My bf just said that to me...confuses me....what does he mean?plssss help!!!
2007-09-15 09:08:49 · 18 answers · asked by MiMi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He also said that he hopes that our relationship is a relationship that can grow...
2007-09-15 09:19:45 · update #1
I feel strangely about him...ive never felt about anyone else like i feel about him...i feel that i become blind about his not so great looks in others eyes..i find him really cute...used to think that its impossible for me to go out with a guy like him, but he just comepletely got me in no time...i was so amazed and surprised by myself as well...
he says he loves me very often...and we are sexually exclusive...when we were having this conversation about fedality, he said he thinks hes treated me well enough for me not to look at other guys, and he thinks that im enough for him as well...
2007-09-15 09:58:20 · update #2
Oh, and we've been seeing each other for almost ...2 months
2007-09-15 10:06:34 · update #3
HE LOVES YOU AS A FRIEND BUT NOT A GIRL FRIEND. RED FLAG GIRL!!!!!!!!
2007-09-15 09:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ LINDA ♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greetings!
He's simply voicing the confusion that most people have about "love".
Simple translation: "I love you enough to keep you around because there's some benefit to me. I'm not 'in love with you' enough to make a commitment to you or change in the way you want me to."
Typically, when people say "I'm in love with you", they're describing that "giddy" feeling of lust, desire, etc... Think of eating chewing gum. "In love with you" is the sweet taste of the sugar when you first start eating the gum. As the sugar taste wears off, all you're left with is gum. Chewing gum without the sugar is just "work" for some people. That's the "love" part - still being engaged when the "giddy" is gone.
If he's not in it for the long haul, then it may be best for you to cut your losses now and move on.
I wish you Peace.
2007-09-15 09:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I disagree with every person who has answered so far. Just because he isn't in love with you, doesn't mean he can't fall in love with you later.You fall in love with someone, after knowing them and making a huge connection with them. He could just like you A LOT, but he's not in love with you yet.
Why is that so hard for the others who responded to understand?
If you trust him, believes he cares about and you feel he is honest, what's the rush to fall in love??
You didn't mention how you felt about him, do you like him, do you love him or are you in love with him?
2007-09-15 09:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's Playing Games....Hard to Get! THat is one of the Oldest Tricks in the Books. >>>He wants to Make you think He doesn't want to be committed and That He NEEDS TO BE SURE! THAT IS HOG-WASH. You Need to "play" HIs silly game right back....(If you are going to keep him around) TELL HIM, "YOU KNOW WHAT? THAT IS JUST HOW I FEEL TOO!" (smile) It works every time.) I DARE YOU! THEN SHOW HIM.
2007-09-15 09:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means that he's not making a commitment. If you are sleeping with him, why should he? You are the one giving the message that you aren't good enough for more.
2007-09-15 09:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though he is leaving the door open for other opportunity's that he may take advantage of.
2007-09-15 09:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you like a human being. he would not like to see you hurt.. he wants the best for you. he loves u like a child..brother/sister. but he is not in love with you as woman.. or soul mate. not to the point of a committment.
2007-09-15 09:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he cares very much for you and he didn't want to hurt your feelings. It'll take more time for him feel comfy saying that!
2007-09-15 09:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie TTC#1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's keeping you on the string while he waits for someone to fall in love with - maybe you, but maybe not.
2007-09-15 09:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you started dating maybe he just means he doesnt know you well enough 2 fully love you
2007-09-15 09:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by shybluesky ( : 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol that doesn't make sense :D Out of all the excuses...x_x?
But that's male for "I want to break up" or "I'm not ready." Not ready for a commitment yet.
2007-09-15 09:11:04 · answer #11 · answered by Victoria the Viking 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋