We have been together a year, and both really want a life together...problemo...we will possibly live together soon, and have talked about getting married after his divorce has gone through next year.
When would be the right time to meet his 2 year old daughter, I dont want to rush into it...and mostly, I dont want it to impact his wife, as she tried to get him back recently, and Id sorta want to meet her and the wife before we get too carried away, because his daughter is such an important part of his life?
2007-09-16 18:44:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no...I never met him till after she left him.
He gave her plenty of options to try with their marriage....she only decided she wanted him back when she knew he was happy with me.
2007-09-16 18:51:42 · update #1
She said she didn't meet him until after he left her. As for when to meet the wee one, that's up to him. If it's really going to do more harm then good for the divorce I'd wait as long as possible, but moving in together before the divorce is final is a huge no no. If I was you I'd just stay in the background until after the divorce. She's only two and one more year won't make one bit of difference, but if you meet her and the ex blows up she'll make the divorce even harder for him. Just lay low, it's only a year. So start saving now for when the day comes when you two can finally be together legally. Also make sure he doesn't tell his ex you two are moving in together. Have him act like he has no idea how it's going to go and that they aren't even divorced yet so he hasn't even really thought about it.
2007-09-16 19:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Shel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together a year and are talking about moving in together, and getting married after the divorce, I think you are already "carried away" I would hold off on living together until after the divorce, but if his daughter is 2 then you could meet her whenever it was best for you and your boyfriend. She is so young that she will not understand the politics involved in a divorce. Have your boyfriend talk to his soon to be ex-wife and make sure it's ok with her first. Trust me this could get ugly so be prepared to not meet her until AFTER the divorce. Why do you want to meet his soon to be ex? I would let it go until after the divorce. Nothing good or productive will come of this, especially if she recently tried to reconcile. Does she not know he's been seriously seeing someone for a yr now? You have no reason to know her now, but if you are living together and he has his daughter you will most likely HAVE to see eachother every once and awhile. Maybe when he goes to pick his daughter up you could go with him and you 2 could be introduced, but again this should be AFTER the divorce, but RIGHT before you live together. Good Luck.....
2007-09-16 19:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, let him get the divorce and then think about everything else. As for now, it's like dividing a cow before it has even been shot.
2007-09-16 19:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him decide when is the right time for you to see his daughter.But the wife i don't it will be a pleasant experience right now,since she wants him back.Whenever life brings you together.
2007-09-16 19:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're what? The one who broke up the marriage? I don't think you should ever meet the daughter.
2007-09-16 18:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
After the divorce and before you move in together. Get the hint?
2007-09-16 18:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ur the other woman and you make it sound so casual etc....home wrecker
2007-09-16 18:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Sony 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
let the parents decide this...its their kid
2007-09-16 23:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋