somehting (he is 37, im 27) so lately I have been ignoring him and he says im being a bittch, i have ignored all his passes at me and said I have a headache, anyways what I want to know is, how can I make him really want me, cause when I go after him he never wants me.
2007-09-16 07:09:25 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seems you constantly rejecting him has backfired!
Do you only want to have sex if YOU initiate it ?
2007-09-16 07:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me...at 37, his back does hurt and he does get tired.
Men don't play games like females do and you are playing a dangerous game here, so yes, you are being a ***** and I agree with him.
Men don't play that way. When he's tired he says so. They don't do the silly, hurtful things like you are doing just to be spiteful.
Why would he "want you" when he knows you are doing things to spite him? What you CAN do is stop playing those nasty little games and act like the "woman" he expects you to be and not the spoiled, selfish child you are acting like.
ANY relationship CANNOT be based around sex if it's expected to last.
Maybe you can try being more caring and sympathetic and less agressive.
Sorry to say this but at 37, he has already reached his sexual peak and is on the down slide now.
2007-09-16 07:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by mom tree 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is getting tired of the headache excuses from you. You two are playing a game here, and you both will lose. Most people that have a spouse of sign other that keeps getting excuses goes elsewhere. He doesn't seem that attracted to you right now. Why should he want someone that keeps ignoring him. This is a two way street now a one way only when you want it.
2007-09-16 07:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by Momof2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF he wants you he will respond or he will go after you. There may be other problems that are causing him to turn off sexually. Stop playing sexual games of this sort, you have ignored all passes he has made and said you had a headache and sex relieves headaches. Now you want to know why he won't succumb to you. It's a power struggle now. Stop making passes at him when he is most likely making passses at someone else who won't tellhim they have a headache.
2007-09-16 07:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When he wants you and makes a pass at you, you ignore him and say you have a headache. Then you say "how can I make him really want me". I'm confused. He probably is too.
You guys need to talk about this. Tell him you feel rejected when you try to initiate and he refuses you.
2007-09-16 07:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost 39 and my gf is 27 so I know where you are coming from.
most likely he does not exercise or eat very healthy so his test levels are probably decreasing as will his sex drive. being healthy and physically fit is nothing but beneficial for the sex life. if his sex drive is low now at only 37 it will do nothing expect decrease as time goes on.
2007-09-16 07:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by lv_consultant 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well naturally you know that he is out of his prime sexually..and going into another phase of his life.
Men slow down with age.
He may have health issues that he does not want to share with you due to ego.
I hate to say this but he may no longer be interested or have some one else..
But what ever the reason is, you have to take care of you first!
Why would you be with a man that calls you outside of your name when you just want to please him?
Why would you want to be with a man you have to beg for intimacy when there's millions of men that would love to share that with you?
You may want to address your self love and security issues. Girl your in your prime find a man that wants appreciates and love you!
You cant force sexual chemistry.
Let the old guy go.find a young guy with a whole life ahead of him!.
2007-09-16 07:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by just to know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
37 years old, is a poor excuse to say he is too tired.Healthy men can have 50 or 60 years old,and they are sexually active.3 things may be are happening here: he does not love you indeed,he has somebody else,or simple he does not want to have sex with you.Talk with him seriously,ask him what is going on in his mind.If he does not want to fix this problem;you will need to move one;and find a man who will love you indeed.Talk with him first.Good question.Good luck.
2007-09-16 08:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a Woman, Sex is only good if she is mentally happy at the time. If he feels you are a B**** then why would he want to have Sex with you..viceversa..You two need to heal the things holding you back first and then proceed to the next base.
2007-09-16 07:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should he care, he obviously didn't respect you enough to marry you. Sounds like he got his feel. Now he's looking for a way out cause there's some thing new.
2007-09-16 08:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were making excuses before...you probably hurt his feelings. Some guys are more sensitive than others...and you probably need to apologize for being so unresponsive before.
But if he's calling you a *****, and isn't interested in sex after the apology...it sounds to me like he's already found some somewhere else. Might be time to dump him.
2007-09-16 07:14:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋