Marriage & Divorce - 13 September 2007

I am 22 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and just can't stop thinking about getting married. we both have talked about marriage now it's just a matter of time til we have the money and we will. He's got to save the money for my ring then he will propose, but I just can't seem to get it off my mind. No matter what i do. I love him so much and just can't wait to start our lives together officially. and live together, wake up to him in the mornings. I mean we practically already act like it, he doesn't stay the night but comes home from work and showers and eats here and we buy groceries together. The only thing he doesn't do is stay the night. so what's my problem? Please help me!

2007-09-13 14:05:37 · 16 answers · asked by supergrl328 1

My husband has a brother that doesn't like me. He feels I'm not good enough. Now that my husband has confided in his brother on some issues we've been having in our marriage, my brother-in-law won't allow me to see his precious daughter (my neice) anymore, nor am I invited to their home. His brother doesn't think our marriage will last, nor does he want it to. He feels if he keeps me at bay, I will just go away. My husband is simply allowing his brother to call the shots while he plays the middleman and stays neutral, but when its just the two of us, he acknowledges to me that his brother is treating me unfairly and he knows I'm hurting...yet he still goes to his brother's house for dinners while I stay at our home alone. He says defending me with his brother will only make his brother dislike me more and create more problems. He feels I should give it time without "make waves" and just hope that his brother will come around. It has been 9 months so far. Is this acceptable

2007-09-13 14:02:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife accused me of having sex with my 22 Y/O daughter which was not true, My daughter is her step daughter and she has always been jealous of her and my relationship. This was reported to the police and I voluntarily took a polygraph test at my expense to prove with 99% accurateness's that this was not the case. I think my wife deliberately lied because of her jealously toward my daughter and I. Also this could have ruined my reputation as well as my business if anyone would have even thought the lie was true. I feel like she was trying to destroy me in every way possible. I don't know why, maybe because I have a high paying business and make as much in a couple of hours as she does in a week. Who knows? All I know is that this is eating at me very badly and I have a lot of anger built up inside of me because of this. My daughter is also angry! What would you do if your spouse falsely accused you of having sex with one of your children? How could anyone ever put this behind them?

2007-09-13 13:55:43 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, my husband and I just got married. Right now, we're in the middle of "wedded bliss", but I'm not naive - I know it won't always be this good. I was wondering if any of you could tell me: What was the toughest part for you after you got married? What things did you and your husband/wife fight about? What was the hardest to adjust to? I'm just wondering. I want to have an idea about the challenges that we'll face later on in our married life. Thanks for your help.

2007-09-13 13:46:06 · 12 answers · asked by SimplyMe 2

We had 4 sons and divorced in 1983. I recieved one check from him and after that I never recieved any more. He claims he finally got all the back support paid off. I was on food stamps and aid for depencent children for afew years then they went to live with him and then a couple of years later returned to me. So I don't know if the state got it and took it to pay for what I was getting from them or if they were suppose to give me part of it or what but I never recieved any of it from them. I lived in the state of Tennessee so where would I be able to find out about if I am owed any of it from the state? He lived and still lives in the state of Alabama.

2007-09-13 13:45:06 · 16 answers · asked by justme 2

He is from Michigan and I am from Illinois...and at first he was all about getting married in my hometown, but now he is telling me he wants to get married in Michigan instead, but I told him it was up to him and it was to be in Illinois where I wanted. It caused a big fight and now he is saying I'm being unfair....Am I? Is it wrong for me to NOT want to get married in michigan?

2007-09-13 13:39:48 · 8 answers · asked by bethv_84 2

My boyfriend of three years decided to move on with his life. We have been in a long distance relationship for a year. He did not tell me he is moving on; however, he is giving some hints. I have been asking (begging) for the truth and reasons. He does not want to tell me. I am upset and heart broken. I am wriing this letter for him. What do you think?

P.S. English is my second langauge.


Hi Hun,

I am sorry to annoy you again. I just want to say "Good Bye" My dream is over and it's time for me to wake up.

I do not angry at you at all. Actually, I want to thank you for everything. Well, I am now going to focus on the future ( work and school). Hopefully, I find someone I really like and be able to open up to him :)

I wish you all the best also. You are a great person. I am sure you will be successful one day. Keep up the good work Hun :)

Thank you,

Me

...................

Thank you so much for your kindness.

2007-09-13 13:34:55 · 18 answers · asked by Hope 4

This is an ongoing saga, if you want to know the full history look @ my previous posts. Can someone please tell me why a guy would do this. I have been going out to see this band for the last year, I have only seen them 5 times. Anyway, one of the band members & I started flirting hardcore. He has come over a couple of times to chat, we have bought each other drinks, but the last time out, he came over @ the end of the night & reached out for a hug. I am ready to ask him out, but I had one of my friends who is a cop, check to see if he is married. And what do you think I found out, Yup married for about 1 year. His band mates have been encouraging us, by making little comments & other things. Why oh why would he not tell me this. I would hope that he's gotten the feeling that I am going to ask him out, what in the hell would he say? The next time I go see the band, what do I do? Do I act the same, do I call him on it, or do I ask him out just to see what he does.

2007-09-13 13:22:58 · 11 answers · asked by sparkels74 2

How are you coping? What was the end result?

2007-09-13 13:17:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Si i met my husband in the army and we got married ...pregnant with twins and planned on getting out so i could take care of my babies...but 2 weeks before i got out they passed away and i was given the option to get out or stay in...well at the time my husband was going from NC to georgia for 5 months to reclass and i was gonna stay in NC cause that was my duty station....so now 2 years later i have a son but my dream was to serve in the military and it was the one thing i was good at and felt very confident doing what i did....well now i regret my decision of getting out and i want back in ..but instead of getting my husbands support he told me that if i go back in that he wont stay with me...what do you guys think?

2007-09-13 13:15:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 23 years old first marriage one year this october, 3 unruly step kids and one child of my own from previous relationship, pregnant with my first son but husband and I agreed adoption. I always wanted a son of my own, I have a 2 year old daughter. Adoption is the better option at this point in our life at the moment. Going through all the adoption process and having 4 other kids and married almost a year my husband and I have drifed apart it seems. We are together in same house raising our kids together as a family, but I miss the connection, its almost like we're roomates kind of. I'm afraid that whatever I say he will misinterpret and make it into a agrument. We do love one another, but neither of us open up to the other as easily as we once did. How would I open the gates of communication again before our marriage falls apart for good?

2007-09-13 13:13:30 · 8 answers · asked by pchristine84 1

My husband works all the time. He works two jobs and I hardly see him. I quit my job a couple of days ago because I didn't like and my husband and I got into a big fight over it. Today, I was offered a new job at a grocery store as a cashier but I don't want to do that. I mean it's hard and it's not what I want to do with my life and my husband and I got into another fight when we do see each other it's what we do. It was our second one in a couple of days, and he keeps calling me selfish and spoiled. I can't help but crying because of it since I only have him right now. My mom's still pissed about me getting married a month ago instead of going off to college as I originally planned. I mean I don't think anyone can blame me for the job thing. I mean who wants to work at a grocery store? Anyway I don't know what to do. I've only been married a month and now I'm really miserable. When we got eloped a month ago it was beautiful and romantic but now I feel horrible. What should I do?

2007-09-13 12:43:34 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 12:16:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

She remembers what happened 10 years ago (Verbatum). I am sure some she makes it up. I just do not know how to combat . If I clam up, I am presumed guilt. and if I reply, then another argument starts. Its lose lose situation
How do other people tackle this?

2007-09-13 12:05:17 · 32 answers · asked by takala 2

What do you do when you have just met someone for two months now and the chemistry is great between the both of you, but she is 31/2 hours away and made it clear that she will not relocate. She has a high position job making a lot of money & has been there for 8 years. I have rental property & I won't relocate, so what do you do?

2007-09-13 12:04:43 · 3 answers · asked by J.J. 1

I had a pretty good time lolol I even allowed him to get a lap dance but out of respect he said no. We had fun! I was wondering if there are others that do this

2007-09-13 11:41:50 · 23 answers · asked by jane d 4

My husband has always been very supportive of his mother. He loves her very much but doesn't like her choices. We've been married two years. We're both college grads and value hard work. His mother has done domestic work for a living and has always had government assistance. My husband expresses his concern to her about her future b/c she doesn't have any $ saved. He offered to help her in bettering herself...job skill training...starting her own cleaning business...$ for education..etc. He was willing to help her help herself. He was very persistent and she refused the help, making excuses about why she couldn't do anything for herself. Also she hasn't worked in awhile. She's in serious financial trouble and blames my husband for not paying it! When he mentions helping her 'help herself' (getting a job) she blows up! She spread lies about us and tries to manipulate and use the 'guilt trip'. We're in our 20's & just starting out. She's 54. Talking hasn't worked. What should we do?

2007-09-13 11:41:39 · 9 answers · asked by a anonymous 1

I decided to put my divorce on hold and give my husband a chance to make things up like he asked Now I have a question about one of the things that I want to ask him to do and I want to know if its too much or if I am right in asking him to do it. What I am wanting to ask him to do is to delete every single female friend out of his cell phone. By that I mean single as not married not every female in his phone.

2007-09-13 11:29:48 · 12 answers · asked by Kimberly M 2

My husband is an alcoholic he has lost his job so now we have lost everything! I cant work because I just delivered a baby besides Im not living with my husband because of his problem. He has a cousin that works for the police dpt and said hes going to force him to join the Army, Im not sure if thats possible, and if it is how will the Army help my husbands problem? Can the Army really help? Im very confused especially now that he lost his job....which of course that was by choice he was given too many chances and he blew each and every single one of them off.

2007-09-13 11:08:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiancee is in the navy. We are seperated right now by a few states. I am having some trust issues. Really bad ones. For reasons that i would rather not go into. But...I know (cause i'm a military member myself) that infidellity and cheating goes on. Whether they get caugt up in the moment (cause they think they wont be found out) or for whatever reason. But she is out of the country right now and i didnt hear from her for like 24 hours. I had to find her hotel room and ask to be transfered. I am not a jealous man by nature. But this navy realtionship has me wondering about the morality of navy personel and the fact that they all tend to cheat. I have been in a marrage that dissolved cause I was cheated on. I know we are not all like that, but...what the hell??? Why cant people be faithful...and why are people that have been cheated on so paranoid of it going on under thier nose. It ruins realtionships, I know...i'm in that situation now. I dont want it to hurt us. I am TERRIFIED!

2007-09-13 11:08:03 · 7 answers · asked by Eric Preece 2

Do Think he did it?

2007-09-13 11:05:15 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why pretend you like sex more than you actually do?
What about being honest?
Or does that not count when it comes to sex?
How many of you have surffered from the marital sexual drought? You know where the wife or husband couldn't get enough before you were married and then after the vow decided they don't like sex as much. Isn't this false advertisement in a way?

2007-09-13 10:45:11 · 13 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

2007-09-13 10:44:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 10:38:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was asked out on a date and of course I declined because I'm married. I wear my wedding ring everyday! Honestly, I don't flirt and I don't wear provocative clothing...Is it that people expect married people to cheat or do these guys just like to see me squirm out of these uncomfortable situations???

2007-09-13 10:38:00 · 14 answers · asked by Violation Notice 6

separated men or divorced men with kids get upset when he is forced to or chooses to pay support to his children? What do you expect? Do you expect his ex wife to suddenly decide that because he now has more kids he does not have to be financially responsible for his first family? Try putting yourself in the ex wife's shoes and see how you would feel.

2007-09-13 10:28:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He signed into his email account and forgot to log out. He just left for Iraq two days ago and we never turn our computer off. So I went in his email with the intent on signing him out, but of course I looked at his emails because I'm snoopy and he hasn't cared about it in the past. Anyway, I saw an email for fling.com claiming that some girl wanted to meet him or be added to his friends list or something. I clicked a link that signed me into his account from the email and he has been talking to multiple girls since the 31st of august...basically he told them that he wanted somebody to have sex with and fool around with before he deployed. He lost his virginity to me and we are a newly wed couple...we are also pretty young. He is only 20....but that is no excuse for his unfaithfulness. This is reason enough to divorce him right? Especially if I print off the pages and show them to a lawyer? I left my family, friends, my education, and my job to be with him and this happens. I'm pissed.

2007-09-13 10:07:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

my stepdad is always hitting me and my little sister and leving bruises.a few days ago i walked into my little sisters room to wake her up and i saw him touching her innapropriately.he threatened to hurt us if i told anyone and i dont want to upset my mom because shes pregnant.we cant go live with our dad because my stepmom doesn't want us there and i dont want my little sister to grow up in a foster home.by the way i'm 15 and shes 4

i could live with my bf-hes 23 but i don't know if that would be a good enviroment for my little sister

2007-09-13 10:04:29 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I fear the day my husband and I ever loose our sex life. I have been with him for 12 years and we are having our third child and he rocks my world!!
I cant believe how good in bed we are together and I wouldnt want to miss one night of bliss.
Please tell me its a myth. Because if it isnt Im on my way out the door right now to buy the entire damn sex shop to bring home lmao!!!

2007-09-13 10:03:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 09:58:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous