why do some women think that they are better at raising kids then men are?

Question

i have twins and i see women all time saying that the kids should be with the mom!!!

i dont think this is true my kids are doing fine and i dare one person to find me a woman that would take better care of my kids then me!!!

men can do as good if not better of a job!!!

Answer 1

Because we are. Hahahaha joke.

Women have been raising children for years whilst their husbands went off to hunt food or work. I dont think that i am better at raising my son than my partner is i think we are both equal and on the same page.
We have the same ideas for raising him so it works.

It gets difficult when you disagree about certain things like how they should be punished etc.

It could also be because we give birth to them. there is a natural instict there. We think we are better because we went through the pain of giving birth to them.
i dont personally think like that but its just an idea.

Answer 2

I do not think it matters personally. I raise my son but my father was a much better parent than my mother and continues to be a positive role model in my life. My parents are divorced. I no longer have contact with my mother and I have been happily married for six years with a three year old son. My dad lives twenty minutes away and sees my family weekly. I think my husband and I are equally good parents. I think men can do just as good of a job raising kids as women sometimes even better than the mother.

Answer 3

Bravo and hurray for you!!!! Yes, dads can and should do just as good a job at raising their children as moms. And I am glad you have the opportunity to prove it.
Historically and even now, there are many instances of the dad not wanting to or opting out- and it is not as advertised that moms do it too!
In my case, my kids dad felt that they would be better off with me as I was able to stay home for a while and our youngest was only 2. As time went on his lifestyle and choices in partner did not allow for the kids to live with him full time so they are with me still 8 years later. If at any point he and I felt that it was in the best interest of our children to live with him instead, I would pack for them- with a heavy heart and terrible loss that they would never see.
And I feel as you do, no one else, man or woman, will love them or raise them as I will. That is the difference between a father and a dad!

Answer 4

I commend you for doing such a great job. You are right, there probably is nobody that can take care of your kids better than you. I think we all feel that way about our children. I have 3 kids and I feel I take care of them better than anyone, however I am their mom and I know what they need. There are, I have discovered, others who come pretty close... their dad, their grandparents. It sounds like you were offended by somebodies comment, just ignore them and keep up the good work.

Answer 5

If society was to register this fact that regardless of the gender, adults can take care of their own children, and whether they do a good job or poor job of it depends on personality rather than gender, the hyped up value of women and motherhood suffer a great blow. You don’t want to do this right? You like women in general; you have your mother, your wife, gfs, daughters and friends who are women. As long as everybody is happy, let the present notions continue. Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you.

Answer 6

Great and glad to hear it! But I do think you're not the average man.. I believe women think we are best suited for child rearing because, as you already must know, it takes alot of patience. Most men are not so patient. Crying gets on their nerves and changing diapers, wiping up throw ups etc. is just not for them. Even alot of women can't deal with it and it's "daycare here we come." Congrats on being a good dad and taking great care of your kids. Keep up the good work!

Answer 7

I don't think so. I know lots of women who suck at raising their kids. And more and more men these days are choosing to be more of a influence in the raising of their children, and I give many kudos to them!! Its a great thing!!
I can't believe someone would have the audacity to actually say that to you!! Crazy!! Well that just shows what kind of people they are and that their opinions can't be much better..lol! Good for your for raising your twins, and don't let stupid people get to you.

Answer 8

Why? Well it has to do with traditional gender roles. People, especially those prone to give in to stereotypes and our sexist history, believe that motherhood is an instinct, that women are born to breed and that mothers should stay at home with their children. We are culturally trained to think this way from birth, too few question the inequality of gender or the training of 'nurturers'. These 'people' think then that fathers don't have this instinct or ability because they didn't go through the trauma that women do in giving birth, as if trauma and hormonal imbalance makes one a better parent. Besides, historically men were to be providers for his slaves...er I mean wifes and children. Men were not to be emotional or caring or at all anything, but logical means of survival.

Any woman who gives you a hard time for having your children isn't a woman worth dating. She wants a pig not a man because she is essentially a doormat or a bint who worships the instincts of motherhood, which by the way, are not very effective in the current world.

Answer 9

My mom always said, "It takes more then sperm to make a daddy".
Unfortunately, the reason most women believe that is because they see how little their children's father does with their kids.
I've known many single fathers who were excellent parents to their children and I don't believe that only woman can raise kids right. If a parent wants the child, loves it unconditionally and always has the child's welfare in mind, it doesn't matter if it's the mother or the father.
Kudo's to you for being a great father! I wish there were even more great dad's out there then there is.

Answer 10

Some men (like maybe you) can do a fine job raising kids. But most men are not as nurturing as most women. It's just a fact. Men are competent, but not nurturing. I am lucky because my husband is very nurturing, too, and we raised our kids together. But, if I hadn't been around, he'd have done fine. Don't insult women, though, by asking why we think men can't raise kids as well. We know some men can. But many men cannot. There are more divorced fathers refusing to support their kids than there are mothers refusing to support their kids. It's a fact.