After we got married, he stopped wanting to have sex. We haven't had sex in over a year. But he will "do his thing" on his own 3-4 times a week. What should I think about this? He doesn't even want to have any physical contact with me.
2007-09-15 08:45:49 · 17 answers · asked by Girly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well dont fall into that 'whats wrong with me' trap.
its not you...its him
talk to him...discuss your needs
if he doesnt change...?
2007-09-15 08:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just sit there and take it get your a s s up and put on your sexist dress and say to your husband don't wait up because i don't know how long i will be out. If that doesn't bother him then i would have to say maybe you are right about him being gay. Could he have a girlfriend on the side or did he marry you for something you own and he wants. Are you sure he loved you when you were married. This whole thing sounds bazaar and for a man not wanting to have sex with his wife who he just married it's one or two things and you already said the one thing and i said the other.Be careful this man is up to something what that is I'm not sure just watch him very closely.
2007-09-15 21:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to have to tell you, buy I think you are right. He is definitely gay. There is no other excuse for a newlywed man not to want to have sex with his partner. Have you asked him? You need to ask him. He is going to have to level with you. It is not fair. And if he is not gay, then you have to find out what the problem is. Could it be that he has some kind of mental problems?
2007-09-15 16:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is addicted to Porn??? If he only takes care of himself....That is a sign that he preffers to do it by himself. Why.....Who knows??? It could be an addition of some sort? Try sparking it up a bit....Dress down and just be super aggressive with him....See how he handles it and do not stop. A test of some sorts....See what happens??? Good Luck!!!
2007-09-15 09:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by hazeleyes654 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask him about it in a non confrontational way, just tell him you noticed that you 2 haven't been intimate in a while, and tell him you miss that. then see what he says, maybe he thinks you haven't been interested in having sex with him
2007-09-15 08:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let's see. he may prefer himself... he may not be attracted to you. he may be tooo lazy to put an effort into real sex. he may be gay... however.. there should be more signs than him just tending to his own needs. so why are u still in this marriage.. or not in consuling. this is going to have a negative impact on you. if you do not address this soon.
2007-09-15 08:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE MAY NOT BE GAY, BUT THERE IS SOMETHING FUNNY GOING ON. FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCES IF THEY ARE NOT WANTING TO BE WITH YOU IN ANY WAY, THEY ARE EITHER HAVING AN AFFAIR OR THEY MAY NOT BE ABLE TO GET IT UP. MAYBE HE IS FEELING EMBARRESED AND DON'T FEEL LIKE HE CAN TALK TO YOU. THATS THE BEST I CAN DO.. GOOD LUCK
2007-09-15 09:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm well did your physical appearence change at all since you got married? mebbe he just doesn't feel the same, or yea maybe he's a homo.
2007-09-15 08:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he could be mentally ill. is he on psych meds? these factors will result in the same behavior.
2007-09-15 09:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is doubtful that he is gay, however might be bi ask if he would like you to meet other men. If he agrees ,, maybe you should.
2007-09-15 08:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by meatman1559 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋