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Question

this is not a question about getting married or anything too serious, well i mean if theres really a connection there who knows. anyways do you have a problem with dating or hooking up with a younger man like early 20s?

the reason i ask is because i was talking to this woman for a while at a local nightclub, and she seemed really intrested and then she found out i was only 21 and practically ran. i was under the impression that older women were into younger guys. im into older women so i just want to know if there are certian procedures to this or what?


note: don't tell me i should be seeing people younger or the same age as me, been there, done that, alot, and i don't want to deal with that drama anymore. im only posting in this section because the dating area is swarmed with 13yr olds with their expert advise, and questions about "omg, i want to kiss him/her but im so nervous!!! LOL" you know what im talking about.

Answer 1

Sorry I like men a year or more older then me....Young ones aren't trained right.....lol...

Answer 2

Okay, I am not an expert, nor am I that much older, I am 25, but, I will tell you that I agree with you on the drama! And I have known many people in relationships with an age difference. Chemistry and/or love have no age limits. If you like, love, or care for someone, age shouldn't matter. Don't let anyone tell you different. But I will let you in on a secret...most older women are like you, been there, done that. They have mostly seen alot and been hurt alot. There is alot of drama in dating and relationships, as you know. Older women may have a hard time seeing that you are infact, mature. If you are intrested in someone, try telling them a bit of your past. Explaining the need for yourself to find a mature, experienced woman. Woman love honesty! Remeber that an older woman has most likely been "played" several times. They can see through alot! They may be more nervous than you think. Be honest, patient, look them in the eyes and speek the truth. Good Luck and I hope this helps you.

Answer 3

She may be under the impression that you are playing games and not serious due to your age. I would explain to her that yes you are younger but that you are not looking for a 1 night stand. I would imagine an older women would just ***-u-me you are looking for a good time. Maybe a nightclub isn't the best place to meet an older women! I know you wrote that you have dated in your own age range and that it was all drama, but keep in mind these "older" women look at you and automaticaly see drama with you! It's a 2 way street. Just be honest about your age and intentions up front. This should help weed out the people that are to narrow minded to actually care about what you want. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I think there are probably a few older women out there who wouldn't mind dating a younger man. But few would think of them as future long term relationship material. Probably a big reason for that is that they figure one day you'll wake up next to them and realize that you're with a woman who can't have children any longer, has sagging boobs and tons of wrinkles and you'll leave and find someone closer to your own age who you can start a family with. Or they figure you're only interested in what they have financially and they don't want to be used or look silly (others will think they are being used). Or they think that while you're great for a little fun fling, you are too immature or unsettled for a serious relationship, don't have yourself financially grounded, or know exactly where you're headed.

Personally I'm married (26 years) to a man 6 years older than me (I'm 44, he is 50). Sometimes the age difference, even though small, is enough to cause some issues. I love to snowboard, he says he's too old. So I'm stuck going by myself (although I taught my nieces last year so now I have some partners for riding). I like the same music as my nieces and my husband hates it. When we go somewhere I have to listen to what he likes and it sort of drives me crazy.

Bottom line, there are a lot of possible problems with a big age difference and a lot of women aren't willing to risk it. But there are some out there who are. I'd just keep your age to yourself until they get to know you better. If they are still into hanging out with you then you can break it to them slowly. If you're in love age doesn't make that much difference.

Answer 5

You don't say how much older! 5, 10,15 or 20 years? I have a rule that I would not date someone young enough to be my son. You enter a different generation. And since I really don't like the idea of "hooking up" with no other common interest- I've been there and it made me feel empty and dirty somehow- I guess 10 years would be the biggest gap I'd be comfortable with- younger or older!
Now my mom, on the other hand, has been with her boyfriend for 21 years and he is 12 years younger.
You just have to keep looking until there is a good match! Good luck!

Answer 6

If he wasn't married, I'd swear my husband wrote your letter. He's always been into older women.. generally 15 years or more, then him.
It's an image thing. I'd never dated a man younger then me and when I met him, he looked 18. I was in celebrating the passing of my 27th birthday when he hit on me. He asked me how old he was and I told him I was 36 to scare him off. He was even more interested and said he was 25 (I actually carded him LOL). I got over the slight age difference and he got over me not being as old as he liked.
I still cannot stand for someone to refer to him as his 'old lady' and I really hate when someone thinks he's my son but honestly, we rarely notice the age difference.
An older woman with a younger man makes the woman feel like she looks older to everyone else.
An older man with a younger woman feels like he looks younger to everyone else.
That's why you tend to see the men being older in the May-December romances.
Next time, take a cue from us ladies. When you're asked your age, be evasive. Or flat out lie... we sure do! LOL

Answer 7

I am 43 years old and I don't like to go out with men younger than me. The last boyfriend I had was 39, and to tell you the truth I felt really uncomfortable. I had very, very young men after me and I feel disgusted. The reason behind this is that I have a 25 year old daughter. Therefore, if a guy is my daughter's age, or young enough to date her it's a real turn off for me. As far as I know my friends don't like to date younger men either...I think is a matter of realizing our own age and being comfortable with it. Good luck!

Answer 8

I'm 30 and personally I wouldn't want to date anyone significantly younger than me, certainly not anyone in their early 20s. I mean absolutely no offense. I think a lot of that is a person in their early 20s is not really established in their life yet- they're still becoming an adult. I also would never want to feel like I was the older woman. There is something very unsexy about that (to me, anyway).

I hope that makes sense.

Answer 9

don't give up honey.....if you think your mature enough to attract an older woman, just use that to your advantage. Personally, i dated a guy who was 21 once and i was 30 at the time...........it was a disaster, but that was then. I'm now happily married to the man of my dreams for the past 5 years. just don't be so quick to give up on ladies your age either....you probably just have not found a mature young lady as yet :-)


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maybe try a park/ fitness club/ bookstore/ coffee shop or somewhere of that nature to meet a nice lady. not the nightclubs :-(

Answer 10

I'm 32, and I feel like I would fall under your "older women" requirement in answering this question...

It depends entirely on the woman...
Maybe you should consider not limiting yourself to one certain type or age of woman...

Personally, I've always dated and had relationships with men that were decades older then myself... since my first relationship. I've never dated anyone younger then 13 years my senior.

Hope this helps!

Answer 11

I am 50 and if I wasn't married to my soul mate then yes I would date someone as young as you. It is all about your maturity level. I do not look my age....needless to say I look much younger but maturity is important for the older woman not to get bored. The sex at first might be fine but maturity will keep her coming back. Age is only a number.....