2007-09-16 16:27:19 · 7 answers · asked by dj_alex_burgundy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because women wont burn bridges...
plz, answer my question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Apckvs7TPN1BC5Ec2p8rZansy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070916200101AAbKq7W
2007-09-16 16:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced. He didn't ask.. Just told me, "I got a lawyer, and you better get one too. We're getting a divorce." He didn't find it hard to say and it was only 1 month after my beloved father died suddenly..Also, we were married almost 31 yrs. So, if you want one and it's hard to ask, then maybe you're not sure you really want this major change in your life. And boy is it!! I've been divorced for 7 years now and I do it all. Mow the lawn etc. And forget living at a standard to which you were while married. Not even close! Now all I do is worry if I'll outlive the little money I have. Divorce is a major life change, especially the longer you've been married and the older you are.. Apparently, some people have no trouble asking for a divorce..If your not sure, then wait til you are..There's usually no going back when it's over.
2007-09-16 17:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple: Asking for a divorce can feel like admitting to failure. The marriage is half yours, and you had many hopes and dreams when you entered it. You took vows, and likely had very idealistic visions about how your marriage would be unique and special. Asking for a divorce is acknowledging this did not work out the way you wanted. Admitting any problem to yourself is very difficult, be it addiction, a deadly disease, or a financial failure. It's called denial, and we humans are great at it.
Lesser reasons are your desire not to hurt your partner and possibly your children. None of us likes to hurt other people. Additionally, actually asking will likely very quickly become a non-reversible life-changing event - your divorce. Remember how tough it was to pop or answer the question to commit to marriage? It's final, and it will change everything forever.
Often though - divorce is for the better. If you seriously can't see spending dacades longer at someone's side....you know what to do.
2007-09-16 16:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by whatamidoing11_11 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you’re scared of the unknown and losing what you have (even if your relationship is not really making you happy or you hope being out of it will). If you have financial items together (i.e. house, car, savings) then splitting them up is a hassle (but so worth it). If you have kids then it’s even worse (so if you’re thinking about doing it, do it before you have kids). However, if you’re not happy, you’re not happy and you should get out of it. The other thing might be going on is that you’re afraid of being alone for life because you took a chance to be happier (it’s a high probability that you’ll find someone else – so I wouldn’t worry too much about that). It’s a chance and if you think you’ll be happier then it might be a chance worth risking. Just make sure you have friends that will get you through it if you do.
2007-09-16 16:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by hat and glasses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "file" for divorce. You do not have to ask, just move out.
2007-09-16 17:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you may still be in love with the guy and you don't wanna break it off..and maybe you feel thats the only way to keep him close...or fiance may be in issue also
2007-09-16 16:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are scared of how they are going to take it.
2007-09-16 16:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋