How/Can I recieve spousal support from my husband?

Question

We have been separated for over two years now. He's currently in the Army, and pays child support for our daughter. Right now I am pregnant(due next month), and dont work. I dont know anything about this kind of stuff, someone just told me that i could try. But thats just it....I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! Please Help!

We have been separated for over two years now, next month will be 3. He's currently in the Army, and pays child support for our daughter. Right now I am pregnant(due next month), and dont work. I dont know anything about this kind of stuff, someone just told me that i could try. But thats just it....I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! Please Help!

And no, I am not pregnant with his baby.

AND **** ALL YALL WHO THINK I'M LAZY!!! YALL DONT KNOW **** ABOUT ME AND WUT I GO THROUGH!

Answer 1

get the father of the baby thats due to pay you child surpport, not your ex partners problem.

Answer 2

Here is what I think and you will have to check some things out by calling the public aid office in your county.
If you were working when you both seperated, you may not get anything.
I don't think you can go back to court, but then again, if you aren't divorced, call the circuit clerks office in the county you were married and support for daughter was set. They should be able to help direct you. They just can't give legal advise.
Oh, since my daughter's father is activated and I needed help, you can also contact your Attorney General. They won't do anything for you, but can give legal advice. The attorney General will work with Public Aid. I myself am on the medical card and my daughters child support i went through The State Child Support enforcement agency. You can try these people. They should be able to give you some insight. Especially the Attorney General. Good Luck to ya. Be prepared though to be asked are not currently working because of a situation of you being pregnant. That may put a huge damper on getting spousal support. Always think the worst case senario, not trying to be mean. Just saying that if you do, you can't be shot any lower than you feel right now. If something good comes from it, then great. Remember, if you aren't working because you are having a hard time with your pregnancy, Seek help from the father of your new and upcomming baby. If this is possible. Don't go after the Military father for something that has nothing to do with him. He has enough to worry about over seas. And wondering if he will ever see his baby girl again, I'm sure is at the top of his list. Go seek help from the public aid office first. Second should be your new baby's daddy (if possible). There is always a way, you may just have to spend extra time trying to find it.

Answer 3

I have no idea what you have been through but I'm pretty sure that it drove you into the arms of another man. Unfortunately, you have proven yourself to be an adulterous spouse, simply by getting pregnant with another man's child and the military will fight you tooth and nail over that one issue alone. You need to get your life in order. Ask for a divorce, ask for temporary spousal support, expect that it won't be given if you have not been married for at least 10 years and most likely because you have proven yourself unworthy of support. By the way, I was told that the military can take action on behalf of the soldier and might be able to take away things that you have such as your child. I'm not positive about that but I would make sure before asking for this spousal support. Your best bet would be to quietly get out of the marriage without requesting spousal support.

I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just telling you the facts, you have created more problems for yourself than you would have if you had simply gotten a divorce first. Meanwhile, you need to find out what this other man is going to do about the child that you both have created. If he is not willing to take responsibility then you need to get the Attorney General involved as soon as the child is born so that you get child support for this new baby. The Attorney General would be a good idea for your first child after your divorce as they take the support directly from his pay.

Good luck!!! Things will get better. Try to think positively and be happy for your children's sake and yours. Then get out there and find a job, even if it is only parttime first. Your self-esteem will improve when you are able to support yourself and your children.

Answer 4

I'm guessing that it will be difficult to get support from him for a baby that is not his. Why would that make sense to you? He's a fine man in my opinon if he pays support for the daughter you have together. Try not to harm the relationship you have with this man by trying to con him out of money - and that is what you would be trying to do.
There may be a backlash of opinion here saying that you are lazy and you're right; they don't know what you are going through. A better question is - where is the father of the child you are carrying now? He should step up to the plate and help you through your divorce, marry you, and be the father he needs to be to your child and the husband you need him to be.
Somehow, your desperation in trying to get money from someone who did not get you pregnant this time tells me you made a huge mistake screwing around with the wrong guy. I do sympathize. But now you have to be a responsible parent and it looks like you'll have to do it on your own. I really am sorry.
Perhaps your family can help you try to cope with this new situation.

Answer 5

If you have been separated for over two years and he pays child support for HIS child and now you are pregnant with another man's child, why WOULD you want him to pay spousal support? That's just wrong! Obviously you are or have been sleeping with someone else, so why should he have to pay. I am a woman and sometimes I am embarrassed for our gender that they feel like a man owes them something forever! Get out and get you a job or some kind of assistance or better yet, get the new baby's daddy to pay support. But don't expect a man who is serving our country and supporting his child to support you sleeping around and getting pregnant by another man. Geesh, call Jerry Springer and see if he can help.

Answer 6

You need to find a divorce attorney and give him the details.. If the marriage is under 10 years at least in NJ, usually it's hard to get spousal support.. And is this his child you are now pregnant with? If not, then another person is involved in your life and that may or may not be another fly in the ointment.. You can try for support as well as the child support.. Many attorneys give free consultations.. Don't grab the 1st one tho.. Check out a few.. I got a crappy one in my divorce and I'm still battling it out with the ex about alimony after 10 years! If you are living with another man, you most likely can forget the alimony since the court would look at it as he is supporting you. If you're alone, you might have a shot.. Check with an attorney about your rights.. Good Luck

Answer 7

are you still legially married? I am in the Army and currently in Iraq. Don't worry about spousal support, just get the divorce and move on. It's been almost three years. Marry the baby father, and be happy. Be happy that he's paying child support. But if you are lazy and greedy and you don't work, hire an attorney who has dealt with the military, because you will be entitled to more if he does his research.

Answer 8

Your husband has probably been receiving money for his dependants. This money is rightfully yours. It is not your fault you are not living together. However start by talking with his commander or first sergeant and asking why you havent been receiving spousal benefits since he is married. If the amount he receives is the same as he sends your daughter then your up crappers creek. My question is why would you want him to pay for your lifestyle. Evidently you have moved on to other relationships. As long as he is paying for your daughter you can not expect anyone to assist you in taking the man for more money. Ask the baby's dad for assistance or are you going to try and stick him with that. I can tell you that if I was his First Sergeant and you came to me with what you just said I would tell you that the military will assure child support but since you have evidently moved on with your life... you need to consider working or filing for assistance. Basically what I am saying is...You have to deserve spousal support and that is not an evident factor right now. Now if he would have gotten you pregnant...girl you could have cleaned house.

Answer 9

you will not be eligible for spousal support because you have been taking care of yourself for two years now and you are pregnant with someone else child, get child support from him and you get a job to support yourself. how do you figure that you even deserve spousal support. stop having babies and get a job that is bringing in money vs. taking money away. (baby). you need to stop trying to get over on uncle sam. and if ex has a mind he should contest any papers ordering him to pay you anything but support for the child. GET A JOB. GodBless

Answer 10

Get a free lawyer, go to the county office and ask for free or low cost lawyers. Spousal support will depend on the lenght of your marriage, your age, your skills, and a lot of other stuff. You could get at least temporary spousal support with the purpose of you reintegrating into the laboral work force in a few months.

Answer 11

Unless you are totally disabled you're not going to get spousal support. A separation is not a disillusionment of marriage so there is no reason for you to even file for it, you're STILL married...and since you're pregnant with a child not his the Army is going to fight you getting spousal support based upon that. I suggest you get off your lazy butt and get a job, the only one deserving of support is your daughter.