it takes him 10 mins to eat crackers and drink a can of pop. At home he can eat that in 2 mins? He said that he can be his self with me and wants them to think he has manners. I want the manners and him being polite to.
2007-09-16 15:03:15 · 41 answers · asked by judith s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He feels comfortable and safe with you.He tries to impress them.
2007-09-16 15:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by krazyklwn66 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Your husband should show you the respect of good manners at home, just like he does with his co-workers. There's an old saying: Familiarity breeds contempt. Because he's married to you, he figures you're stuck with him, piggish manners and all. This is not an exclusive trait with men, either. Some women are the same way -- putting their best foot forward in public and kicking the husband with it at home.
Take hubby aside, and tell him he eats like a pig and it's embarrassing and disrespectful to you, and turns you off. Make him a deal. Promise him more romance if he can act more like the guy you fell in love with, instead of the one who takes you for granted by his terrible table manners. Maybe then he'll shape up. Worth a try, anyway. Good luck!
2007-09-16 15:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get ticked and nag him about manners or you can pick your battles. Although it would be nice to see the more mannerly side of him, it probably won't change. The thing is, he may slip up and eat like an animal when he is out somewhere because that is something you should practice all of the time. Maybe he will figure it out.
My husband is a great guy, but he has a nasty habit of smacking and/or chewing his food with his mouth open. It is both annoying and disgusting.
2007-09-16 15:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you come up with a solution let me know! I hear you. I know it's that terrible 11-letter word, 'comfortable.' that comes to mind. He's in his element at home, his castle, his little space where he can be 'himself.' They just don't get it. We wives want to be impressed by you husbands. It's like we don't matter when it comes to manners with some guys. You know, Men are men, and not all, but many are slobs. They impress us in the beginning with their manners, then they get that to that 'comfy' place and think they can belch, fart, and do any other bodily function known to man. Little boys in a man's body. Manners is a 4 letter word to some guys. On the other hand, not all men are like that. To those men, I salute you!
God bless ya woman!
2007-09-16 15:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but...you already married him so why does he have to impress you? I'm sure he doesn't like eating with manners but he does it anyway so that he won't disgust his co-workers/boss. But he loves you and knows you don't care about how he eats. well at least that's what he thinks.
Those people that are saying that he's flirting with his co-workers or he think's they're more important are obviously in relationships that don't have a lot of trust. this has nothing to do with his fidelity so don't let them worry you.
2007-09-16 15:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just like me at home. I eat however I want at home and "whip out the manners" when I'm out. He doesn't want to appear uncivilized to his co-workers, but it's not as important around you because he knows you love him. He's basically gotten too comfortable around you. Remind him that you're still a lady, and he's not a Neanderthal...
2007-09-16 15:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He acts that way in front of you because basically the honeymoon is over. He is comfortable with you and your relationship. If it is a problem for you...then talk to him. Communication is everything. And how would you know that he eats with manners in front of his female coworkers??? Just curious...
I hope this helps...
2007-09-16 15:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mule and T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows that you love him for who he is and he can relax around you. If it bothers you ask him if he could refrain from doing so every now and then. Maybe set a time to eat dinner at the table and make it clear that manners live at the table...
2007-09-16 15:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it as an insult.. he is just comfortable being himself around you.
I think we are all a little guilty if unconciously acting a little better in front of people we hardly know than those we love at home.. We are all concerned with other peoples impressions of us whether we admit it or not.
That said, Maybe he will try and lift his behaviour a little around you if you let him know that you truly don't like it.
:o)
2007-09-16 15:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's relaxed with you and feels he can be himself. He is trying to display good manners in front of the co-workers. My boyfriend thinks it A-OK to fart all the time in my presence. I asked him if he did it at work and he said no. You can ask him to be more considerate, but I don't know if it will work.
2007-09-16 15:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be more nervous around them and not want to look like an idiot. I can be the same way. Slob at home with good manners everywhere else. Tell him that he should have good manners all the time. He should understand. :)
2007-09-16 15:06:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋