went through my handphone (he used mine for a while) and saw some unknown numbers (5 to be exact, with no names). out of curiousity, i called them. i was shocked to hear that my husband has made an imesh account behind my back and used it to get to know other girls! they even said that he claimed to be single (he's only 21) and he's frustrated with his annoying ex (which happens to be me! a.k.a. his wife)and that he wants to move on with his life. he even ask them out for dinner (his job sometimes requires him to saty til late, that's why i never thought differently of him) but they never meet up because of his recent illness.
i dont know what to think of him now, whether to broach up the subject or not. he's done this before and it took me a long while to gain back the trust that i have for him. could i be at fault?

2007-09-13 21:46:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

this is a poll, a fair answer would be great

2007-09-13 21:44:55 · 25 answers · asked by Cuz 1

2007-09-13 21:34:16 · 9 answers · asked by AAWASH 1

could but a nice looking guy or girl, or its time of a new adventure. i take all answers good or bad, no reporting. folks outside do not report, folks that answer my question its basically my question and its open for everyone.

2007-09-13 21:23:33 · 8 answers · asked by just hanging around 5

I don't know how to ask this question properly..but, my husband was a virgin when I married him. Even his inner part was not the way it is for other guys. How can his be like others? While sex it does come out, but again it goes back which I dont like. I feel dirty..How can he change it or how can it be like the other...normal one. Plz help...

2007-09-13 20:31:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live in PA and I was told that since he gets SSI that he doesnt have to pay, personally I think it really messed up, He doesnt help in any way or see them for that matter.

2007-09-13 19:34:18 · 4 answers · asked by Tonia F 2

Ok ive been with him 5 years on and off and well weve tried living together 4 times and each time something goes wrong. I love him but im not in love he says he feels the same way. So now he wants to try and live together again and thing have been going pretty good so far. Ive mentioned it to him that i feel things work better when we dont live together but he dont understand. If i just tell him no hes going to think i dont want to be with him. So how can i let him down easy. Or should I try and live with him again? Im so confused please help.

2007-09-13 19:11:52 · 7 answers · asked by ♥explosive♥ 3

My husband didn't trust me when we got married b/c his first wife cheated on him. He made me sign a prenuptial and he told me repeatedly throughout the marriage that I was going to have to suffer for the rest of my marriage with him b/c of what his first wife did to him. He was very selfish with me, he bought his groceries and I bought mine. He got more and more distant to me. The last three years we stopped sleeping together. I was out of work for a while and he put so much pressure on me that I went out of town to live with my children to find work. When I found work, my boss and I fell in love immediately. I never in my entire life have had such a strong love and attraction for anyone. He says the same about me. But for some reason, sometimes I so wish that I could be in love with my husband. I do love him as a person. He has made strong effort to make things right. He burned the prenup and he signed a notarized statement voiding it. I have tried for the past 3 yrs to love him again

2007-09-13 19:11:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 18:51:19 · 22 answers · asked by R 2

I sent my ex-wife to her mother's for the weekend, sold the house and when she came home, it belonged to someone else.

2007-09-13 18:26:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

had lost or is about to lose interest in his wife whilst still married to her?

i knew sometimes men get bored with their women or the way their relationship are going or worse,even both,from time to time,but how can we women(wives,girlfriends,de factos) could tell if the boredom will send us the warning signs that youre starting to entertain the idea of leaving us.....for good?

2007-09-13 18:14:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

How soon is too soon to start dating someone after a divorce? My divorce was final in July and I've met someone I'd like to start dating. I have a 15 month old daughter, also. Please help me figure this out.

2007-09-13 18:12:52 · 18 answers · asked by cowgrl2205 3

i did by myself auto plates with my favorite band on it. i told him i would say its from him. but he never actually takes the time out to buy me something on his own. not even a card. kind of makes me wonder. oh he went golfing with his friends on my birthday. then came home to sleep till he went into work. maybe im dumb, but do most men do things for their wifes?

2007-09-13 18:07:12 · 24 answers · asked by flowerlegz 3

I've been married for about a year and a half and with him for 4 years. We went to high school together and still hang out with the same friends. I can't talk to my friends because we have the same friends. I've never really been all that interested in sex with him and lately, I've discovered I'm not attracted to him at all. I've only had sex with one other person, so I feel like maybe I didn't get to get out there and experience more or date more.... He is my best friend; we talk about everything, so we have a good relationship in that respect, but I feel awful because I don't want to have sex. He's starting to get really frustrated with me and has even suggested that maybe I don't love him anymore. The last 6 months or so I've felt like I've been falling farther and farther out of love with him. I don't know what to do... I can't afford councelling right now and he's extremely sensitive, so I don't want to talk to him until I'm confident that I won't say something wrong. Plz help!

2007-09-13 17:54:40 · 20 answers · asked by JenB 1

I have 4 young adult/teenagers in the home, 3 are in college and 1 is a senior in high school.

The college children also work.

We have a big home (3000sq ft) for me to clean all alone. My husband and II work full time and also have a 7 yr old.

I have pretty much always done all the household chores and I'm just know as the nag because I am alwasy asking them to pick up. They can't even keep their rooms cleaned. Each has their own.

Today I put a chore list together for every day of the week consisting of.
Cleaning their room
Cleaning 2 bathrooms
Cleaning kithche, living room and family room.
They don't do everything each day. They have 3 chores 3 days a week.

Is that too much to ask for since they are college students and work?

I also cook for them every day.

My husband is pretty supportive and helps out. I want them to start helping out. They don't contibute to any part of household and we also pay their cell bills and help with tuition.

THOUGHTS

2007-09-13 17:50:54 · 19 answers · asked by Roxy 1

I've been on a lot of dates and had my fun but honestly I am feeling no urgency to be in a relationship again. I often wonder if I ever will, I guess Im worried of being in the mindset I am right now for the rest of my life. I'm scared to be one of those single scorned burned women who's a manhater. I just feel like I have so much to do, raise my children, excel at work that there's no time for anyone...is that being selfish? My ex has already moved on and embarking upon a new relationship, he asked me tonight if I was seeing anyone and just the thought of it, I'm like no thank you. Help! Is there anyone else out there that feels the same way I do?

2007-09-13 17:49:55 · 19 answers · asked by ooolala 2

Just curious. What if the wife does not want to have intimacy in a marriage? Can a marriage work out still?

2007-09-13 17:48:13 · 19 answers · asked by Oh dear 2

My husband texts other women and tells them that they are beautiful and that they are the sunshine in his life. I dont mind him having female friends, but this is going to far. What should I do? Yes I have guy friends but that is all they are. I dont tell them that they are the sunshine in my life and lets hook up. I am willing to take all advice into consideration. thank you.

2007-09-13 17:42:15 · 25 answers · asked by Brat 1

we have a one week old baby boy. Ive been waiting on her hand and foot. I asked for 10 minutes of her time and she shot me down. If you cant rely on wife for that who can u rely on. Anyways what should I do to make up??,

2007-09-13 17:38:54 · 18 answers · asked by the man 1

men rape their wife I wanna know why? I saw it on Oprah... why do men do this when their wife isn't in the mood

2007-09-13 17:35:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 1 yr. I told him in oct that I cheated on him almost 7 yrs ago!!! He always used to ask me, but I always denied it and finally told him. I then told him I was pregnant. Ive had my daughter now, but before she was born, he told me either we could split up or I could stay and let him do his thing. So he has been messing with this other girl for about 10mos. I have seen pictures of her naked in his phone and text messages. He tells her that when the time is right he will make that move, but he hopes she will be ready. I believe she is a young girl. But we live together in this house with our daughter and his two other kids. I have seen messages to her talking about how he felt he was in an "it relationship" but he now knows that this girl is the one he wants to be with. I belive they have traveled together and they might have a kid...or she is pregnant. He always sends her messages about your future baby daddy jokes. Should I stay and wait for him?

2007-09-13 17:34:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 4 years, together for 10. I am starting to get the feeling that he is not "in love" with me. I know he cares for me, he is not abusive or purposely mean. I just think that he is comfortable staying but doesn't have a passion anymore.

He doesn't go out of his way to do nice things for me. There is no romance at all. I haven't received a birthday, valentine or anniversary present/card in 5 years. I take care of all the bills, laundry, car repairs, yard work, cooking, cleaning etc. He knows I work my butt off for us but doesn't want to help me. No thank, nothing. I've caught him browsing the internet at other women's pictures and profiles on myspace. Not only other women but one' s that live in the area. I've tried to talk to him that I feel unappreciated and he just gets mad.

Anyone have any input? What ever happened to the fire in love, the romance? . I am thankful to have him but want us both to be happy. I want a husband, not just a roommate.

2007-09-13 17:29:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

have no sex life to speak of? I've never really understood this. There are people who are deprived sexually and rely upon porn to some degree to derive sexual pleasure. Is that so bad? I don't think so. And, I would also venture to say that those of you who are so dead set against most likely have very satisfying sex lives. Obviously, some of you have no idea what it's like to go without. If you did, you wouldn't be so judgmental of those who patronize the porn industry. Afterall, some of these folks aren't as fortunate as yourselves in establishing relationships in which sexual satisfaction flourishes. Maybe you should consider this the next time you get the urge to give porn that bad rap I was speaking of...

2007-09-13 17:17:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my "husband-to-be" for almost 5 years now and we have a 7 month old daughter together. We've been through a lot and have talked about separating so many times, and yet we're still together. We fight almost everyday. whenever he gets a job he tends to focus on his work that he barely has anytime for his family. He comes home angry and doesn't like to be talked to.When ever we have problems he wants us to solve our own problems on on our own and not together. Same with decisions. I want everything to be OK between me and him for the sake of our daughter.I don't know what to do.. please help

2007-09-13 17:16:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Tonight we were driving down the street and my husband noticed a bunch of toddlers (well they looked 3 or 4 years old) playing "pee-wee" football or whatever it's called. He then shouted "Look at those tiny kids playing football!". I said "Mmmm ... hmmm" like I usually would. I didn't feel like stretching my neck to look around (because we were passing them up by that time). He blurted out "You're not gonna be a good parent". I immediately took offense to that. I asked him why and he said because I have no interest in anything. Why, because I didn't burst in excitement when you saw the kids playing football?

Another instance where he does this ALL the time is he will looking at something sports related, historic, or scientific on the computer. He'll call me and tell me to come look at this. It is usually something that I don't care about and I'll say, "That's neat looking". He'll then say "You're not interested in learning about this stuff? If I ask him a question about ...

2007-09-13 17:09:43 · 26 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

I met my wife at work. She was applying to me for a job at my uncles restaurant. I thought she was weird, but after I got to know her (within 30 days) I asked her to marry me, she accepted instantly (which blew my mind) and 16 years, four kids, three dogs and four cats later, I still like her, though I love to complain.

So, where did you meet your husband or wife?

I should add that we've had our problems, but we've survived them.

2007-09-13 17:09:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous