my wife gets upset because i check on her. she takes it personal because she feels degradated and like a person that should not get trusted. I personally dont care if she checks on me, because of the fact that i am faithful and have nothing to hide. as a couple, i thing we both have the right to investigate if there is something that is not quite right. Am i doing wrong by checking on her even though i am not gonna find anything, and why does whe get so bothered about it.
2007-09-16 16:06:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should find that flattering...unless...shes up to no good.
Good Luck with that, pal.
2007-09-16 16:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Checking on her how? Calling her friends to see if she is telling the truth? Checking with her boss? Looking at the mileage on her car? Hiring a private investigator?
Calling once a day to say hi and see if she needs anything on the way home is sweet- as long as you don't get upset if she doesn't answer the phone!
If there are things going on that are not quite right, then ask her about them. And take a close look at how picky you might be acting. If she is innocent as you suspect, then back off or you will push her right out the door.
2007-09-16 23:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the both of you should sit down and TALK.
Sounds as if maybe your a little jealous. Do either one of you have a reason to feel the way that you do? If you don't have trust you don't have anything. You should respect each others feelings and try to talk it over. This marriage wont last if you both don't do some changing.
2007-09-16 23:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by fiberglassliper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So your wife has told you about something that you do that upsets her and makes her feel degraded and you are still doing it. This is not respectful to her and it does not in any way show that you trust her.
You have trust issues - spend your time figuring out what that is about and you'll solve this one.
2007-09-16 23:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by banana6464 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all about trust. You have to trust her. You must have some insecurities to check up on her all the time, no wonder she is upset. I would lay off the "spying" for a while and see where that gets you. I am honest with my hubby, he trusts me and I tell him the truth. No checking up needed. Start loving and trusting your wife. If you continue to check up on her, you will only end up pushing her away. She is right, you are wrong...sorry.
2007-09-16 23:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Even though she is doing nothing wrong you shouldn't be checking on her....sorry I hate it when I feel like I am being checked up on all the time for no reason. I like my time to be just that my time and, when someone questions what I am doing or why it rubs me the wrong way. You either trust her or you don't. Right now she feels you don't.
2007-09-16 23:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
always remember if your female have nothing to hide she will be okay with that. If she likes to hide from you ofcourse she will get upset. you are her husband and you have all the right to do so. the truth is that if you feel there is something wrong is because there is.
2007-09-16 23:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by einsteinliam2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a housewife and my husband calls me at least one a day if he isn't too busy. I am glad because sometimes there are things I need to tell him before he gets home and sometimes it is nice to here from him. We have been married for almost 6 years but have know each other for 12.
2007-09-16 23:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by moonchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether you find anything on her, she feels you don't trust her. The only way to prove that you do trust her is to not check up on her !!
2007-09-17 01:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, you say you trust your wife...NOT SO...
If you did you would not check on her...You sound like a jealous husband...I hope it`s not the case.....
If you know she`s not cheating, WHY are YOU checking???
SORRY, I don`t believe you don`t care....You just don`t trust her.... that`s my opinion..................
2007-09-16 23:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not 5, you don't have to "check on her".
If you trust her, then leave her be. She doesn't check on you.
If my husband went around "checking on me", he'd be "checking" his bags at the Holiday Inn, and I would forward his mail for him. I'm a grown woman, and so is your wife.
2007-09-16 23:17:20 · answer #11 · answered by Y U 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋