he keeps saying i am crazy....that he didn't cheat. i know he did. can't i make him feel quilty enough to confess?
2007-09-16 11:07:17 · 20 answers · asked by discofan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm confused about this....How do you know he cheated, to begin with?
I guess my most important question would be WHY you need to hear it from him, though. Why is it so important for you to make him feel guilty and confess? He has already denied it...
IMO, trust and respect are basic ingredients to a marriage.
IF you no longer trust him because you know/think he cheated on you, then what you have to focus on is what you will do about it.....Will you forgive and forget? Or will ask him to go to therapy? Or will you separate and divorce?
I think you need to sit down and THINK what you want to do; and also evaluate the possible outcomes. Others here can give you their opinion but the only one that will have to make a decision about what to do and how to handle this is you.
Perhaps you could try going to therapy by yourself so you can see what the issues are, and see if you can deal with them.
Good luck....Take care of yourself. Think about what is best for you.
2007-09-16 11:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
And when he confesses, what are you going to do? Probably nothing. The worst thing a woman can do is take a cheating husband/boyfriend back. When you take a man back, he consider you weak and he will continue to do it over and over and over again. Leave it alone, everything comes to light. The time you're taking nagging him, take that time trying to figure out how you're going to live your life without him, if he is in fact cheating on you. If he isn't cheating on you, he will eventually. People who are doing right and they are always being accused of doing wrong will most likely do wrong. Wouldn't you?
2007-09-16 12:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is exactly what they say when they cheat, that you are crazy. read a book called 'the script' it is all about that. there is another book by ruth houston about signs of cheating. he wont confess, by the way. he doesnt feel guilty, just annoyed that you are bugging him. the thing to do is act like you have forgotten all about it and watch carefully and catch him in the act. my friend insists that is the only way to do it. she used to work as a secretary for a private investigator and i am still fascinated by her stories of outrageous things people do to cheat.
2007-09-16 11:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't see it, or don't have any proof , all you have is your suspicions. So, what, you are going to proceed to torture him into confessing to something you only suspect?
(( obviously if you had proof you would not even be asking this question)).
Sounds to me like you are one of those crazy women who will torture him into a self fulfilling prophecy and then jump up and down and point and say "See you Bastard, I knew you were a cheater!"
2007-09-16 11:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
who cares apparently you have forgiven him. let it go. move on. that man is not going to confess. he you didnt catch him in the act, you can forget it. you are spending to much time and energy on something that you think happen vs. spending that time into making your marriage better. leave it alone. you cant prove it. so leave it in the past. grow up. if he wasnt cheating you dam sure is going to drive him too with all this nagging. GodBless
2007-09-16 11:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Do you have proof? If you keep accusing him, eventually he is going to cheat just to make your b***hing worth while. You're playing with fire and making accusations that you can't back up. Or can you?
2007-09-16 15:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few questions to ask yourself:
Do you think he will do it again?
What will you gain if you know for sure?
What will you lose if you know for sure?
Is it worth the pain of having it confirmed?
It is an awful situation to be in. It happened to me, and I answered 'no' to the last question and I decided to accept he was telling me the truth. We were together for a long time after that, God took him away from me in the end.
2007-09-16 11:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How do you Know he cheated? Show him whatever evidence you have, and confront him about it. But I have known men who will lie straight to your face, even when you show them hard evidence of cheating. That is when I just leave, and forget about them.
2007-09-16 11:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Stark 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO, if he'll cheat on you, then feeling guilty is out of the ??, He's also a liar, and a thief, he took something from you, and gave it to someone else!! kick him to the CURB
2007-09-16 11:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try Al Qaida torture techniques
2007-09-16 11:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋