Marriage & Divorce - 15 September 2007

will be filing for divorce soon. do it myself because its cheaper. I would like to know will I have to face the judge if my spouse can't be found? most likely he can't be found because he's house to house. after I file the divorce,how long until I would have to see judge?

how long will they search for my husband?I live in state of CA. I'm hoping it won't be so complicated.we have no kids.I was so dumb and niave to marry someone from out the country!!I hate myself for hurting myself emotionally because I was deeply too head over hills.please someone with info would be great

2007-09-15 22:31:48 · 5 answers · asked by stacey t 1

MARRIED BLISS?

Your eyes meet across a crowded floor
Your heart's a flutter, there is no more
No other lovers, no other beaus
The room is empty but for his one man show
Your word stands still for there is no other
He becomes your life, your friend and lover.
The life you had, went out, had fun
He's now your life, moon, stars & sun
Without him there your world stands still
For him you'd lie, you'd die, you'd kill
He's now the other half of you
You can't exist, what will you do?
"With this ring", you're duly wed
And then he takes you home to bed
For nights of passion and sated bliss
And warm embraces with a tender kiss
Your life's complete, so real the dream
But is this dream quite what it seems?
Within 6 months, there is no kiss
The warm embrace is now a fist
There are no tender, love-filled nights
Just drink-fuelled rows and violent fights
Once what was a loving hug
Has become a thump from a violent thug!

2007-09-15 22:22:50 · 17 answers · asked by CHRISTINE O 4

I am 23 years old male who has had 4 abdominal surgeries.I have been on all drugs even morphine was legally prescribed for me. Now I am healthy and as strong as anyone else. I dont get along with women because my abdomen looks so scary. I look very handsome from outside and girls try to seduce me all the time. I scared the **** out of a girl when I took my shirt off in bed and she left me the same day and my confidence shattered.I will be getting married very soon.I dont know what to say to my future wife about my tummy.I dont want to tell her about it before marriage because i fear she will leave me. Should I go for plastic surgery? Need advice please.

2007-09-15 21:40:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-15 21:30:24 · 9 answers · asked by Nicholas L 1

Tonight was the last and final straw my husband comes into my house around 1:30 am asking where some pliers at, I tell him that he left them in the car which the car had been towed somewhere, so he wanna argue about that and some other bull. I walked away and he said don't walk away from me cause i'll bust you in your head. Knowing that he hit me before and choked me before, I didn't take any chances I called the police to have him escorted out of my home. He took the dress and coat he brought me back. He said he will have the divorce papers in the mail. Should I wait for the divorce papers to come in the mail? Or should I try to talk to a lawyer Monday morning and see what my rights are. I have proof that he has been abusive and I have proof that he committed adultery because they had a child together while we are married. I do everything for the kids, I watch them, we in a stable home, I am about to start college, I don't drink or do any drugs or smoke. I going to look for job.

2007-09-15 21:14:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

can you tell me why a woman who is married and in her.40.s with childern and married make a *** out of her self make a fool out of her self make a *** out of herself .think a guy like me at.17. would want her this tramp did back and thought i was in love with her what a nut case she was she had.4. kids and wasnt all that good. you get my meaning those streach marks on her ws sicking to me but i coouldnt stand her man that.s why i did her . and really couldnt really stand her she proved to me she was a whore. really thinking i wanted her so why do women make a fool. as well whore. out of there marrage.children. and there selves as well knowing this hick from w.va. thinking i was in love with her she.s really silly to think i at.17. would want a person her age . in her.40.s she that whore was oler than my mom i was doing my.2. year missionary work and ran upon this tramp in w.va a real slut. and tramp as well to me . is all older women like this whore .

2007-09-15 20:02:40 · 19 answers · asked by matthew v 3

I was naturally devastated but friends said he was genuinely remorseful as he told me as soon as it happened and said he would do "whatever it takes" to repair the damage. My question is; 'what do you classify as cheating'? Emotionally & physically - a kiss? sleeping with someone else? Would you take him back? Thx for your responses!

2007-09-15 19:45:30 · 24 answers · asked by Help! 1

What do you think? His parents are also cousins and my parents are not related.

2007-09-15 18:42:10 · 5 answers · asked by salia s 1

we have three children we work as much as we can and i now she does more than me and i want to do something for her we dont have a huge budget but i can do something i hope what is somethings you would enjoy

2007-09-15 18:33:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

and we should wait to have sex

she felt upset.
How would you feel if your mate said that to you?

2007-09-15 18:25:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband works nights, 12 hour shifts so he has to sleep all day. He also sleeps all day when he is off. I know he is tired, but i feel neglected. I stay at home with our 6 mo old and take care of all the housework so he can come home and relax. I feel unappreciated and very lonely. When I try to talk to him about it, he gets angry. He says I always try to make him feel bad. All I want is for him to set aside a little time for me on the weekends. I have no family here and no one to talk to. Am I being selfish?

2007-09-15 18:19:06 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

want to know if it's possible to let go of all the hurt and completely trust again. my boyfriend is great, we share a lot in common. problem: we were both blind-sighted in our previous marriages and have a hard time with trust. our relationship is at a stage where we love eachother and want more, but the past hurt has made us scared to move any further. Can our relationship mature without 100% trust? Sometimes I feel it's better to expect the worst so I can never be disappointed. Is that healthy? I want to be with this man, he's the first man that has truly been my friend first and I don't want to lose him or our friendship.

2007-09-15 18:17:51 · 3 answers · asked by shes_marie77 2

2007-09-15 18:15:46 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

My god, all you Top Contributors do is cut and paste long asss answers from Wikipedia or give 7 paragraph advice that ends "talk to a lawyer" or "see a doctor"

STOP IT

2007-09-15 17:57:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am very hurt about it and am against it in my marriage. i dont understand why he does this and am ready to divorce him for this and other things he has done in the passed. i feel that i have given up on trying to work it out when all he does is screw up.

2007-09-15 17:26:37 · 18 answers · asked by elizabeth c 1

should i leave him alone, or keep seeing him, i'm in love with him. he said that he was not happy with his wife, the only time he's happy is when we see each other.we live 5hr away from each other. tell me. i do not know what to do.

2007-09-15 17:26:08 · 39 answers · asked by fatkat 1

We have been married for 3 1/2 years, and right after we were married I found out I was pregnant. During the time I was pregnant my husband worked maybe a couple of months, and some of the time he was actually lieing about going to work. The whole time we have been married he has bounced around from job to job leaving us far in debt, without food many times in the house, and evicted from three different homes. After three years I would think something would change, he is not a cheater and loves me very much but I could not deal with the stress. We have been split up for the last month and a half and I am working on getting the divorce, meanwhile living with my mother in law. This is a very difficult situation, as I am seeing someone that I work with. I like this person very much and I often go see him overnight....my mother in law always makes comments about this situation and how wrong I am because I'm technically still married. I need advice and words of wisdom?

2007-09-15 17:20:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last year, I accidently found out my new husband had been "using "porn secretly quite a bit. We had been very active sexually, and I was very happy. I can't get over the feeling that there must be something wrong with me for this to be necessary. I guess I haven't had too much experience with other men to feel confident, because this has distroyed my self confidence as a woman. We did alot of fun stuff sexually, and I am attractive, I think. What is the solution?

2007-09-15 16:42:19 · 26 answers · asked by Skye7112 2

Ok here is the deal...my husband has been working out of town for the past couple of months..he is maybe home a day or two every week if he is lucky. I am home with our 3 kids ( all boys) 11, 3 ,and 3 months old. My birthday is next week and I would like to go spend that night up there with him, he is about 4 1/2 hrs away. I ask him about it and he says NO WAY..he doesn't want me up there at his job.Well first of all I would not be at his "job".... I would be at the hotel where he is staying and I would love to have a break from the kids. The reason he gave me was he did not mix business with family....some lame excuse. I really DO NOT know what to think about it. I mean he constantly tells me of the other guys cheating on their wives and girlfriends while they are working up there. SO if you were me would you go on up there even though he has said NOT TO and surprise him? or should I go up there and "OBSERVE" what is going on or should I JUST STAY HOME? I need some advice. WWYD?

2007-09-15 16:16:19 · 56 answers · asked by Suzie Q 2

Here goes the story: two average-joes meet. Decide they should date and eventually they end up getting married! All is well because they are both HEALTHY and NORMAL people. Neither one gambles, does drugs, beats up the other, sleeps around, habitually lies, has had a sex change, or engages in any such DRAMA! In fact, they are both very mature and giving. Furthermore, John and Jane Doe are very responcible individuals. Each one has a college degree with each one having a decent income. I must EMPHASIZE that John Doe is brilliant and has a history of making accute judgement calls throughout his life. Yet, his marriage failed. If anyone out there, male or female can relate to this story, please tell me about it. PLEASE include DETAILS about what went wrong with your marriage AND why did you overlook the discrepancy until later. Especially since their engagement was 16 months long thereby giving plenty of time to iron out the wrinkles [children, finances, etc.] or so you would think.

2007-09-15 16:15:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a local cafe owner, and the Germans are threatening to shoot me if I don't secretly hide some valuable stolen paintings in my basement.
The Resistance is using my cafe as a safe house for shot down British airmen, and I'm also trying to keep my passionate love affairs with the cafe girls a secret from my wife.

I need help.

2007-09-15 16:07:21 · 13 answers · asked by Lonewolf 4

2007-09-15 15:43:00 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son (11) made a new friend and went to his home for the first time tonight.His parents took them out for pizza and (we live in a community where illegal imigrants are a majority) and this boys dad said those damn mexicans will always be failures.Now my son whom is biracial (father is an american born chicano and I am white) and is clearly very dark complected was offended by this mans comment, he felt that this man had some nerve to say that in front of him. I agree that this mans comment was very wrong to say no matter who was present.But I do not know if this mans comment was intended to hurt my son personally, my son did not say anything to him, but when he got home he let me know that it hurt his feelings. I guess what I want to know is this situation something I should step in on to make sure that my son is not being mistreated while in the care of this man. Or should I let it blow by, maybe he did not think it would offend my son when he said it because he is not mexican.??

2007-09-15 15:12:53 · 47 answers · asked by curious 2

2007-09-15 15:12:51 · 33 answers · asked by nana 1

I love my exboyfreind so much and i had deep feelings for him he was my first in many things and i can see in his eyes that he loves me too but i dont know if he really loves me like i love him sometimes i let my mind get in the way of my relationship and i think too much we still make eye contact and stuff and still talk but i cant stand that hes with another girl and i dont want any body else but him because i cant see myself in any bodys else arms and nobody will treat me like he did he knew all the rihg things to a girl and now hes with somebody else and i want to tell him how i feel but i cant cause i just freez and talk about something else and everytime he talks i just smile and everywhere i go im always thinking of him ive been with him for three years and im in love now and i cant see myself without him its like im addicted to him hes like my drug i have to have him with me i just cant explain how much i love him so please help me i need help i just cant forget about him

2007-09-15 15:07:26 · 11 answers · asked by patricia c 1

I have a problem. I fell in love with a married man. We have had oral sex and I love his D. I tried telling his wife but she just laughed and said as long as she gets his check she don't care. So how do I get them to break up?

2007-09-15 15:04:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

At same time, he don't know if I exist around the house or not dang it. Yes I have talked to him in a calm and decent way, and he just don't get it. I'm running out of patience here with this man. Been married to him for 7yrs, I have no kids with him, we have our own from diff. marriages, my youngest is 14 yrs old and his is 18 (his still living at home), total, he has 3 girls and a boy from other two previous marriages, only the boy is living with us, and I have 2 boy and girl at home. Its been hard for both. I don't know what else to do to pay attention to me, we hardly talk, and if we do, always disagree and end up arguing.

2007-09-15 14:54:17 · 5 answers · asked by Frania727 1

signed anything (he wasn't aware of this), and now she stopped making the payments. I do have an account in the same bank, and Im worried they take my money out to pay my husband's ex-wife account...Could they do this???
Can they take my money out even though my husband is not in my account? we are legally married and they were not, and my address is the same she used in the joint account.

2007-09-15 14:46:44 · 17 answers · asked by Laila. McCarthy 2

2007-09-15 14:37:36 · 36 answers · asked by suharris1262 2

I have been in a long abusive relationship. I let my Husband beat me badly and hit our three month old baby in head. We have been separted for senven month now. I miss him dearly so do the children. He says he has changed. I talked to him on the phone the other day. He yelled at me and talked about me so bad I knew if we were face to face, he would have beat me. What do I do DO I let him come back try it again or get a divorce. We have tried cousoling twice we never had more than two sessions. I need some help some support some advice. From men and women please!!

2007-09-15 14:35:13 · 58 answers · asked by WHY ME 1