Wife, mother, student?

Question

Let me add to my heading, I work full time as well. I'm not a full time student who has a husband who supports him. I'm also the bread winner as I make more money than my husband.

I think my husband is intimidated/jealous of the fact that I'm in school. In two years, I will have a paralegal degree, criminal justice degree with a minor in psychology. I will further my career with law school. He doesn't ask about my schooling, he doesn't seem interested when I bring it up. And when I do talk about it, he'll change the subject. My kids on the other hand think it's the best thing. I love my husband but I can't understand what the problem is with him. When I met him I was going to school which is what he claims attracted him. Now we are married and I think he is thinking differently. I ask him and he says that's not it at all but actions speak louder than words.

Answer 1

And your question is?

Answer 2

Most men want a wife that makes her children a priority. Schooling and a professional life is only important to him if you are struggling financially. If you're well off, he doesn't see why you feel the need to undermine what he's doing by working.

It's great to have this under your belt, for when the kids grow up and move out of the house or if you get divorced or end up widowed. In that way, it will allow you to achieve an income that will match what he's provided for you.

Talk to him about his concerns and see if there is any reason why he might feel not as good about your decision. You might be surprised at the answer.

Answer 3

Breezy sounds like you are a busy woman. If your looking for some positive reinforcement then here it is. You are doing a wonderful job at wearing all the hats that you are responsible to wear. Sounds like you should be very proud of your accomplishments but you also need to realize that you are not alone. There are many others of both sexes who are doing just as you are. Hope that your husband helps around the house and with the kids as you must need the help. Uncertain if your bragging or complaining but regardless you have a full plate and should be praised for your efforts.

Answer 4

I guess your question is WHY? Well, maybe he's jealous of your accomplishments. Men have a fragile ego remember and all that you do probably makes him look small. But don't back down, it's something he will have to get over. Just try reassuring him that you are doing all of this for the family. Try doing things or letting him do things that will boost his ego and make him feel more important. If you really love him you need to try everything to change the way he looks at the whole thing.

Answer 5

I guess you will be more qualified than him and he would be jealous because of that. I feel this is wrong but some people think this way. Try helping him do something to make him feel he's also improving. There is a great self development organization called toastmasters (for public speaking and leadership). They have clubs everywhere. Let him attend one of their meetings as a guest, then he might join. They offer you certificates once you finish one of their manuals.

Use the link below to locate a club near you.

Answer 6

Perhaps it is something like this ....... He was attracted to you when he meant you and you were in school. That was all fine and dandy. ( hummmm a smart woman her ) and now it is like damn!!! How many degrees does she need. She has proven herself countless times in countless ways. Enough is enough already. How pieces of paper do you feel that you need to through in my face to make your point.
Or perhaps not.

Answer 7

And so? If you are waiting for that pat on the back, you'll have to do it yourself. Woman always work themselves to death for their families, its what we do. Welcome to the club.

Answer 8

what are you asking?