Tomorrow is my birthday, I have been married for 5 years, my wife and I are separated and we have 3 boys together, I love her, but she is self centered, when I ask about why things are the way they are I get"this is the way it is, there is nothing I can do about the way you feel or anything, its up to you",I don't take advantage of anybody, but I feel that I am being taken advantage of. I am not mean or selfish, I take care of the kids and I am cool.
ideas?
2007-09-16 16:21:19 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, Who's got the kids and Why? you're separated at 5 years. The national average for divorce is 6 years. You are probably in misery, and at this stage people get divorced. If you're the one wanting the relationship and she don't, it's time to kiss her goodbye, and begin a very healthy relationship with your kids. If you're meant to be together, she has some work to do to. Otherwise, Sionorra Sister! I'll just go find sombody else.
2007-09-16 16:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by runner45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what does she mean by her statements. You and her need to discuss your problems and why each of you feel the way that you do about each other. If there is no compromising or solving this situation Get on with your life. Life is too short
2007-09-16 16:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by fiberglassliper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the problem is your wife has dug in her heels and is not going to move. At least that's what I'm getting.
At some point you're going to have to make a decision as to whether you can live with it or not. I live with it and I can tell you there isn't a day that goes by where I don't question my decision.
2007-09-16 16:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard that life is to short to be unhappy, that is the vibe i get from your statements, you do right with the boys and that is the way it should be but to stay with someone self centered and be unhappy when life is but a vapor somehow seems like the thing not to do
2007-09-16 16:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being selfish and she is in denial. She won't admit she is wrong and no it is NOT the way it is. She chose it to be that way. Don't let her take advantage of you. All she will do is break your heart.
2007-09-16 16:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by conny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, let me tell you. u may think you are cool, but why did she leave you? U leave her? All men say that woman is selfish,since we do not have her side, I can only ask this: what made u marry her?? marriage is a two- way street and it takes two to tango, so to speak.
2007-09-16 16:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change another person. If she says that's the way it is, unless she changes her mind, then that's the way it is. It IS up to you; you need to change your thinking and accept her as she is. She's unhappy with you, and there's not much you can do about it. Learn to accept that she has a mind of her own. Good luck and keep hanging out with the kids!
2007-09-16 16:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by red 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
life is short dude. i wouldn't waste another minute trying to fix the unfixable. if she's self centered then that's the way she'll be for the rest of her life. if you can't live with her faults, move on. it's gonna hurt but it's better than spending your life with someone you almost love.
2007-09-16 16:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is a 'but' on the end of any sentence like that then its not worth it - it should be a full stop
2007-09-16 16:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋