We are both hard working responsible mature adults in a loving, caring, long term relationship. by the time we're 22 we'll have been together for 3 years and best friends for 5 years. we are very dedicated to each other, and dont belive in giving up on our relationship if it gets a little rocky (which happens to the best of us and usually people give up when it happens more than once)
after being married hes going to finish graduate school and im gonna finish school as well and then im going to work for 3 years until im 27 or 28 before having kids
does anyone feel this is a good plan? or a reallllly bad idea?
2007-09-16 14:58:47 · 27 answers · asked by Blondie131 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if its any indication, I was married at 22 and have been married 23 years now, four kids.
I think its good for a couple to really get to know each other (at least a few years) before tying the knot - and you have. I think its a good idea to give yourselves time together in your marriage before having kids - and that's what you plan to do. And I think its really important to complete your education, which you both plan to do.
I think that you two have a great life plan, and if it works out for the two of you, then that's great. Just be aware that life can throw you a few curve balls, and if you do have to change your plans somewhere down the line, its not necessarily a failure, sometimes its just a re-adjustment.
All the best.
2007-09-16 15:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any correct or mistaken reply to this. You would possibly get married and keep in combination perpetually. My mothers and fathers married at 20 and are nonetheless in combination (they're forty six). In average nevertheless 22 is beautiful younger. I am 28 now and because of get married on this 12 months. I have almost married two different women ago, however watching again, this might had been a massive mistake! You do not rather mature and recognise your self (on the whole) till you're past due twenties I might say. There isn't any rush and also you will have to take some time if you'll be able to. That stated - in case you suppose it's correct then opt for it! Good good fortune both means.
2016-09-05 16:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can answer this question.
But...My opinion is that 22 isn't too young to get married.
I first got married at the age of 22 and now have my own home,2 kids and I am heading towards my second marriage.
My first husband died.
If you feel things will work out with the two of you and that you are mature enough and stable in your financial life I don't see a problem with it. It all depends on how the two of you feel...It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks they are not the ones getting married nor are they the ones that will have to deal with any of the consequences, good or bad that will come from the decision the two of you make.
Much Luv and Do what makes you happy: BlackWidow62206 age 24
2007-09-16 15:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on you and your boyfriend personally i think 22 is too young your still finding out who you are and what your perferences are and stuff like that. i would recommend you wait until you are about 25 however if you feel he is your soulmate and you could never ever live without him and he feels the same way then go ahead. i got married when i was 19 the first 2 years were great but after a while i started to change and i didnt like some of the things he did and we sort of grew apart we were both in college and we had a plan similar to yours but i ended up leaving him we are currently separated im 22 now and i feel like he wasnt the right one for me he were high school sweethearts and we dated for 6 years before we married so it just really depends i think 22 is young dont rush into marriage and remember you have your whole life ahead of you and there are so many guys out there atleast wait until you finish school
2007-09-16 15:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a good idea if the plan works. most plans dont always stay on course. Marriage is hard work and going to school and being married can be even harder. You both love each other, so you should make sure that you both want to get married. I am 35y and have been married for the 1st time for 2yrs in Nov. I got pregnant 6mos before we were suppose to get married. We got married 1 mon before my baby was born and she was born 2 mos early. So far we have separated twice, but now we are back together and rocky. It is very hard financially for us, but with God and prayer, we make it. Im not saying dont do it, but it was after we got married that my husband wanted to go out and be single.He didnt date much before we got married, so he feels he missed out on being with other women. After 2 separations and zillions of arguments, just a tad bit has changed and he now realizes that it is better to keep his family than being single again. Just make sure you both are ready and equally yoked. Pray about it!
2007-09-16 15:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nicety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if you have to ask someone on the net if they think it's a good idea, your gut is probably telling you it's not such a great idea.
Having said that, I was married at 21, and my hubby was 26. We were both out of school at the time--which I felt made a HUGE difference. I know of no couple that married during college that didn't wind up having a heck of a lot MORE college loan debt.
2007-09-16 15:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married in February at 22 years old. I've got 2 years left on my Bachelor's... but my husband graduated in Nov. 06, and started his new job Dec 06. My husband was totally ready. It really just depends on the person. Its better to wait until both of you are out of school. Personally, I think 25 is a better age to get married. I came out of a very abusive relationship, and 4 months later was engaged to my husband. I believe I should have gone to therapy first. My parents were going to send me to live in their 1 bedroom in downtown Chicago for the summer (to get time by myself and figure out what I wanted). Him and I went there for a couple of days, but I wish I would have gotten a longer time. I cried my eyes out on the way to the airport.
Granted, I did get out of the drama of my parents house. I don't think I was ready, but I've learned to be ready. You have the entire rest of your life. It can wait until you both finish school (then there's no stress of money, etc). Plus, when you're in the honeymoon stage, the idea of marriage seems so magical. Its just two humans living together and trying to get along. Its just having a life companion.
Don't be in such a hurry. After 25 you fully know who you are. Because of the abuse I missed my entire year of being 20. Then I got engaged soon after... Now I jumped from 19 to 21, and now I feel like I'm already 26. Enjoy every year of your youth as much as you can... because you can't get those years back. You have plenty of time to be grown up.
2007-09-18 05:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is too young at all - I married at 21 and that has been over 10 years ago - Marriage has been great and provided a lot of stability for myself & dh which has helped us both in reaching educational and personal goals. If you love each other and work together it should be just fine - Good Luck to you...
2007-09-16 15:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by sydney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done premarital counseling for quite a few couples (40?), and wouldn't see a problem with the age itself. I would be looking at the dynamics of your actual relationship:
Communication patterns
conflict resolution skills
commitment level
understanding of roles
spirituality
relationship with in-laws
financial plans
Sexual expectations, etc.
friendship/recreational activities
agreement on children, and discipline
Lots of couples have made it through school together or one at a time, but it takes as much effort as any other married relationship so maturity is huge.
2007-09-16 15:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by waldguy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Courtney --- You two are so well planned and organized -- You two in training to be Accountants??? Is there a flow chart on the wall.. Don't enter into any long term installment agreements... Keep your assets separate form his... When people marry things in a relationship change-- some times a lot.... Get married and you will be divorced in two years... That is my impression of the plan...--Sorry
2007-09-16 15:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋