im 21 and my husbands 22. we dont know any married couples our age. im also 29 weeks pregnant. our baby was not an accident. we got married and decided we wanted to start having kids while we were still young.
i know i shouldnt care what other people think but im tired of people thinking we only got married because we were pregnant or that we were married and got pregnant on accident. no one seems to understand that we're young but we wanted our lives like this. how old were you when you got married and had children? if you were young did you feel the same way? if you were older what kinds of things did you have to deal with?
2007-09-16 08:33:11 · 22 answers · asked by omama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i guess im just tired of people acting like we've ruined our lives instead of being happy for us like they should be
2007-09-16 08:38:04 · update #1
I was 22 when I got married and became a father, and it didn't seem to be a big deal to other people. Of course I could care less what other people thought.
2007-09-16 08:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was just under 19 and I was 24 when we got married and we had our first child 2 years later. Some people had their reserved comments, but now after 21 years of marriage and 4 kids, no one has anything to say (except, "How do you manage?", sometimes.).
If you two know that you have a good marriage and are willing to fight for that marriage every step of the way, as well as being good parents, don't worry about the nay-sayers. Just think - by the time you are 40, your oldest will be on his/her way to college. Many people, by 40, are fortunate if their oldest is as old as 10. You may even be a grandmother before you are 50 - young enough to have energy, good health and your own teeth.
Don't worry about what others say.
2007-09-16 09:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were 19 when we got married after dating for 2 months... and 20 when we had our baby. Everyone counted the months but I got pregnant a month after we were married. 6 years and counting we laugh on our anniversary about how many people lost bets on how long we would last. We wanted to be married and even though we went through some rough times I wouldn't miss a second of it. Of course, my older sister got married at 19 my best friends all were under 20 when they got married. So I had a whole support group, but I know what you're talking about, just laugh with your husband and trust me there are tons of people out there just like you.
2007-09-16 09:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by taken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married on my 19th birthday. I was 6 mos PG, and had 2 more kids by age 22.
We changed greatly over the years...and neither of us was happy by the time we were married for 15 years. We divorced after 24, and are both re-married....to people we SHOULD have been with all along.
I have to advise against young marriage, because I've been there & done that---and it eventually fell apart.
2007-09-16 09:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you were old enough to know your own mind and make your own choices regarding children when you married. Don't let what others may think bother you. You and your husband don't owe anybody an explanation or an apology. In fact, you don't even have to be polite to anyone stupid enough or rude enough to remark on your childbearing choices without you first asking their opinions.
Just for the record - I was 22 when I married a woman three years older than that, and we had our first child a year later. Had four altogether and don't regret any of it!
2007-09-16 08:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 23 when I got married had my first child at 25, now 15 years later, I am almost 40 and getting married again and I just had a baby last year.
2007-09-16 08:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since so many marriages do not last these days, it worries people when they see a young couple taking the plunge so early, and then adding kids on top of that. As a young Mother, it would have been nice for me and my husband to have had other young couples to hang out with. I recommend that you get involved in a group of young married-with-kids people. Maybe at your church, or heck...start a group yourself. It's important to have a network of support.
2007-09-16 09:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
engaged at 19, married at 21, (got pregnant on the honeymoon,) first kid at 22, 2nd kid at 26, divorced at 30. I wish I'd never married, but glad I have my kids...I really should have waited for it all....maybe 5 years to give myself time to grow up and experience life a little more..instead I grew up to be a mommy. Good Luck dear,...it is what it is and things have a way of working themselves out one way or another!
2007-09-16 09:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by aya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 20 because I wanted to - who cares what people think! You and your husband have made a life for yourself, it isn't for anyone to question your decisions! Congratulations on your marriage! Just think, by the time your kids are out on their own, you will still have lots of time to do so many things you always wanted to do when the kids were small!
2007-09-16 08:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by chefddr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i am married to my husband and i am only 20....we got married when i was 19...he is 21. we dont have any kids right now but we want some. he is in iraq and when he gets back we are going to try to make a baby. i dont see anything wrong with the fact that you want a baby now...it's your life and cant anyone tell you how to live it.
2007-09-16 08:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by *Jazzy* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋