I'm Lonely i have prayed to GOD and prayed to god to send me my Soul Mate, I belive God has givin up on me I'am Good Hearted, God Fearing Woman, and My ex did me so wrong@ the end of our relationship and got married on me, I got passed that part of it i mean i wasnt hurt about that @ all @ all may sound crazy but hey i wasnt for that person may the best man win , ok but i'm still lonely and single its been a year. I'm 30 with no kids educated have my own small real estate firm. And very beautiful not tryin toot my own horn. I have my own, but still lonely and its bothers me that the Lord blessed my Ex too have someone rather she is his soulmate or not and Left me not only Hangin but lonely as hell. Can someone help me with this please.
2007-09-16 14:44:31 · 20 answers · asked by Red Soda B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me, this too shall pass.It may be hard in the beginning, but one day you'll look back and laugh.Just take your mind off love right now.The right man will come when you least expect it and when you actually need him the most..Its great that you have a degree,a secure job and confidence.Thats all you need for now.Till the right person comes along, just enjoy life..Do things that make you happy.Be happy for your ex.Thats the only sane option for now.Otherwise, you'll become bitter and thats not what you need for your soul. Accept the fact that lonliness is a normal part of life that is not here to s tay.God Bless you!
2007-09-16 14:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a lonely time. I know what you mean. My ex-husband walked out on me last year after 5 years of marriage and a child together. I was extremely hurt and lonely when he first left and thought I would never be with anyone else. I prayed that God would get me through these times and he has. I stopped looking for anyone cause I figured I never would find him and he actually found me a couple months later. We've been together every since and i'm very, very happy to have him in my life. He was totally worth the wait! My best advice is to stop looking because love will find you when you least expect it. God will find the one you're meant to spend forever with and just because your ex found someone first doesn't mean he's truly happy with her or that it's meant to be. Maybe he rushed into something. Only God knows. I hope my advice helped and good luck finding your soulmate, but i'm sure he'll find you first. God bless!
2007-09-16 21:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by fun_mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that someone else has to put up with his bull crap.
Okay, let's be serious... :-)
I know you're kinda stressing about the whole thing, but trust me, it's better to have some 'alone time' after a divorce. After mine, I did the whole 'I'm going to date a million guys' just because I can, thing. I was going out almost every night just living it up and having a great time. It felt so amazing to just not give a hoot about a relationship.
I don't drink or do drugs or 'party' but this was a very interesting experience. I learned that every guy has a different idea of a perfect first date, so I got to do a lot of pretty cool things that I would not have done otherwise.
Then one day, out of the blue, a friend of mine asked me to pick him up from a friends house, so as I waited in their living room for him to be ready, I got to talking to one of the roommates. One thing led to another and he took me out to Niagara Falls to see the fireworks display. 16 months later we got married on that exact spot.
I would have never ever thought that I would get married again.
Don't give up. I think you're trying too hard. Try and take a break, do some really cool things for yourself, go on a spa retreat or take a hot air balloon ride (having an overhead view of the world really helps give a person perspective) go to a theme park. You will find your Mr. Right when you least expect it.
But, if you are hell bent on continuing to look, Laundromats are a great way to scope out the single guy scene in your area. Really. Married or otherwise involved men don't go to laundromats without their wives or girlfriends because the ladies are too afraid that the guys will screw something up, so take a basket or two down there and play the 'damsel in distress' routine (oh, I don't know how to work this, etc.) and see what you get :-)
Best of Luck to you sweetie....
2007-09-16 22:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by jpiglet86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sarah was broke, behind in the car payment behind in the house payment and about to file bankruptcy. She prayed to God for weeks to help her win the lottery. Each week it kept getting worse and worse. Finally, Sarah got real mad and yelled at God as to why he didn't help her win the lottery? In his still, small voice God replied, "You have to help me here, Sarah. BUY A TICKET!"
The point being, eharmony.com would be my suggestion. Quit relying on God, he will do his part which is the super. You have to do the natural to make it "supernatural." You are a great catch. 30, no kids, business owner, and God Fearing, what man could ask for more. Try eharmony. This will increase the number of men that will come in contact with you. In today's society, we are too busy to really get to know people. With a little help from the matchmakers, we can be introduced to people we might never have had the chance to meet AND they are more the type of people we want to meet rather than drunks and drugies. Good Luck
2007-09-16 21:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will find someone when your not looking any more and he will come into your like when you least expect it if you haven't let go of the past you are putting out the wrong Ora and smell and won't move on so change your thinking and go out with friend and a different attitude and watch what happens I worked for me and the man I prayed for walk in to my life and a couldn't be happier I got exactly what I asked for.good luck he is probably just round the corner.
2007-09-16 21:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by beebee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be OK with yourself first. The whole concept of "Soul Mate" isn't Biblical at all - it puts over-emphasis on the human condition and not on God. It also assumes that a relationship is predestined - good relationships are hard work and love, not mysticism. The Bible speaks of husband and wife becoming one flesh - not one spirit.
Remember, the grass isn't always greener.
To the writer below that said "children serve no practical purpose" - that's a load of rubbish spewed by someone who obviously doesn't know the joy of having children of their own. That being said - it's generally best to have children with a spouse that loves them as much as you do.
2007-09-16 21:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you know the song by garth brookes unanswered prayers... well god hasn't forgotten you, and as for giving your ex some one... maybe he did it to teach your ex a lesson. what goes around does come around trust me.. just look at it like that. and there will be some one when you arent looking so hard. and they will love you even more than you could ever imagine if you keep the faith. don't let this bring you to the point of giving up because it will happen keep praying and don't be afraid to put your self out there to meet new people .... I know its hard when you have a trust issue because of something an ex might have done. but the next guy might not be so bad. we all have flaws, just up to you what you are able to tolerate.
good luck....
2007-09-16 21:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of just praying, how about "God helps those who help themselves" Go out and find activities where men and women participate. When I was divorced there were singles groups at many churches with volleyball and other activities and monthly social events like dinners and shows. Look at non- church related events including co-ed athletics through the YW and YM or city recreation centers for adults. Look at crafts and arts related events including gallery showings, monthly meetings of self help groups like for quilting and knitting or woodworking. Look for people to be friends instead of hunting for the Soul Mate, which is probably illusionary anyway.
2007-09-16 21:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
God helps those who help themselves.
How about letting God get back to all the famine and wars and you go out and talk to some men here on this planet.
2007-09-17 04:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are suppose to get to like your own company first. If you truly like yourself you will no longer be lonely by yourself. Then when people come along for you to date you will be more discerning about who you choose. You will not choose out of need to not be lonely.
2007-09-16 21:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by suigeneris-impetus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋