My gf and i are thinking about getting married. She is just fine for me, but there is a thing that bothers me. She is more experienced in sex than me (yes, she is 2 years older than me either) and I really hate that. It’s a male stuff, i don’t know. Yes, i know that only love matters, etc, but i can't control this feeling. Will i ever get over that? Are there any other cases that ended well?
2007-09-15 06:53:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is difficult knowing that your future wife has had numerous partners before meeting you. I am sure you have too. The key is if she is going to be faithful or not or if you are faithful or not. If it is a big issue for you now it may resurface during the marriage knowing that she has shared herself with others and didn't save it for just you. Now you see why sex before marriage can be a problem.
2007-09-15 07:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 35, my husband is 33. When we first started dating, we figured out that I am well a lot more experienced than he was. I was honest about it up front, I didn't exchange numbers or names of previous boyfriends or anything, just honestly, I'm been dating for a long time. He does have an issue if we run into someone I use to date, and someone (usually one of our guy friends) brings it up then it makes him a little uncomfortable, but I've always told him this, I didn't meet him until I was almost 30, I have a past, just like him, and I will not apologize for it, and I don't expect him to apologize for any of his past either. Its a past for a reason, let it be.
2007-09-15 14:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sun R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does it matter who is more knowledgeable? Doesn't the only thing that matter is how you make each other feel when you are together? If you feel that you need more experience, then ask her what you could do to make her feel better and you will be that more ahead. She may be more experienced in sex, but you will be more experienced on how to make HER feel better. In the end isn't that what intimacy is all about?
2007-09-15 14:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Friend one time told me that a woman with experience is better then one with out. Never thought of it that way. He was right. At lease you did not have one that was ten years older that you. Married forty years and did not know any thing about sex. I wounder how she had tree kids. Boy was I in for a let down. She what me to teach her what I knew about sex. Know way I was going to do that.
2007-09-15 14:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having problems accepting it now i would go to a therapist and work it out before i even considered marrying the girl because it will always linger on your mind, if that person might be compaing your ...er..."skills" in the bedroom to someone elses.
and its not just a "man" thing. my husband was married before and i didn't like that he had experience. i would want to try certain things and he would say "no, i tried that before and didn't like it" that just made me want to smack him.
2007-09-15 14:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will get over it. But I HIGHLY suggest you get over it before you get married. Any negative feelings prior to marriage only get amplified after marriage.
Accept her for who she is or move on.
2007-09-15 14:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each one of us is different. some can deal and some cant.
in japan, men will buy a bride from china who is dumb as mud, just to be certain he is the only one.
some men marry their prostitute because she is so good.
you need to figure out where you stand.
2007-09-15 14:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granada, Dude love and marrige is not about the physical part, it has everything to do with being heart to heart !
2007-09-15 14:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA, MY BF IS 11 YEARS OLDER AND HAS HAD 20 YEARS MORE SEX THAN ME, CAUSE I LOST IT AT 21, IM 27 NOW...BEAT THAT!
2007-09-15 14:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my husband is was that way. i have had my partners than him but he is really great in bed. i would hope u can because u say u love her then that sh** shouldn't matter
2007-09-15 14:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by UofL Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋