I have been with my husband for 3 years and married for 1.5years, we have a beautiful 14month old daughter. We recently moved in with his grandmother and his parents (That's another story!), I'm having a really rough time dealing with being a first time mum, a young wife, a carer of his grandmother and living with us all in the one house (his mum and I don't get along too well). His mum constantly puts me down and my daughter has had to become my 3rd priority because mymother in law is so pushy... I threatening to leave and he says nothing, he insists that he does love me but wont even pull his mum up when she verbally abuses me... I don't know if I should go as I love him so much but there hasn't been a day this whole month I haven't cried...
I have a beautiful big house to move into where we don't have to pay a cent and no one else will be there.
2007-09-16 20:16:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you should definately move to the big beautiful house,you'll find your husband will probably follow you anyway,i certainly don't think your daughter should be 3rd priority,she should come before anything else in your life and moving to this house would be great for you and your daughter,go for it!! As for the mother in law,you need to get away from this asap, you have enough on your plate with your child rather than having to be run down for things you do.
2007-09-16 22:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you are not enough experienced to take care of your child please don't. Because even his grandmother or mother were first time mom's when they had their first children. So do not be afraid of leaving. You can take care of your children and your house together. Ofcourse you'll need help but the first person who can help you should be your husband. It is your husband's child too.
You should leave and do not let other people to abuse you. Maybe they lived in such an environment before but this does not make them right to abuse you.
If you go and leave sooner or later your husband will follow (if he doesn't want to lose you) just you should be a little brave and determined. If you can make them feel that you made up your mind then no one can resist you.
Good luck
2007-09-17 03:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ardelia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why are you guys all living together if you have a big house of your own? If you have this house, then move. Let him stay with mommy and grandma,or whoever. Don't model this type of behavior for your child. Be a decisive, mature woman with boundaries and who can stand up for herself. Take care of yourself and your needs if no one else will.
2007-09-17 03:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that in the beginning of the relationship (which it sort of is with the young daughter), you have to show that you have the balls to leave him and be happy.
If you love something - let it go, if it comes back to you - it is yours, if it doesnt - it was never meant to be.
2007-09-17 03:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you move out of his mothers house i guarantee you he will move with you. He doesn't want to leave his mother that's understandable but he will if you leave right now he is just trying to make you think other wise.
2007-09-17 03:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then go why deal with that abuse. he should want to go to. got to leave the nest sooner or later
2007-09-17 03:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd go. why won't he go with you? I don't get why if you have someplace to go, you three had to move in with his family. That just doesn't make any sense.
2007-09-17 03:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋