Marriage & Divorce - 16 September 2007

I had a female mechanic as my partner in college and she's one of the best mechanics I've ever seen. I hear so much how woman and men cannot do things that the other sexes can do. Let's see how many people can work this out without insulting any one gender. Keep in mind, that I am a stay at home husband as well. (Yes, I do have an income in case you're wondering.)

1. Female or Male mechanic.
2. Female or Male housewife/husband
3. Female or Male pilot
4. Female or Male boss
5. Female or Male babysitter
6. Female or Male police officer
7. Female or Male nurse
8. Female or Male teacher
9. Female or Male truck driver
10. Female or Male scientist.

My answers are 1. Female, 2. Either, 3. Either, 4. Neither, 5. Neither, 6. Either, 7. Male, 8. Female, 9. Female, 10. Female.
I chose neither for 5 because we've never had a babysitter and we never will. I'm not as trusting as most others are.

2007-09-16 16:02:35 · 12 answers · asked by tercentenary98 6

Considering the mother is not "unfit" or anything like that...

2007-09-16 16:00:18 · 9 answers · asked by luvmybabies 3

ok she has a good job,not fat,is attractive and nice. Please don't blast me she just the 1st person i met since i was 28 thats never been married or has kids.What would you guys think about her?Honestly

2007-09-16 15:55:24 · 18 answers · asked by tom f 1

My 5yr old Son with my ex husband, divorced now for 4 years, has been comming home with information and manorisms that have been raising a rred flag.

last week he came home from his fathers house and was afraid to go to sleep, because every time he closed his eyes he would see peoples heads being cut off, he said he was watching a Vampire movie at his fathers house.
The week before school started he was supossed to go to PA with his father, he developed a fever and headach the day before, he called his father, on speaker phone, and told him that he didn't feel well and can't go to PA because he had a fever, I heard his father tell his "no way its not happenning you'll be fine and your going and thats it. I intercepted the phone call and told him that he is not going because he is sick and needs to be close to the doctor. Today my son came home upset once again because his father told him that he was going to punch me in the face, He was very frightened by this and I had to comfort

2007-09-16 15:39:02 · 10 answers · asked by mshellyluv 1

I am divorced and i occasionally talk to mine and my ex's mutual friends, but i hate it. i talk to them and then they report to my ex. part of me wants to talk to them so i can hold on to the past but then another part of me says they chose there side and since they turned there back on me when i needed them most i should do the same. I am not a mean person but i think the most healthy thing to do is cut all ties, but i don't know how. They sometimes call, text and there on my myspace friends list. I just want to disappear without them noticing. any suggestions?

2007-09-16 15:33:45 · 34 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

There is this long marriage problem of our neighbors/friends. Trying to keep it short she cheated and he found out and he even knows details. At first he was trying to get through it as she said it was over. There have been many fights and the poor kids see and poor kids know everything. I have always said I didn't want to be in the middle but have still been told tons of stuff. I do however want to be there for the kids (mine play w/ them and have for 7 yrs). Yesterday the hubby has said it is over finally and he wants a divorce which he hasn't said yet. He believes it is not over from phone bill evidence. Anyway he came to my door tonight,after several fights you can't help but overhear and police cars 3 times this weekend; and he wanted me to drive him around the block to meet a friend and she was walking in front of my house in the dark. I didn't want my kids to hear and he was beggin me to take him as he said she attacked him in my front yard.
I know this is long but hold on ---

2007-09-16 15:21:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Men, can you please tell me how hard it was. How long did it take? Did the guilt keep you there longer than you would have liked?

2007-09-16 15:15:22 · 9 answers · asked by R 1

it takes him 10 mins to eat crackers and drink a can of pop. At home he can eat that in 2 mins? He said that he can be his self with me and wants them to think he has manners. I want the manners and him being polite to.

2007-09-16 15:03:15 · 41 answers · asked by judith s 1

We are both hard working responsible mature adults in a loving, caring, long term relationship. by the time we're 22 we'll have been together for 3 years and best friends for 5 years. we are very dedicated to each other, and dont belive in giving up on our relationship if it gets a little rocky (which happens to the best of us and usually people give up when it happens more than once)

after being married hes going to finish graduate school and im gonna finish school as well and then im going to work for 3 years until im 27 or 28 before having kids

does anyone feel this is a good plan? or a reallllly bad idea?

2007-09-16 14:58:47 · 27 answers · asked by Blondie131 4

please share to me your thoughts.... thank you....

2007-09-16 14:58:32 · 8 answers · asked by not_a_geek 3

I'm Lonely i have prayed to GOD and prayed to god to send me my Soul Mate, I belive God has givin up on me I'am Good Hearted, God Fearing Woman, and My ex did me so wrong@ the end of our relationship and got married on me, I got passed that part of it i mean i wasnt hurt about that @ all @ all may sound crazy but hey i wasnt for that person may the best man win , ok but i'm still lonely and single its been a year. I'm 30 with no kids educated have my own small real estate firm. And very beautiful not tryin toot my own horn. I have my own, but still lonely and its bothers me that the Lord blessed my Ex too have someone rather she is his soulmate or not and Left me not only Hangin but lonely as hell. Can someone help me with this please.

2007-09-16 14:44:31 · 20 answers · asked by Red Soda B 1

well i have been married for 8 years now and have no kids. my husband is a doctor and i am a scientist. by the time my hubby comes home i am already sleeping. we havent had sex for almost a year. what should we do?

2007-09-16 14:22:46 · 16 answers · asked by Arina 1

My husband had the ring custom made but its just not me. Believe it or not, I think its actually too big. The center diamond is a carat but then there are two side diamonds on each side. The side diamonds are about the same height as the center so it just all blends together. I have pretty small fingers so you don't see any of the band at all from the top.

I have had the ring for 2 years now. I didnt want to hurt his feelings so I never said anything. But I can't stop thinking about how he paid $8000 for something I don't even like. I don't know if I should just tell him or live with it. My sister keeps telling me to get over it and move on but its been two years and I still think about it. I'm torn because part of me thinks he picked it for me and I should just be happy with it. And part of me thinks that I should just tell him because he has told me in the past with other gifts to tell him if I don't like it so he can get me something I do.

What should I do?

2007-09-16 14:19:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Am i wrong? I found a mag in the bathroom with cut outs of hardcore anal porn pasted in it, this week I counted 3 times he's went to the bathroom with it while i was home , when i bring up having sex he says i cant i drank or another excuss and he offers oral sex, i dont understand because its not like we dont have fun sex, he can do anything. I feel that he would rather do that then to have sex with me... the last time our sex life was like this i discovered a dvd collection of the same , we had a talk i explained how i felt and thing were better now this....if i wasnt home it wouldnt bother me but i was there so why the need to do it yourself?

2007-09-16 14:05:33 · 20 answers · asked by jen w 1

when you try for counseling and your wife tells you she does not know if she even wants to. why is that? if she married me and then there is some adjustments that are difficult to make, why jump ship to be separated and then not even try counseling of any sort? are you a christian if you dont follow the words of God if you do not try with your heart as he states you should?
Additional Details

we were married for 7 months b4 she started distancing herself from me..i have an 8 year old who i raised from birth his real mom left him, and now this women has too... we are 29..
we are separated because she abandoned me physically, emotionally and spiritually in the marriage for months and months..very heartbroken i tried and tried to work on things. now separated for 3 months i am trying to work things out she has no effort just complains about things in the past, when she is at fault as well.

2007-09-16 13:54:30 · 14 answers · asked by amayseng 3

I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. I feel like we DID have alot of potential and love for one another. We also both were mature and had a good head on our shoulders. Well, his ex-g/f tried to break us up, and it's ruined our relationship, I've let my insecurities ruin our relationship. I made too big a deal out of it. Now trust isn't there, we're both more paranoid, even though we're entirely open with each other. The big one is, respect is gone. We used to highly respect each other, and now the things we say to each other now I could've never imagined EVER wanting to say that to each other. I used to feel like he was head over heels for me, but now it's so different. We used to have ALOT of fun together and brought out the best in one another, and now I feel like we just argue alot more, and don't really do anything. All we do is sit around and watch TV. I felt that our relationship had so much potential, but jealousy & immaturity has gotten the best of it. How do I fix it?

2007-09-16 13:51:07 · 10 answers · asked by Consultant 1

I co-own a house with my girlfriend. Both of our names are on the deed. Who has the right to make the other leave if there is a dispute (that is, we have now evolved to hating each other)?

2007-09-16 13:45:01 · 15 answers · asked by Hopeless 2

2007-09-16 13:41:23 · 11 answers · asked by ogmomo2 1

I kind of like this church with the exception of the leaves that have grown on the exterior rock wall. What are your feelings about it?

Go to this website to see the church:
http://www.plymouthmiami.com

2007-09-16 13:41:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't understand why but me and my wife are always fighting over stupid petty things. Before we had the baby we hardly ever fought and now every little thing causes a stupid fight. I need help in understanding what is wrong with our relationship.

2007-09-16 13:34:16 · 15 answers · asked by Yahoo! 1

Ok a few months ago I had a fling with a married man (yes i know BAD Idea, so don't worry you don't need to point this out - however i didn't cross the line so to speak) Anyway we both decided to stop and have no contacting (well his idea not to contact but i didn't argue) anyway when i knew him, I got to know some of his mates, as spent time at the pub with them all. Now he is telling me not to talk to his mates at the pub, and that they do not want to talk to me and wonder why I am there, and that the way I act 'does not look good'. However most of his mates have always been really friendly, and brought me drinks etc. Why do you think he said this? do you think he might be a bit jealous or not really?

2007-09-16 13:26:07 · 10 answers · asked by jiveybaby 1

......people say she deserves better? Is she not a party to this wrong doing? Is she not equally cullpable, especially when she knows the man is married? Why would someone say "You deserve better!" to them, when what they clearly deserve is to get married themselves and then be that wife who loses her husband to another woman? Aren't they also adults who should suffer the ramifications of their own actions?
Why is it assumed that women are the "innocents" when they get involved with a married man?

2007-09-16 13:25:15 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous

i called my ex up because i was missing him and just wanted to talk. i ended the relationship, but we both still have feelings. he was heavy into drugs and alcohol when we got together, and cutting, so i broke up with him. hoping to hear he calmed down, i called and he told me that he wasn't smoking pot as much, but started doing cocaine. i was horrified, so i broke the news that i was thinking of getting my ged or graduating early because i wasn't feeling challenged in school and i want to work before i go off to college.

his exact response -

"if you leave, i will get worse. i'll start smoking again and drinking more. honestly, i'll kill myself if you're not around."

what do i do? i'm so scared and i feel so trapped...

2007-09-16 13:24:22 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

A 44yr old man 'married' to a beautiful 24 yr old woman. Have been together for 6 1/2 years with 3 beautiful children, all girls age 8, 6 and 2 1/2.
Nice Home, happy healthy relationship apparently and great sex life ;) .

Man cheats on his 'yummy mummy' who loves him more than anything. Why?

Man says he loves his wife and Only his wife and denies the affair to an extreme. He is cheating on her...proven fact

Why do you suppose he's maintaining the affair with the girl on the side?? And~ how can I gain back his full attention?

I love him a lot and don't plan on separating from him. I know he loves me deeply as well. He treats me like a queen, except for the cheating (which he denies and hides it very well from me) Should I ignore it.. I don't want to.

2007-09-16 13:18:45 · 16 answers · asked by busymum 5

He Passed away in july of terminal cancer, i was with him when he died and it was a relief to me because he was in so much pain! how can my husband and i help her to get to a better place, she is very depressed and just cries and is cranky all the time, its not her at all

2007-09-16 13:17:31 · 6 answers · asked by rymo 2

My hubby and I kissed when we were dating.... but it has seemed to fizzle off. Anyone else experience this?

2007-09-16 13:05:43 · 14 answers · asked by writeright 2

2007-09-16 13:02:05 · 11 answers · asked by ♥.:cookie_monster/poptart:.♥ 1

i am involved with a married man. he says that he had problems in his marriage way before we ever met. he says he loves me and he sees a future together. he has children with his wife, but he thinks a divorce will happen in the future. am i stupid to be involved with a married man? i really do trust him and i believe that he loves me. his wife doesn't know about us, and i am okay with that. should i really trust what he tells me? is it possible that he is involved with me because he loves me, and not just because he is a typical cheater? should i worry about him cheating on me if we ever get married and become open about our relationship? i hear so many bad stories about married men, are they really as bad as the seem?

2007-09-16 12:50:22 · 43 answers · asked by <>< captivated 1

I want to be a nurse but I mean my life is utter torture right now. I just sacrifice, and any day I could fail. The pressure is unreal, and making me crazy, and angry. I am so lonely.

2007-09-16 12:31:12 · 9 answers · asked by Dani 1

I would like some HONEST opinions.I was raped...ever since then porn has disgusted me. I told my fiance in the beginning how I saw it and how it made me feel. He VOLUNTARILY got rid of it and PROMISED not to do it again. 2 months after we were engaged I found porn on the comp. He looked at it every night for like 7 or 8 days while I was home...he lied about it multiple times untill he finally admitted it. Now I feel like I dont trust him! Cuz he lied and i see porn as disrespectful to your partner unless the partner is ok w/ it. He says its just what guys do, and it seems every1 feels that way!?! But guys..how would u feel if u found a stack of mags or vids of HOT FIT naked guys with bigger penises than u under ur girls bed? Or if she had naked pics or vids of HERSELF posted on the net. How do u feel when u see her checking out a FULLY clothed guy..but u can WATCH NAKED girls do other naked girls? Y are women supposed to just "be happy" hes not cheating? Really how would u feel?

2007-09-16 12:03:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous