Marriage & Divorce - 15 September 2007

My husband is trying out for a thing in the military in another state and he will be returning soon. He has been gone for 1 month and I want to do something special for him upon his return home. He will have gone through some hard times physically and mentally and I want him to come home to something nice and relaxing, but special. Candlelite dinners and movies are boring. I thought about buying a sexy costume and dressing up for him, but I would have to go and pick him up from the airport, so I may or may not do that. (Especially dressed like a french maid!) I need to do something super creative and something to blow his mind away and say WOW, that was special. Can anyone shoot me some ideas? Thanks:)

2007-09-15 09:58:01 · 5 answers · asked by jtlip2002 1

I live in Scotland and my mate is at the end of her tether with her wee boy- 21 year old layabout! He has not worked in the past year and continually puts pressure on her to feed, clothe and taxi him around. He paid her one month's rent almost a year ago and since, has had his mates make sure he enjoys nights out and mobile phone comforts. My mate is working all week to pay back rent arrears that were incurred when he decided to become a sponger.Does she have a legal leg to stand on if she throws him out?? Does she need police back up??She loves him dearly, but he is dragging her down and she is getting utterly desperate.Where does she stand legally if she packs his bags and tells him to go? He can throw the biggest, scariest wobbly when she tries to reason with him about the lack of contributions towards his upkeep. I'm concerned that he may try to give her a thump!! Can anybody help? Cheers.

2007-09-15 09:57:21 · 20 answers · asked by Angela M 7

We have been separated for over two years now. He's currently in the Army, and pays child support for our daughter. Right now I am pregnant(due next month), and dont work. I dont know anything about this kind of stuff, someone just told me that i could try. But thats just it....I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! Please Help!

2007-09-15 09:54:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wifes breath smells like she used diarreah for mouthwash and her b.o. makes my eyes water. I keep avoiding sex because I cant get wood under these circumstances. Our marriage is suffering, should I file?

2007-09-15 09:52:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

He generally does not have a foul mouth and loves me and says I'm the perfect woman for him etc etc etc, but during a fight and in a fit of anger he called me this. I can't seem to get over it. Bit++, I could get over, but not this......what is the general consensus from woman regarding this?

2007-09-15 09:47:44 · 27 answers · asked by Rachel☺ 5

My wife and I have been unhappy for a while now. We have really been fighting hard for the past few months. The past 2 weeks have been really bad. We work some things out, but not all. Still a lot on the table. We dicussed divorce, but never wanted that to be an option, but it is on the table. We decided to take a break for a week because we couldnt help but to bring things up everytime we see each other. So I went to a hotel for a week. I am back home now and found out she opened her own bank account without me knowing. What should I think?

2007-09-15 09:43:44 · 14 answers · asked by Steve W 1

My boyfriend whom I have been with for a year now with a lot of ups and downs, told me, over dinner:
'Do you know that you are my love? Our relationship has changed drastically and I now feel very confident about it. Before that, YOU were unsure about your feelings. NOW you are sure, and I am sure...'
I was a bit taken aback because I did not feel like entering a serious convo! So I just smiled to him...
Does he mean that we are getting serious? Any input? Thanks in advance...
I must add something here: he DID ask me to marry him several times, but that was 6 months ago. At the time, I laughed a little, not acknowledging his proposal.
Then we broke up, my fault again. When he came back to me, and that was about 3 months ago, we both made an effort to be nice to each other; BUT, he did not mention 'marriage' again.
Any input please ? Many thanks in advance...

2007-09-15 09:41:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am very confused about this whole divorce & custody issue. The man I am trying to see is divorced, has been that way for over 2 years, he is now in a custody battle between his ex-wife to get more access to his children - right now he can't take them out of the city, and only sees them with it is covenant for his ex-wife.

Now my confusion starts with wanting to have this relationship, but getting mixed signals from him ... one day we can be getting hot & heavy and the next day he's cold as ice towards me.... I don't know if he's been advised by his lawyer not to date someone right now, or if he has chosen that himself. I know this custody thing is taking allot out of him - emotionally, mentally, and financially, but what am I suppose to do?

Should I take a step back, and wait for things to calm down with the custody of his kids, and let him make the next move with this relationship? Or should I still be around, but in a less active nature?

2007-09-15 09:22:20 · 15 answers · asked by very_confussed 1

It is my B-Day today and I am 27. I have 2 daughters,one is 10,the other 3. I left my hubby 9 months ago because his drinking was taking over all of our lives. He decided he didn't want to change for me or the girls so I have no choice but to divorce him.(I don't want to get in it cause it is a long story)Anyway,I am so upset with myself because I have nothing to my name and I am not getting any younger. I don't even have a Ged. I work at a grocery store and all these young kids are going off to school and it just makes me upset because I feel like my life is going nowhere. Has anyone out there gone through a situation like mine? I feel like my Birthday is a big slap in the face.

2007-09-15 09:16:11 · 13 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1

My husband and I have been going through alot of crap the past 12wks. In my original question I explained the situation in depth but to make a long story short, a "friend" of his (female and very jealous) told him I had cheated on him 2yrs ago (lie). He packed up, left his job and has been running ever since. He said it was all his fault anyway. (The night in question he left me, angry, didn't call and came home later the next day). Then for the next 6 wks or so he would just disappear and then show back up at his moms house. Finally, he gave me a chance and we are working thru things. But, he has been going back and forth to IN to work(???) When he came home two nights ago, there were txt msg to 2 #'s saying "I want to f*** with you" and "Is it too early to come make you breakfast?" He says he let his friend use his phone. This does sound like his "friend". My husband DOES NOT cook. But I am having doubts because the #'s were saved in the phone. Why wouldn't he just erase it all???

2007-09-15 09:15:24 · 9 answers · asked by TNT05 2

If prostituition brings crime down n men are happier doesnt everyone profit,money can go to state to help with whatever ,rape goes down molestation goes down loners stay happily lonely n hurt no one not even themselfs n they get laid,last competition to get the best women n sum women even lose thier fake royaltyness n become less selective or more many things can come from this ?

2007-09-15 09:15:05 · 9 answers · asked by latinoheat69 1

Let me add to my heading, I work full time as well. I'm not a full time student who has a husband who supports him. I'm also the bread winner as I make more money than my husband.

2007-09-15 09:12:50 · 8 answers · asked by Breezy 1

My bf just said that to me...confuses me....what does he mean?plssss help!!!

2007-09-15 09:08:49 · 18 answers · asked by MiMi 1

I already changed my licencse...and am going to Social Security on monday...what else do I have to do?

2007-09-15 09:04:47 · 13 answers · asked by MsBabyPhat 3

2007-09-15 08:47:28 · 21 answers · asked by meatman1559 2

After we got married, he stopped wanting to have sex. We haven't had sex in over a year. But he will "do his thing" on his own 3-4 times a week. What should I think about this? He doesn't even want to have any physical contact with me.

2007-09-15 08:45:49 · 17 answers · asked by Girly 2

2007-09-15 08:11:22 · 11 answers · asked by shorty 1

My husband of 10 years, with whom i have 2 children, ignores my son of a previous marriage who lives with us. They dont speak at all and wont sit in the same room. Im torn between the 2. What do I do?

2007-09-15 07:50:17 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

We're going to start marriage counseling sessions in a few months, but what sort of things should we discuss now? We really want to make sure we're focusing on our marriage not just a wedding.

Thanks!

2007-09-15 07:42:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I broke up with my ex about 7 months ago and my son lives at his house, cause I live in an apartment and want my son to have a house...I see him daily though so Im always there...he will be 3 in december..the thing is m not in love with his dad nor do I have any romantic feelings for him, but I dont want my son to hate me either later in life...what should I do, I shoudl also say Iam currently with a great guy who i do love, but I am worried about my kid.

2007-09-15 07:11:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-15 06:55:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My gf and i are thinking about getting married. She is just fine for me, but there is a thing that bothers me. She is more experienced in sex than me (yes, she is 2 years older than me either) and I really hate that. It’s a male stuff, i don’t know. Yes, i know that only love matters, etc, but i can't control this feeling. Will i ever get over that? Are there any other cases that ended well?

2007-09-15 06:53:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

to hit a guy in the "family jewels"? didnt your mother tell you do that? have you ever done it before?

2007-09-15 06:48:08 · 30 answers · asked by Jane 1

Got w/a girl almost 4yrs ago. Had lots of fun, and hard times. She's upbeat, very affectionet, loved haning out like one of the guys, loved being with me, began to learn to be a mom after the kid was already 6yrs, knew how to take advantage of situations. I fell in love, and found myself swallowing things I know I didn't like in a girl. She always had my back, and I had hers, it kept our bond strong. It seemed like everytime there was peace, she, her family, or something from her past would disturb it. Strong attitude, this was good for some things, bad for others, irresponsible with money, lied to get things her way. Married the girl a few months ago, found out she hung out w/a guy from work while I was at work, she swore nothing happened but couldn't get it out of my heart, time passed. Found she had been talking to an ex 4 almost a yr, tried to lie about that too. Finally got her to admit that slept w/the guy from work she hung out with. Found out recently she's having my baby.

2007-09-15 06:44:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Nice question ehh?

2007-09-15 06:23:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am a soldier serving in iraq i have only been married since march my wife has done nothing to my family whatso ever.in fact she is the kindest person i have ever met

2007-09-15 06:23:05 · 19 answers · asked by SHEP 1

My husband and I are separated, but we just had our first child together. So far we've been pretty amicable, he's a good father so far and I try to give him as much time with our son as I possibly can. Now he says he wants to try again. Part of me wants to, but the rest of me just can't forget that he cheated on me, didn't show up for the birth of our son (even though it was his day off and he lives 10 min. from the hospital...he works at the hospital!), was always financially irresponsible, and lies constantly. He says he wants to change and that he feels I can help him lead a better life, my problem is that as much as I want to believe he will change I don't really think he can.

2007-09-15 06:04:05 · 16 answers · asked by CJ 1

Touch, Gifts, Affirmation, Cyber*** What?*

2007-09-15 06:03:37 · 4 answers · asked by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7

I'm a new stay at home mom, and husband is very busy with work. I feel like all I do is take care of the baby and the rest of my energy goes to doing little things to keep his spirits up since work is so crazy. He always says "I always tell you how great you look after the baby etc." but how do I get him to understand that I don't want to hear that I look good, I want him to take the time to do someting special for me like I do for him (without hurting his feeilngs....)

2007-09-15 06:03:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are some thing you would mention to sell yourself for a date.....
example: Goodlooking charming guy looking for Fun.......

2007-09-15 05:21:11 · 8 answers · asked by Mindi 2