I am 22 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and just can't stop thinking about getting married. we both have talked about marriage now it's just a matter of time til we have the money and we will. He's got to save the money for my ring then he will propose, but I just can't seem to get it off my mind. No matter what i do. I love him so much and just can't wait to start our lives together officially. and live together, wake up to him in the mornings. I mean we practically already act like it, he doesn't stay the night but comes home from work and showers and eats here and we buy groceries together. The only thing he doesn't do is stay the night. so what's my problem? Please help me!
2007-09-13 14:05:37 · 16 answers · asked by supergrl328 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok the ring thing is he wants to buy me this big beautiful ring because he thinks i deserve it so much. we are in the process of paying off debt, my apartment burned down back in march and we got into a bit of debt from it but together we are about $6000 away from paying it off. we just both grew up poor and dont want to live like that.
2007-09-13 14:20:29 · update #1
You're excited. Nothing wrong with that. Marriage is difficult, but it creates a strong sense of security in many ways. Maybe it's that you crave.
What I'd say is this. Every stage of live has great memories. Childhood, teenage years, the "courtship". Don't waste your time thinking about the future or you may miss the present. Enjoy life...it'll be gone before you know it.
There's no reason to rush.
2007-09-13 14:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe your both to young, yet! By the what you say, and how you say it. Only dated a year? and he thinks you deserve a really expensive ring? The type and size of a ring you should get is based on your income! Not your love. because you cant buy love anyway! when all your romantic feelings are tested and tried and the fresh feelings are dim. and you don't sleep with him, and he still sticks around. and both still cant see themselves with any other, then marriage! till then, give it more time.
2007-09-13 22:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by fstmx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first one is between ur ears. ur man has a plan u think
isnt fast enough 4 U. he is respectful and responsible, girl
the man dont get better, hv u gotten laid yet? what ever u do
dont push...second, a marriage is a commitment, do you
work, are U thinking U want Kids now and he doesnt? Talk,
Talk it over, cause rough and good times will come, the more
communication and understanding there is the easier it is to
handle issues together...2bz.
2007-09-13 21:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to play house, and you sort of already doing it. Trust me, marriage is a lot more than waking up together and buying groceries. It's a lot of hard work and commitment.
Wait to get married. Enjoy what's happening right now. This is the fun part.
2007-09-13 21:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you move in together? Anyway, you don't need a ring to get married. In fact, if you don't have a lot of money together, getting a ring is a huge waste of money!! Ask him for a cubic zarconia if you must have a ring and move on with things. If you both can afford to live seperately and on your own, then you can afford to get married.
2007-09-13 21:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're problem? You're in love and ready to make that next step... that's not a bad thing! It's great! Just be patient... it will happen when the timing is right. Waiting is hard... but so worth it in the end.
2007-09-13 21:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by dsc1110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a life of your own. You are building your life around his. You are way to young to even want to get married. You should be having the time of your life. Once you are married it is for the rest of your life. What is the hurry?! You need to find interest of your own, exercise, volunteer, read, movies, friends, so much more!
2007-09-13 21:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by Dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally just wait it out date because its the best and fun loving part! Believe me!! Marriage can really drive you bonkers sometimes :) Hang in there girl and start learning how to cook more your going to need it!
2007-09-13 21:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by l2d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to live in a fairy tale-playing "house"
Get a job, get a career get involved with people more so he doesn't get bored with you... or so you have something more to your life that cooking meals and cleaning house.
2007-09-14 01:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wanted to get married .. the ring would not stop him.. he is just not ready.. not saying he dont love you and dont plan on marrying you... just chill for now and it will happen..
2007-09-13 21:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋