Marriage & Divorce - 16 September 2007

My wife and I reside in the state of Texas. She left me over a month ago, and we are going to get divorced. She claims that I have to wait to file until she has the baby, stating that this is a Texas law. I am going to talk to an attorney, but I want to get what info I can ahead of time.
Now, I'm in the Army, so she'll get medical for her and the baby until 6 weeks post partum, after which the baby will be covered, but not my wife. She's been causing me a great deal of diffuculty and pain, and I want this over with as soon as possible. If I can get this divorce sooner rather than later, that's what I want to do.

Can somebody please advise me on this supposed Texas law? I'd love to see a link or two with details, if possible. Thanks.

2007-09-16 11:48:46 · 8 answers · asked by Brian Sparta 2

I just need a shoulder to cry on...and possibly some great advice. I am feeling so down about my life and my spouse. We have been together for 16 years, married for 12, have 3 kids, a great house that we bought for nothing and refinanced twice with a no interest loan, two expensive vehicles my hubby insisted on, a $5000 tv/surround sound system my hubby insisted on, and a ton a bills that he forgets to pay on time (that's one of his chores). I am at my whits end! I feel consumed with debt and anger over his irresponsible spending and lazy attitude. He works 40-45 hours a week on the swing shift (midnights) and feels he deserves all of this stuff since he works so hard. When I am not home proding him to do something he is either watching TV or surfing the net for Porn. I have tried confronting him, talking to him, giving him more sex, taking the sex away, letting him do what he wants, making him to do the chores, being mean, being nice...and I am feeling helpless.

2007-09-16 11:36:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I checked before and they were not there, and no I was not snooping he left his wallet on the floor next to the remote and I just so happened to see a gold rapping and pulled it out and low and behold there were two condoms.

2007-09-16 11:30:17 · 27 answers · asked by TO 1

I just got out of an abusive relationship about a year ago but I find it hard to get myself back on track. Day in and day out I walk around cloudy minded. I can't think and any little noise gets me frustrated. Fussing with anyone makes me sick to the point of feeling like I am going crazy. I misplace things. My speech is slurred I get tongue tied all the time. I find it hard to just wake up in the morning, I am always tired. Even though I have broken away from my ex I still allow him to call our daughter every once in a while because I always want him in her life. It never fails once we try to make plans to meet up so he can see her we always get into arguments and I end up being called good for nothing a b*#%h, a bad mother, my husband is white and I am african american and sometimes he ends up calling me the "n" word. I just don't know how not to have contact with him because of her. I need help.

2007-09-16 11:25:30 · 4 answers · asked by t-t-n1979 1

My father passed away and left me a condo. there is a father,mother and 3 children living there. I had them sign a month to month agreement on which I give them 30days to vacate the premisses. My boyfriend and I live together and it is not working out and I want to move into my condo.
If they don't want to leave. what do i do?

2007-09-16 11:17:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am at home with a work related injury and with my three children. I confronted my husband over a personal matter and he dropped this bomb on me. I can't beleive he did not tell me.
We have had trouble in the past about him not telling me things and I find out later. yes i am mad. Its not the fact that he ate lunch its he kept it hidden. Three months is a long time and he wants me to just drop it.

2007-09-16 11:08:05 · 28 answers · asked by judith s 1

he keeps saying i am crazy....that he didn't cheat. i know he did. can't i make him feel quilty enough to confess?

2007-09-16 11:07:17 · 20 answers · asked by discofan 1

What is the best way to tell my Husband it is all over. I will get half his wealth as he is very well off.

2007-09-16 10:56:26 · 53 answers · asked by Sarah G 2

2007-09-16 10:42:58 · 21 answers · asked by Livia L 1

I'm having trouble accepting that I may never be able to say the few things I have left to say to someone who has hurt me very deeply. Even if I do get the chance to say these words directly I know I may not get the response I'm hoping for, which is just a sincere "I'm sorry". I wrote a letter hoping that just getting it out of myself would help, even if the letter never gets read. And it did, but not by much. Part of me still thinks I would feel better if it was read. But, I don't have an address to send it to so unless I purposely go to where I can find him that's not going to happen. He has my things and makes plans to return them, but cancels & will most likely bring by when I'm not home if at all. And I think that running around looking for someone and calling them sort of defeats your intentions of trying to let go. Will I really have to just sit and wait for time to heal this? Any advice from people who have been able to do this successfully?

2007-09-16 10:18:56 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

They say "Love "is supposed to be unconditional.
That's fine and dandy ,but what about physical and sexual attraction?When your significant other turns into a BLIMP are you supposed to still be attracted to the lump of lard?

2007-09-16 10:13:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm married to a wonderful man and have a daughter. He has got me a cleaner (i work two days a week)He also does the washing clothes and pots 80% of the time pays all the bills.I cook,iron,change the beds and take care of my daughter (17 months) and him and the dog.Also take care of him in anyway in the bedroom.Is this a good set up?

2007-09-16 10:06:39 · 13 answers · asked by noot 3

My girlfriend is 3 months pregnant with my baby & her parents are pushing us 2 get married. The only problem is I feel like she is still a little girl. She has left everthing up to me. I pay the rent, I pay the car notes, I pay the bills, and I pay for food. I understand that it's the mans job to be the provider, but then shouldn't the womans job be being the nurture? She doesn't cook, she doesn't clean, when I mention any of the above she gets an attitude with me. I havn't eaten a home cook meal for 10months, on my days off I find myself cleaning the house, & washing clothes. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not perfect, but am I wrong for wanting a little help? I would do anything for this girl, all I want in return is for her to cook me dinner, scratch my back when it itches, and make love to me a couple times a week. Thats all I want and she can't even do that! Am I asking for to much ladies? I've worked so hard to get where I'm at. I should be happy, but all I want to do is cry

2007-09-16 09:57:29 · 29 answers · asked by True Goon 2

My husband (very soon to be ex) left me 2 months ago for a woman he met online for sex. He has a webpage that I don't go visit buI heard through friends last night that he has already posted pictures of them (him and her) on it and also a brand new boat that he named after her (already knew he was an idiot but that is just plain stupid). He is a loser and I hear she is rich. Alot of people say that is only him trying to get some kind of reaction out of me playing that power card. I guess he figures word will get back to me that he is already happy with this other woman. It does bother me because we were married 8 years, but I would never ever belittle myself and call him up and cuss him out. He isn't worth it! Ever since he left I have not contacted him once. I figure if he did it to me, he'll eventually do it to her (cheated). I have no interest in jumping in a rebound relationship. Right now I am working on healing myself & I don't feel the need to get another man right away.

2007-09-16 09:53:07 · 8 answers · asked by texas_redlips 1

I am in a long-distant relationship.. and I have been in it for 1 1/2 years. The girl and I are thinking about get married as early as Jan. 2008.. the only problem is I wont have a lot of money saved up then ($20,000). Plus, I'm two years away from graduating from college. I'm wondering- would it be wise for me to put off my marriage to this girl for another extra 7 months, so that I can have twice as much money saved($40,000) up instead.. I think that way, we'd be much better off. What are your thoughts and ideas?

2007-09-16 09:32:48 · 12 answers · asked by gododjgjodjod 1

I have been with my husband for 8 years. We have 2 children 4 and 7. I work and do most of the childcare and feel quite resentful as feel taken for granted. I try to speak to my husband about this but he does not talk, he either walks out of the door and goes to the pub or tells me to move on and be more understanding. A yr ago I found out he had spent around £15,000 over a period of 2 yrs without telling me, this included money that I was saving into a joint account. I am deeply hurt and have lst respect and trust for him. When I try to talk about this he either shouts or tells me to get over it or leave. I am so, so fed up and unhappy. I am not sure what to do! He refuses to go for counselling and tells me that the problem is my behaviour. It feels as if he is always turning the blame on me and I am at a loss as to what to do. How can I save this?! Is it best to leave now and move on with my life? I feel alone in the relationship.....

2007-09-16 09:10:51 · 46 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3

2007-09-16 09:02:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i asked a question about being a lady in the streets and a bad girl at home.......i posted it in the proper section......the person that reported me got 5 thumbs down, and i blocked her......

what is her problem???? why so sensitive????

2007-09-16 08:59:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 21 and my husbands 22. we dont know any married couples our age. im also 29 weeks pregnant. our baby was not an accident. we got married and decided we wanted to start having kids while we were still young.

i know i shouldnt care what other people think but im tired of people thinking we only got married because we were pregnant or that we were married and got pregnant on accident. no one seems to understand that we're young but we wanted our lives like this. how old were you when you got married and had children? if you were young did you feel the same way? if you were older what kinds of things did you have to deal with?

2007-09-16 08:33:11 · 22 answers · asked by omama 3

2007-09-16 08:15:09 · 8 answers · asked by ShineOn 4

2007-09-16 08:04:58 · 2 answers · asked by Aaron 1

Just wondering,because isnt it earier for men to move on?Ive known a few marriges where the hubby is still with his wife..even after all the unfaithfullness,and whatnot.

2007-09-16 07:35:28 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 5 years now we have 2 kids. We married young b/c no one wanted us to be together. We loved each other more than anything. After a year of marriage we had our first child. then a year later our 2nd. I feel we married to early. He doesnt treat me the same anymore almost like we just live together. I dont feel we "love each other" that way anymore. I dont feel I can divorce him b/c Divorce is not an option in our families. I dont know what to do. I try telling him how I feel and he puts it back on me. Were not the happy family everyone thinks we are. Its a pretend Fake smile I have had to give the last few years now. I dont want to hurt him by leaving him but I feel I'm hurting myself by staying. I dont know what to do. I'm young still.

2007-09-16 07:35:15 · 14 answers · asked by iRock 1

okay so november of last year my dad told us (me my bro and mom) told us he had an affair. ok so they're divorced like most ppl rite? wrong. He came home for abt 4 months. My mom was leaving me (12 at the time) home alone on Saturdays from abt 7 am to 10 or 11 at nite. My brother had so much anger that he was never home either. and then we found out he started seeing "her" again. He got an apt and OMG my mom was such a suck up. she was calling him all the time and blah blah blah. THEN he was STILL seeing her and my mom wantied to "work on things" so he came home for a week and left AGAIN. now he is living with "her" My mom found out he took out a $20,000 loan with half her income to buy "her" a harley. My mom says she's gonna leave him but when ever she sees him she melts into him and acts like i dont matter. When ever i trry to talk to her she says "just leave me alone, this is none of your buisness!" I dont know what to do and i cant sit here and let her hurt me and my bro (18)help!

2007-09-16 07:19:42 · 19 answers · asked by ily912 1

somehting (he is 37, im 27) so lately I have been ignoring him and he says im being a bittch, i have ignored all his passes at me and said I have a headache, anyways what I want to know is, how can I make him really want me, cause when I go after him he never wants me.

2007-09-16 07:09:25 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-16 07:03:07 · 34 answers · asked by franj 2

my daughter is incarcerated as state prisoner in county jail. she wants to get a divorce from husband but doesnt know how to proceed

2007-09-16 06:18:43 · 2 answers · asked by carol m 1

I left home to visit my family in another state because of an emergancy, I was just emailed that my boyfriend packed up all my belongings and put them in my car on the street. I had no idea we were even having problems. I live in California and visiting in Idaho. Is that legal?

2007-09-16 06:14:32 · 12 answers · asked by ijustdon'tknow 2

Is it wrong for me to want my own checking account seperate from my bf? We have a joint account, but he controls every penny I make. He is angry that I want my own, but I just want to have some ocntrol over my own money. I never have any cash, while he always does. Why do I feel guilty for wanting my own?

2007-09-16 06:12:51 · 13 answers · asked by msbrat 2

Have you and your boyfriend/fiance/husband ever broken-up.... b/c they wanted it to end.... and they moved out.... but then they realized the grass is not greener on the other side and realized what they lost and then wanted you back??? Did you get back together...? How long did it take for them to come back... ? Was your love/relationship stronger once you got back together... ? Do you believe if it's meant to be the person you love and lost will come back... ? Please share your experience/wisdom.... going through a break-up after 11 years together and HE was the one who wants the break-up.

2007-09-16 06:07:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous