Marriage & Divorce - 16 September 2007

My wife has told me to, back off and she dosen't feel that way about me. Anything loving, caring, thoughfull dose NOT affect things between us the out come of our marriage. She also wants me to move out and live near by, with the possiblity of us fixing our marriage. On the other hand, she would like me to still particapte in family day to day events. ie. diner, movies, working with a dog trainer for our two dogs. My heart is unable to handle being teased, be stuck in the middle. My question is, dose she intend to leave me or get back together, or just keep me hanging on so that she is still able to recieve benifits from my job? And how will I be able to test her to find out? Am I just a sucker who believes in love and marriage or is she testing me to see if I will stick around, because my job has had me away for most of our marriage? PLEASE HELP

2007-09-16 22:23:44 · 19 answers · asked by sec8_cm 1

My husband and I are on the verge of divorce.We have been married a year and a half and have 2 children.I love my husband dearly, but cant find my way anymore.We have had sexual problems in our marriage for about 9 months.He stopped wanting it.It hurt and finally I figured he was cheating. Im not sure that he wasnt and still isnt but I did find out why.I had gotten pregnant again a while back and miscarried.I gained some weight and he said that while he thought I was beautiful he wasnt attracted to me.He has always been very visual and made me feel bad about myself.I have tried our whole marriage to be what he wants, short hair, clothes etc... its not enough.He always wants more.Right now hes upset about where his life is headed.He said hes bored with the family life and with me and the kids. My kids love him and my 3 year old son and 1 yr old daughter will be devestated.He says he wants to work on it but wont try for more than a few days. What now? I am a SAHM w/ no work history.

2007-09-16 21:54:11 · 16 answers · asked by aalshafi 1

my partner is so strict. He treated me like a kid. I dont have the right to do my own thing. He always blamed me. And he told me that i'm insecure and he's not insecure. I couldnt go out with friends w/o his permission. All my friends are good. I dont go with friends who are bad influence. Most of my friends are girls. And i dont go with a guy friend. He get mad also the way i dressed, well infact, i am just wearing with sleeves and just bit fitting shirt, for him, i'm provoking guys.My goodness, i dont wear mini skirt, shorts, i'm just wearing that in a swimming pool bec. i'm not allowed to wear swimsuit, i could wear swim suit but not backless or clevege not showing, and wear a short on it. Im just like a prison.I couldnt go out with him with the clothes that he wanted. And the part thingnthat i dont really like is he wants me to be fat not only fat very fat. He told me i could wear what i like if im already fat. The worst thing is he's violent.

2007-09-16 21:24:41 · 10 answers · asked by angel love-love is blue 2

I have been with my husband for 3 years and married for 1.5years, we have a beautiful 14month old daughter. We recently moved in with his grandmother and his parents (That's another story!), I'm having a really rough time dealing with being a first time mum, a young wife, a carer of his grandmother and living with us all in the one house (his mum and I don't get along too well). His mum constantly puts me down and my daughter has had to become my 3rd priority because mymother in law is so pushy... I threatening to leave and he says nothing, he insists that he does love me but wont even pull his mum up when she verbally abuses me... I don't know if I should go as I love him so much but there hasn't been a day this whole month I haven't cried...

I have a beautiful big house to move into where we don't have to pay a cent and no one else will be there.

2007-09-16 20:16:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son's mother has remarried to a guy in the army and I know he get full coverage for them. Do I still have to find medical for my son if he is now covered by him. Do this change anything for child support? Not trying to get out of child support because I do pay it. I don't think it's right if the husband has full medical for them, do I have to get it still?

2007-09-16 18:51:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together a year, and both really want a life together...problemo...we will possibly live together soon, and have talked about getting married after his divorce has gone through next year.
When would be the right time to meet his 2 year old daughter, I dont want to rush into it...and mostly, I dont want it to impact his wife, as she tried to get him back recently, and Id sorta want to meet her and the wife before we get too carried away, because his daughter is such an important part of his life?

2007-09-16 18:44:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

He makes around $125,000 a year...

2007-09-16 18:43:26 · 5 answers · asked by mommyangel424 2

ok my soon to be ex-wife is keeping my kids from seeing me. 2 wks ago she called the cops 2 days before i was getting my kids for the weekend and told them i violated the order of pro she had put on me when we first split and ive followed it to the tea but every since then she wont let me see the kids and its agravating. ive hired an att to do my divorce and my visits with my kids . but her mom is in the middle of all of this **** . i just want an answer on this

2007-09-16 18:22:10 · 11 answers · asked by michael h 1

My wife and I are just married and we dont want to have kids for a couple of years . We dont want to use birth control pills. Is wearing a condom while married an exceptable thing to do?

2007-09-16 18:19:40 · 12 answers · asked by kelly1225 1

so i am doing a paper on gay marriage and i just wanted to post this and ask peoples opinion on the matter!

2007-09-16 18:15:10 · 19 answers · asked by tweety 3

I always dream that I cheat on my husband?? is that bad? I don't like it because it makes me feel that I plan to. I don't like sleepying around...looking at hot guys is a normal thing for a girl my age....but never cheating ...i would never go beyond looking at a guy and saying he is cute..i am my husband's property...but sometimes by dreams scare me.

2007-09-16 18:03:34 · 27 answers · asked by none 2

ok so i can't sleep because there are 38 days for my husband to come from oversees...i miss him so much and sometimes i get too anxious...please help before i go nuts...i try to distract myself at work and i am focused but most of the time that is all i think about its been since April that i don't see him and our first year of marrige we spent it apart due to his deployment...going nuts over here!

Thanks

2007-09-16 18:00:23 · 8 answers · asked by none 2

Sometimes you end up neglecting your family. One day you find out your wife is having an affair with a 23 year old boy from her church. What would you feel and how would you react?

Please - no violent or vulgar reactions. Please give me a patient and wise answer.

2007-09-16 17:46:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

please explain?

2007-09-16 17:46:30 · 11 answers · asked by JonDOE23 1

2007-09-16 17:40:27 · 15 answers · asked by julian 2

i have a 10 ,9,5, year old and i havent told them yet because i had some hope. i keep telling them daddy working alot and staying at his moms because its a long dive i dont know how to tell them but i have to

2007-09-16 17:36:40 · 15 answers · asked by darlynn 1

this is not a question about getting married or anything too serious, well i mean if theres really a connection there who knows. anyways do you have a problem with dating or hooking up with a younger man like early 20s?

the reason i ask is because i was talking to this woman for a while at a local nightclub, and she seemed really intrested and then she found out i was only 21 and practically ran. i was under the impression that older women were into younger guys. im into older women so i just want to know if there are certian procedures to this or what?


note: don't tell me i should be seeing people younger or the same age as me, been there, done that, alot, and i don't want to deal with that drama anymore. im only posting in this section because the dating area is swarmed with 13yr olds with their expert advise, and questions about "omg, i want to kiss him/her but im so nervous!!! LOL" you know what im talking about.

2007-09-16 17:30:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have twins and i see women all time saying that the kids should be with the mom!!!

i dont think this is true my kids are doing fine and i dare one person to find me a woman that would take better care of my kids then me!!!

men can do as good if not better of a job!!!

2007-09-16 17:24:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My stepson is 18 and we are selling are home to move to another state.He wants to stay behind because jobs pay more here in ct.Was going to give him my old car but his mother is angry and will not allow me to give him the car and she has told me that if he wants to stay that he must do it on his own.

2007-09-16 17:07:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I work full-time jobs and have 2 children (2&5). I work between 25-40 hours per week. I cook all the dinners, clean the house daily and the car weekly, pick up the kids from daycare daily and drop them off when my husband cannot (1 hour drive), make and keep the kids appntmnts, take the time off work to take them to their appntmnts or stay home when they are sick, take care of all finances, purchase all supplies and clothes for the kids, purchase all the groceries, plan all the kids parties, etc, etc.. I am currently on Paxil (antideps) for the stress as we cannot afford to be a one income family.My husband works a considerable amount of overtime. He drops off the kids to daycare most of the time, cleans up the dishes nightly when he is home, does a load of laundry about once per week, makes coffee in the morning, and maybe there are a few small things I have missed-but that is "the just" of his current participation. Am I being selfish when I tell him it seems unfair?

2007-09-16 17:03:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I deploy to Iraq, 8 months go by with only a few problems here and there, I go on leave and spend more time with family than I do with her, (I appologized) I redeployed after leave and like an idiot spent more time doing other things than talking to her she got upset and we fought for several weeks over it. She then dissappeared on a drug and alcohol binge with friends and some guy, ends up pregnant by the guy and finally comes back, now I havn't given full details but believe me when I say I did EVERYTHING short of cheating myself to drive her TO cheat, I have forgivin her and we are moving on looking forward to the baby, could you do the same?

2007-09-16 17:02:26 · 14 answers · asked by Obie 1

It's pretty simple since we been married,we have had an exceptional relationship.But the last couple of years is lacking in the getting busy department.If you know what I mean?

We have been married since 2001.

2007-09-16 16:35:52 · 45 answers · asked by rmelawe 1

For those of you that have followed some of my post, you knwo that my husband and I have had some major issues. At this point I am not sure that I can stay here. We don't even fight anymore. We never have sex. In fact when I try to get things started, he gets sick (no joke). We never kiss not even during sex. I know that he is not cheating because I have spys at his job, and a nanny keeper on the computer. We never talk anymore. in fact he is so tuned out that I have to yell his name when I want to talk to him or when our child speaks to him. I am not sure what to do anymore. I'd love to hear your advice, and please don't get nasty. I get enough of that as it is.

2007-09-16 16:33:14 · 28 answers · asked by Brandi 5

2007-09-16 16:27:19 · 7 answers · asked by dj_alex_burgundy 1

Im having issues with my ex-husband regarding my daughters last name. When she was born we were seperated, and actually he was served with divorce papers when she was 1 week old. He was in a relationship with someone else, and questioned if our daughter was really his. So I gave her my maiden name, which is my only last name, and left his name out of it. He rarely see's her, or makes any real effort to be part of her life. He just got remaried and has another child on the way. He now wants our daughters name hyphenated to reflect his and his new families. I am completly against this. What do you think?

2007-09-16 16:23:16 · 27 answers · asked by rebecca 1

I've been trying to get pregnant for four years now. I've tried adoption,IVF,Fertility Treatments,Dieting and Exercise. and nothing has worked. I cannot Explain the Uncontrollable Hurt I feel Whenever I See Someone With A Baby!! there is A Feeling Of Sadness,Hurt, Pain And Just overall depression.I love hearing of Babies and New life It's just that I keep Asking Myself "when's It Going To Be My Turn?"The pressures to start & raise a family can be enormous — to the extent that because i haven't done it yet I feel as though something must be deeply wrong with me. I feel Depressed and jealous and burst into tears when I find out another one of my friends or someone i know is pregnant. No one seems to understand. it's just so much frustration i feel whenever somebody asks me "So When Are You going to have a baby?" ti's not like i haven't been trying dammit! People keep asking me when we're going to start our family. What can I say without being rude? how do I get through this?

2007-09-16 16:21:28 · 19 answers · asked by Stressed Out Good Guy Hubby 1

Tomorrow is my birthday, I have been married for 5 years, my wife and I are separated and we have 3 boys together, I love her, but she is self centered, when I ask about why things are the way they are I get"this is the way it is, there is nothing I can do about the way you feel or anything, its up to you",I don't take advantage of anybody, but I feel that I am being taken advantage of. I am not mean or selfish, I take care of the kids and I am cool.

ideas?

2007-09-16 16:21:19 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1

this is not a bad thing is it?

2007-09-16 16:09:00 · 18 answers · asked by Ray 2

my wife gets upset because i check on her. she takes it personal because she feels degradated and like a person that should not get trusted. I personally dont care if she checks on me, because of the fact that i am faithful and have nothing to hide. as a couple, i thing we both have the right to investigate if there is something that is not quite right. Am i doing wrong by checking on her even though i am not gonna find anything, and why does whe get so bothered about it.

2007-09-16 16:06:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please include sources!

2007-09-16 16:03:37 · 49 answers · asked by blasianbeauty_613 2