My stepson is 18 and we are selling are home to move to another state.He wants to stay behind because jobs pay more here in ct.Was going to give him my old car but his mother is angry and will not allow me to give him the car and she has told me that if he wants to stay that he must do it on his own.
2007-09-16 17:07:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's a newsflash for his mother....the kid is 18 and therefore can do as he pleases, including accepting gifts from family members.
2007-09-16 17:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife is being unreasonable. The boy is 18. He's a legal ADULT. I know he'll always be her little boy, but he is old enough to stay behind and live on his own and, if he could really use your old car, she should let you give it to him. She's trying to force him to go with you. That's not fair. His home is there in Ct. and all his friends are there, too. She needs to be supportive of his decision. If she is adamant that he can't have the car, then sell the car and give him the cash so he can have a down payment for purchasing one on his own.
2007-09-16 17:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's 18- legal adult in all states. It sounds like you must have developed a good relationship with your step-son to offer to help him out! His mother is angry right now and doesn't want you siding with him but since you have developed this relationship with him, you might remind her that you have treated him like your own son and that this is what you would like to do to help him.
He will have many times which he may call home and ask for money. Hopefully, if you can handle it, you will send him something when you feel it is right. Other times you may say you just can't. That's what parents do who aren't angry with the young person taking off on their own.
I wish you and him the best of luck. There are far too many kids who don't want to get out on their own and think that parents will support them all the time.
It is a lot harder now than 15-20 years ago!!!
2007-09-16 17:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his mother needs to lighten up some.. hes 18.. she could give him a place to stay till he has job and working toward moving out.. i would give him the car anyway if he wants it and you want him to have it.. make sure your name is off it completely and insurance too.. you dont want to be responsable for something he does or doesnt do... if she wont help him in no way then he might have to go with ya and do the best he can.. dont sound like him and his mother get a long very well. good luck on the move..
2007-09-16 17:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is 18. It is his decision but you need to help him understand the facts or should I say expenses of life. If he stays, you can still give him the car. BUT it is his decision and has to suffer the consequences. If he can't make it on his own then he can always move to where you live later.
2007-09-16 17:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She won’t ‘allow’ it? If it’s YOUR car, she can’t prevent it. Although, she’ll likely be upset with you and you’ll have to face that consequence, but…
I don’t know why she’s so upset about it anyway. He’s an adult and can live where he wants. Besides, his reason for staying behind (not that he even needs one) is very logical.
Does she really expect him to live near you guys his entire life? That’s an unreasonable expectation. My opinion--she needs to learn to let go.
2007-09-16 17:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife is being controlling. I would give him the car and try to help set him up in a apartment and make sure he is established.
SHe does not want to cut hte strings.
BIll
2007-09-16 23:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically if the birth mother doesn't want you to help i doint think you can do much about it. However if your stepson wants to leave her house then he's basically on his own and she no longer can make decisions for him. If you want to help you could do so by helping him move out of his already over possesive mother
2007-09-16 17:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is mean of her but what does your husband say about it? I don't think I would go against her unless my husband said OK. 18 is still kind of young. Does he seem responsible?
2007-09-16 17:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the mom. He is 18 time for him to be an adult and find his own way!
2007-09-16 17:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋