Just wondering,because isnt it earier for men to move on?Ive known a few marriges where the hubby is still with his wife..even after all the unfaithfullness,and whatnot.
2007-09-16 07:35:28 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because it is easier or that is what they are used to ....they have issues of insecurity. Or are around for kids. I took hell from a now ex to keep enough money in the house for the kids. Sometimes you do what you have to. Another reason is that you hope the girl (in this case or a guy in others) wakes up...and doesnt
2007-09-16 07:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Bob D 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well what the law is it depeneds on where you are from. You have to work pretty much right up until you are ready to pop! Some places varey like i have 2 jobs i am a lawyers a assistant and a hairdresser with lawyers they would probley give me 12 or more the hairsalon only offer 6-8 no more. But what i found is staying home for the 1st 2 years is best for mommy and the baby! you will spend more money trying to find a sitter or day care to work then staying home and letting the man take care of the money! then after a year or 2 find another part time job you may even desire to go abck a little earlier but unless you have a really good job maternity leave really insn't worth it! think about it you will bring ur baby home get her/him on a schedual and then break it once it gets used to it! good luck!
2016-05-21 01:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how others response about honoring vows or what not, but people have divorced for less. I read an article about "starter husbands" where women will marry against their conscience to try it out. Then they regret it and divorce 1-2 years later. I am sure some guys do it too.
I am just showing you how marriage and divorce are being redefined these days.
I would say reason why men don't leave is because they are children involved. One of my dad's clients, a wife was cheating on her husband for like the past year or two before they found out. She doesn't work and they have 4 kids.... he still with them after he took some time away. He be up the creek money wise for sure.
From my experience, it is always the faithful and upstanding partner (man or woman) who usually gets cheated on. They are too nice to let them loose.
Relationships would be so much easier if we had to wear labels telling others if we are unfaithful or not.
2007-09-16 07:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some guys stay for the same reason a woman stays. If there is children involved it is easy to see the answer. When there isn't children involved no one but that person can really see the sense in it. Why stay? Fear (of dating again, of the unknown, of being alone), comfort or familiarity (already know this person and how they hurt me, why try someone else), low self-esteem (they feel they can't do any better), then of course there is love. Despite any an all ways that the relationship is unhealthy they stay because they love this person and do not want to lose them.
2007-09-16 15:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by bkdrm41897 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes longer for a man to commit, and when he does, the bond is deeper than for a woman. It isn't easier for a committed man to move on at all. If his wife leaves, he sees himself as a failure in a much deeper sense than women do. Also, a man in a committed relationship becomes very dependant on the woman for organizing ordinary, day-to-day life. She will take the place of his Mom. Financial problems are another factor, often a big factor. And children -- the man always feels shut out, like he will be second in their lives, and there is nothing he can do about it. If his ex wants to poison their minds against him, she probably can.
The story that men have it easier is nonsense. They make more money. All the rest is just as harder or harder for them than it is for women. It may come down to the fact that men can be in love with more than one person at a time. This may sound like an advantage, but it is NOT!
In the end, if the woman's finances are in order, she will eventually move on. Most men, unless they meet a fabulous second wife, will always mourn the end of their marriage or their major relationship. A wife's infidelity is the biggest blow, and is so hard for them to get over. Most women don't know how to treat a guy who has been hurt in this way, to help him heal. If you don't believe this, take a good look at the really happy second marriages, and observe what is going on. The men are so grateful it's amazing.
2007-09-16 08:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Pythia 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its' easier to stay with her, because of the comfort and his dependence on her.
If he stays with her and just has an affair on the side, he can continue his life style and keep up his image, and not make the kids suffer (if any are involved) as well as the rest of the two peopls families, instead of going through the pain/hardship of divorce and starting over from scratch with someone new.
2007-09-16 07:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have noticed that for men and women. I have been told in the past 'He/She is familiar to me.' I really think it is because they know that person will always be there no matter what or because dating is not the easiest thing in the world and not as much as a guarantee as a marriage/long relationship.
2007-09-16 09:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something they get use to their life with this person and don't want to change even if they are hurting and think that financially they will suffer, that's why some of them go outside the marriage to and find someone to for full there needs and they take their wedding vowels seriously and just stay. of either they feel they are to old to be alone.
hope this answeer your aquestion.
best of luck
2007-09-16 09:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men feel it is much "cheaper to keep her". They have all the perks in their marriage(see children all of the time, a maid, cook..and no child support or alimony)..why would they want to ruin all of that? A man will stay unhappy not to upset the stability and expenses that could accompany a divorce. A lot of the time the man loses most of what he has...a fling on the side will take care of his needs w/o upsetting the homefront..I know...I'm living proof..our marriage was over years ago..
2007-09-16 08:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy s 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it is a good,interesting, and a tough question.There are many reasons:Men love too much their wives,they do not want to get divorce.Also for many men is better still in the marriage,than to get divorce.They know, that the consequences of a divorce; are always painful,and more if they have children.There are more reasons,of course.
2007-09-16 08:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same reason why many women stay in unhealthy marriages and relationships. for some reason many people would rather be in a bad relationship than to be alone and on their own, it's sad but true.
with over 3 billion people on this planet there is no viable reason to stay in a unhealthy relationship and especially one that involves violence.
2007-09-16 08:13:22 · answer #11 · answered by lv_consultant 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋