Si i met my husband in the army and we got married ...pregnant with twins and planned on getting out so i could take care of my babies...but 2 weeks before i got out they passed away and i was given the option to get out or stay in...well at the time my husband was going from NC to georgia for 5 months to reclass and i was gonna stay in NC cause that was my duty station....so now 2 years later i have a son but my dream was to serve in the military and it was the one thing i was good at and felt very confident doing what i did....well now i regret my decision of getting out and i want back in ..but instead of getting my husbands support he told me that if i go back in that he wont stay with me...what do you guys think?
2007-09-13 13:15:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do what makes you happy!
At the same time though, just because your husband said that he would leave you if you joined the army doesnt make him a "bad person" and it doesnt mean that he doesnt love u either. It could be that he wants a proper home and full-time mother for your child. It could be that he cannot bear the thought of losing you in a war. There could be many reasons why he isnt supporting you ...
You really are the best person to decide this -- think back; has he been/is he a loving husband? Is he a good father to your child?
Anyways, in my opinion, the best thing to do would be to ask him WHY he doesnt want you in the army, and take it from there ... prioritize and see what is more important for u :)
Good luck!
2007-09-13 13:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sci-Buff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you were in the military when you husband met and married you had a set of twins and planned on taking care of your babies two weeks before you got out they passed away.
you was given option to get our or stay in well your husband was going to Georgia for a while, you were gonna stay in NC cause this was your duty, now two years later you have a son
but you always wanted to stay in the military you felt good and confident doing what you did. now your unhappy about your decision and want to return to the military and your husband wont support you he is being very selfless and don't care whether your happy or not. If you go back he wont be with you this is tough so do what makes you hapjjpy why should you give up your happiness for him especially when he wont work with you.
Best of luck
2007-09-13 20:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry also for your loss. Now that you have a new
son you need to think very carefully before you get
back into the service because you already said
that your husband will not stay with you and you
need to think what is best for your son now that
he is in this world. Since you love the military have
you thought about the reserves as you would still
have the military part that you want and still be
with your son more. If you do decide to go back
to active svc then you may loose your husband
and you will definately be away from your son a
lot as your deployments will be many. This is why
you need to think before you act as your love for
military could end up being an un-happy life for
you if things did not work out. Good luck.
2007-09-13 23:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your husband said that he will leave you if you follow your heart into a career that you love, there is a control issue here and you have a decision to make.
2007-09-13 20:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always find another husband; especially in the Army. But self esteem, self respect, those are harder to come by. Sign up, you'll be happier in the long run.
2007-09-13 20:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by morgan j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back in the Army to get your career started again and get a divorce from that guy who said he love you once.
2007-09-13 20:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
only you could decide...and that decision could change your life completely...
you know, i think im nowhere near your age considering your already married, but i want to enter the army too, the airforce really, but i decided to be a medical aid when i saw my younger brother hurt...
i chose the one thing i never thought i'd be...yet im happy because while i'm making my family safe, im also making myself safe for them...
good luck with your decision!! GOD BLESS!
2007-09-13 20:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by khaira_realm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i,m a soldier to, i think that you should come back in if that,s what you want. your husband should be more supportive, he knows that serving your country is a great thing to do.
2007-09-13 20:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by raymond h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off sorry for your loss.
tough situation cause right now you have a kid to take care of. but on the other hand if its something that you feel you cant live without then i say do it...
2007-09-13 20:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all boils down to what you want more...your marriage or the military. That should answer your question.
You are the only one that can answer this question for yourself.
2007-09-13 20:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋