My husband and I have been going through alot of crap the past 12wks. In my original question I explained the situation in depth but to make a long story short, a "friend" of his (female and very jealous) told him I had cheated on him 2yrs ago (lie). He packed up, left his job and has been running ever since. He said it was all his fault anyway. (The night in question he left me, angry, didn't call and came home later the next day). Then for the next 6 wks or so he would just disappear and then show back up at his moms house. Finally, he gave me a chance and we are working thru things. But, he has been going back and forth to IN to work(???) When he came home two nights ago, there were txt msg to 2 #'s saying "I want to f*** with you" and "Is it too early to come make you breakfast?" He says he let his friend use his phone. This does sound like his "friend". My husband DOES NOT cook. But I am having doubts because the #'s were saved in the phone. Why wouldn't he just erase it all???
2007-09-15 09:15:24 · 9 answers · asked by TNT05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HMM, Some friend if its not true. What a good one if it is. Sad he left his job because of this. Why would he be going in to work if he left his job. Please specify what you mean. If you guys are trying to fix the relationship then both you and him need to cut off all ties from ones who are trying to ruin that from happening. You both need support and especially from one another. Ask him why he did not erase things. Try to talk with him without accusing him. Have faith in him. You two need to spend time with one another talking and giving 300% into the relationship. It takes time to heal a broken relationship and hard to do if not both of you are trying to. If you love one another and want to be together than work on it and it will be. Follow your heart. He may have been hurt and found someone on the rebound, I don't know just be as honest, kind and loving as you can be without forgetting to acknowledge the damage that has been done.
2007-09-15 09:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 21:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he is making up a lie on u to justify his behavior, and his own cheating on u. the text messages were from her, the woman who made up the lie on u, she is probably having an affair with him. sometimes people will place blame and tell lies on the innocent party just to justify what they are doing. the person who does the accusing is usually the cheater, if he was angry and hurt when he believed u cheated wouldn't he want to hear your side of the story? and wouldn't he check it out to make sure it were true? he did not erase it because he didn't think u would see it or maybe he wants u to see it so u will file for divorce.
2007-09-15 10:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? This situation sounds very troubled with lots of mistrust she said this, lies.... maybe cheating... text messages... who's telling the truth....what?
I suggest you make an appointment for marriage counselling if you guys are sincere in saving this relationship....
Your relationship needs trust in order for each of you to belong to this marriage. Right now it sounds like a boyfriend girlfriend arrangement.
Good luck
2007-09-15 09:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Say 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go to theripy to gether do stuff to gether together the only way is to talk about it some people even leave letter when they leave that helps go out to dinner well if you want him back you have to make it work you cant change him you just have to do what you can just try to help go to a aduld store or somthing make the spark work well hope this helps wear somthing diffrent color your hair do sothing make your self feel good bye
2007-09-15 09:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by chrissibug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your husband.explain the things with open mind.if his female friend is a bad girl.make clear him that point.make sure his all doubts a clear.all the best.if you both have a any common and trustful friend try true that friend with talk your husband.
2007-09-15 09:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by moon walker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd bail out. If he loved you to begin with he would of let you explain, not just bail out as soon as someone said something.
2007-09-15 13:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him that during your next marriage counseling session. And by the way, you want to secure a lawyer.
2007-09-15 09:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is all because he has found someone new. just get out now.
2007-09-15 09:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋