Is it wrong for me to want my own checking account seperate from my bf? We have a joint account, but he controls every penny I make. He is angry that I want my own, but I just want to have some ocntrol over my own money. I never have any cash, while he always does. Why do I feel guilty for wanting my own?
2007-09-16 06:12:51 · 13 answers · asked by msbrat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, my Greatness! Girl, open your OWN account and have your paycheck routed to that account! He is so controlling right now, don't miss the warning signs. Sometimes, we have a tendency to do that. You guys are NOT married. Control your own finances. After all, it is YOU who Works for that Paycheck . Right? Don't lose yourself, best of wishes.
2007-09-16 06:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by rayne81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel I need to reinforce the other answers. Open your own checking and have your paycheck direct deposited. Me and my s.o. have been together for 3 years and lived together for 2, and we still dont have a joint account. We discuss finances once a month to split up the bills, so we pretty much know what the other has, but I have my own accts, and he has his.
2007-09-16 06:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to have your own account and control your own money...If he is that controlling already just wait until you are married.
2007-09-16 06:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is not wrong to have control over you own life. you're not married, why are you intimidated by his trying to control you? you make up your own mind. take care of yourself and go and open an account. if he doesn't like it , tuff. he can go find a different girl to control
2007-09-16 06:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty because you are being brain washed and controlled. I think you should get the heck out of that relationship before you lose your sense of self entirely.
2007-09-16 06:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong. He is a controlling SOB. You might want to look at the relationship cuz it's going to get worse.
2007-09-16 06:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no say in your financial matters and if he's controling you now this way,you'd better wake up and smell the coffee as it'll get worse with marriage!dump him now before he starts controlling everything you do.he sounds like a loser.
2007-09-16 10:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by bratt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your boyfriend control the mone you make? He has no right to the money you earn? Why is this guy your boyfriend?
2007-09-16 06:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your boyfriend not your husband. Get your own account!
2007-09-16 06:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Breezy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER combine incomes with someone who is only a bf!!! If you are not married incomes should stay seperate!
2007-09-16 06:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋