Have you and your boyfriend/fiance/husband ever broken-up.... b/c they wanted it to end.... and they moved out.... but then they realized the grass is not greener on the other side and realized what they lost and then wanted you back??? Did you get back together...? How long did it take for them to come back... ? Was your love/relationship stronger once you got back together... ? Do you believe if it's meant to be the person you love and lost will come back... ? Please share your experience/wisdom.... going through a break-up after 11 years together and HE was the one who wants the break-up.
2007-09-16 06:07:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has left and is not coming back. It is time for you to accept this and move on with your life. Good luck..
2007-09-16 06:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my personal experience, and what I have seen with friends, that they always try to come back at least once. I always recommend not allowing it. I tell them that when the ex begs to come back they should have the strength to say "no". By leaving they have implied that their unhappiness is a product of the other person's behavior. By returning it means that what they really wanted didn't happen so they are will to return to what they see as "second best". If they left you once, they will leave you again, just as soon as they find something else that gets their attention. Any self-respecting person won't give someone a second chance to treat them like crap.
2007-09-16 13:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years and a huge move out of state, i could not take him any longer. So I kicked him out made him move back with his mother. He got a great job making 28 dollars a hr. My life was wonderful, I was happy, went out had a "special friend". Then one day out of the blue he called. Told me he was lonely with out me and nothing felt "right". I thought long and hard about what he said to me. I realized I missed him ALOT. So I decided to let him move 1000 miles back home. This was the best decision I have ever made. He has changed, he is different. Yes we do love each other more and respect ourselves. We have been back together almost a year and I am sooo glad I let him back.
2007-09-16 14:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dnaleri 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are obviously reasons for getting divorced that could not be resolved. "WHY"...would you want to have him back so you can rehash all the bad that was done before?
If you cannot work it out before the divorce happens, NOTHING is going to get better if he decides to come back.
It just means that he realises the good thing he lost but it does not mean he's EVER going to do anything to make it better.
Gone is gone and that is how it "should" stay!
2007-09-16 13:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by mom tree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they often come back but it usually isn't out of love but need. its never the same u are always wondering when they will hurt u again. it would really be hard to go back to someone who wanted the breakup, because theres always going to be unresolved things there. i once had a love return to me, with me thinking he loved me and that was why he came back, thought i was special and it was meant to be, but in reality he only returned to me after he had problems with the girl he left me for. they will only come back if the one they have chosen to be with doesn't meet their expectations, than and only than will they be able to see that perhaps a mistake was made. i would be very Leary of someone who came back because it doesn't really mean they love u, because if they loved u they never would have been able to leave u in the first place. i do not think the love is stronger once u go back to them, because u have all these anxieties about what happened before, and wonder when will it happen again.
2007-09-16 13:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is the pot-smoking guy who racked up $15,000 of debt without your knowledge. Please do not fantasize that this guy is coming back and that your relationship will be stronger and better. He is not relationship material, both b/c of his substance abuse and his financial irresponsibility. If you were with him, he would only bring you down with financial and legal troubles, and more arguing. Sorry, but he's not about to magically grow up and change into the guy you want. It is strongly in your best interest to move on with your life.
2007-09-16 13:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first husband I left for about 6 months or so and I went back like a dummy because he threatened me with beating up the guy I really wanted to be with. It doesn't work if the person doesn't want to be with you. You can't make someone love you.
2007-09-16 13:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was with my first husband 11 years - 3 of which we were married. during dating, break up and make up all the time. during marriage, marriage just fell apart, i tried to make it work but he filed for divorce. 10 months after moving out, he made it clear to me that he didnt' want to get divorced. i decided i did not want any more back and forth and arguing and just being wrong for each other. am re-married and very happy for my decision.
2007-09-16 13:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes we tried again but didn't work lasted 6 weeks if that. He hasn't changed a bit he said he would after abusing me for 15 years I realised I'm better off without him!!!!
mandyr
2007-09-16 13:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by mandy r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a couple of relationships that tried for a second time. It very rarely works. THe original problems are still there.
2007-09-16 13:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋