I am at home with a work related injury and with my three children. I confronted my husband over a personal matter and he dropped this bomb on me. I can't beleive he did not tell me.
We have had trouble in the past about him not telling me things and I find out later. yes i am mad. Its not the fact that he ate lunch its he kept it hidden. Three months is a long time and he wants me to just drop it.
2007-09-16 11:08:05 · 28 answers · asked by judith s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since he brought up like that, then you should be upset.
But in general, there is no foul in having lunch with co-workers, even when they are female.
It is such a casual thing that it doesn't cross one's mind. If he said by the way I been having lunch with so and so.... and oh I guess it been around 3 months or something, then it is no big deal.
At my place of work, we have student workers and full time staff, so lunch varies regularly with who ya have it. We are quite close in that regard.
2007-09-16 11:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you be mad if he didn't tell you that he ate with Henry and Fred the past 3 months? I bet not. It was lunch, nothing inappropriate like a 3-way. This was not a bomb. You've made it a bomb. There must be other things going on in the marriage that have caused you to pick a mole hill as your battleground.
2007-09-16 11:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
That's how my husband started out it was lunch then happy hour then more late night meeting then just not coming home for dinner.It was with two female co-workers as well I guess they think that no one will think anything is going on if it's three of them. It always starts out with the talking then comes the relating with each others problems and so on and so on. If i were you i would watch him very closely with the two female co-workers you and I both know how clever and deceitful a woman can be when she wants someone.
2007-09-16 11:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust, if you have it it shouldn't matter if he did or did not say anything about daily doings. If he has done something in the past that causes you to distrust him. Then yes he should have told you to be sure you understood. He should not do something to cause you to not trust him again. I'm sure in a relationship each party dose not want to have to remember to tell there better haft everything they do ever day just so they are not hurt or have a non trust issue. Is he doing something wrong that is causing this reaction? Then you have a right to confront him.
2007-09-16 11:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by nwohio43512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am just like you I would be mad also because what happens to your trust after that? It's not worth breaking up over but you need to let him know if doesn't get his act together he has to go and no more lunch with anybody unless he is open about who he is having lunch with and the reason why?
2007-09-16 11:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by t-t-n1979 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, people are being unfaily harsh with you, so i felt compelled to respond. i don't necessarily think anything is wrong with him having lunch with these woman. the fact that it's been what sounds like everyday for 3 months and this never came up in conversation concerns me. if you're truly communicating than he should have conveyed this in some way shape or form by now. sounds to me like he purposely avoided it, why might lie with you or him. are you overreacing to stuff so much that's he's afraid to talk to you (i'm guilty of this at times)? does he have a history of this sort of thing? is he being overly secretive? good luck, relax and thing before you speak to him.
2007-09-16 11:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant be serious? he ate lunch with 2 female co-workers in a public place for 3 month's ? well not like he was having intercourse with them is it? why is it such a big deal ? I mean if it was just 1 particular co-worker then maybe and i mean MAYBE you'd have something to worry about , but its 2 women in public where people can SEE them.
Let it go he's done nothing wrong.
2007-09-16 11:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lady grow up and get a life. you have too much time on your hands while in recovery. so what he had lunch with two female co workers did you catch him sleep with them NO. you need to find a hobby while you are home. i see why he would tell you the smallest and stupidest stuff because you make a mountain out of it. grow up. worrying when he starts lying about where he has been, when he doesnt come home, when he starts hanging out everyday of the week. stop tripping. GodBless
2007-09-16 11:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would just drop the matter. If he had lunch w/ one female, then I could understand you being a bit upset. However since it was 2 women I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-09-16 11:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by ~lattemom~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Communication. He should not be hiding things from you. tell him he needs to be open and he would not be hearing you fuss and complain..and personally he should not be having lunch with other woman..this is how things happen. I still do not understand how a man can smile in a womans face and act like its all peaches and creme when he knows he is not being honest with his love one. AND yes he is not being honest and open with you which = LYING! God Bless. Pray on your relationship.
2007-09-16 12:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋