ok i need help with understanding y a mother would keep the children away from thier father?

Question

ok my soon to be ex-wife is keeping my kids from seeing me. 2 wks ago she called the cops 2 days before i was getting my kids for the weekend and told them i violated the order of pro she had put on me when we first split and ive followed it to the tea but every since then she wont let me see the kids and its agravating. ive hired an att to do my divorce and my visits with my kids . but her mom is in the middle of all of this **** . i just want an answer on this

Answer 1

Women generally withhold sex to get what they want. After a bad break up, the guy doesn't give a monkeys if she withholds sex. He's not attracted, to her, anymore and he can find it somewhere else. Feeling powerless, she uses the kids as a makeshift weapon.

Answer 2

Been there done that still going through it. going on five years and still fighting it. there could be many reason why she is doing it. here are some my or may not be your case. one she can prove you have abused her or the kids or that you will. or you havent and she is trying to prove it. Witch if that be the case always have someone around you that you can use as a witness as to what when and where. keep a daily log of everything when when and how that way you can give it your attorney. also maybe she is trying for full custody for higher child support and spousel support . and also keeping the kids from you is just another way to hurt you. record any phone calls that you and her have but make sure you tell her it's being recorded. when you go to pick up the kids for you visits go to the police dept and ask that a cop go with you so that she cant make any fales claims agaents you. You need to keep a daily log on everything you do with or without kids if you talk to them on the phone or not but what ever you do don't call her home a hundred times a day once or maybe even twice a day to talk to the kids. once if you get to talk twice if not. Judges hate that it is torture to the kids too. there are many reason that she could be doing it most likly it's just to hurt you though and it will get cleared up at the custody hearing. Good luck we have been fighting for my husbands kids for five years now. It will never end. But we've had custody for alittle over three years now. so good luck to you. oh and no matter what don't ever say anything bad about her in front of around the kids because that makes it alot worse on them not her. and she will probaly be saying all kinds of things about you so don't do that to them it will hurt them for ever.

Answer 3

you've already done what u can do which is get a lawyer, and unfortunately u may have to just wait till ur divorce is finalized and a judge gives you visitation rights.. it sux no doubt, but if thats all she has to do to keep u from being able to see the kids then she will continue to do so.. it sux but dont give up, im sure your lawyer will have some solutions for you , im sure your not the first man to go though something like this.. and what she's doing is just wrong.. and only hurting the kids.. although in her mind she's only hurting you.. If i were you.. id start documenting everything.. kinda like a diary.. of what u did, where u were.. times etc.. that way when she wants to pull in court that u've violated the order , your judge can ask her for proof of this, and u can go back and say hummmmmm Sept 5th, i was at work at the time she says i voilated the order and i can prove that your honor.. , and the judge will see that she's the one lying and not you and it wont look good for her thats for sure..
Do everything u can with in the law, to keep fighting for the right to see your kids.. my husbands x did the same to him, when she decided that she wanted a divorce, he said fine but he wasnt going to leave the house, he figured if she wanted out she should leave, so she went down to the police station and filed an abuse charge on him that he never did, just to get him removed from the house, and he didnt see his kids for 4 months till they got this all ironed out.. so i feel for u.. so dont stop trying..

Answer 4

relies upon on father and the region the toddler would be put in at the same time as over there. If the mummy knows and the daddy is fairly doing drugs, or something undesirable. Or somebody interior the home is fairly untrustworthy like an ex convict or regular to be violent. Or if the family members isn't worth for a toddler, then confident the mummy can say no. look at your self and your housing undertaking. are you waiting to domicile your toddler for the time you prefer to verify them? Do you have room for bedding and play, nutrients, water, heat temperature if this is chilly and coolness if this is warm? Are the kinfolk devoid of subject? Is the courting between you and your loved ones solid? you may look at that. i'm no longer implying in any way which you're actually not worth, yet you may look at your undertaking. A mom has 9 months to coach for the toddler and make issues secure and gentle for the toddler so she has in all threat achieved that in the time of her eyes. you may instruct her a similar. additionally bear in mind if she is breastfeeding their may well be themes with nutrients. formulation is expensive and in case you reside a good distance away this is impossible for her to pump sufficient to feed the toddler at the same time as at your domicile. So I could say, no this is no longer incorrect if there are themes someplace. in spite of if, if she's purely preserving the toddler at her domicile because of the fact she does not such as you it somewhat is incorrect and you may bypass to court docket each time and get custody worked out.

Answer 5

Danger! This woman and her mother are bad news! I take it the divorce is not final..was there a visitation plan ordered by the court or is this something she cooked up?
Were you served with an OP order of protection? Did you modify it? Did you get the police report?
Without knowing the fine print of the OP it is hard to say if she is in violation of whatever kind of agreement you have.
I would suggest you start reading and making phone calls both to Father's Rights and to superior court. Father's rights orgs are on line and avoid the one trying to sell you stuff you still can learn a lot about what you need to tell your lawyer. I do not have much faith in lawyers. See, women tell their lawyers what to do and most men get screwed. Our legal system isn't about justice. The ones who are the most prepared can get what they want. Keep on that lawyer....So you need to fine out what's up in YOUR state, never let your guard down and fight for your children's rights. That is the wording you need to start using: "My children have the RIGHT to have their dad in their lives" Judges are more willing to listen to that than "I haven't seen my kids"
Read up on PAS too. parent alienation syndrone: when she fills their heads with cra* about you.
Oh and DOCUMENT everything and sumit in ourt as needed.

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear another woman is keeping her children from their father.. I suggest you petition the court for family counseling.. This will help your children understand what is going on also since they are probably getting mixed messages. It will also be a neutral place with an intermediary to help you and your ex come up with a reasonable parenting plan. Remember to pay your support even if she is messing with you.. You want to keep your children the priority in this equation.

Answer 7

Probably revenge for something. People are always putting their children in the middle, its horrible.

But if she is honestly is looking out for the best interest of the children, then she probably thinks the children being with you is in someway harmful for them. But she would really need to prove that to the courts in order for her to actually be able to keep them from you.

Just keep fighting for your kids, don't give up.

Answer 8

Anger. Revenge. Just to stick it to you. Sometimes adults do not act mature in a divorce. Make sure you have a good attorney to help you. By the way, you're not alone. Many men I know are going through or have gone through this. Good luck.

Answer 9

hi, just respnding
There is a lot of responsibility too act on motion...

I am only up this late preparing for court . In MI
who will still every right too see your kids.
You have every right too see your children
Do understand that?

the cops being called is just Drama for the end result

Answer 10

Fight for your rights! I don't agree with what she is doing it is wrong and your children have a right to see you without their grandma butting in. Unless you were a deadbeat father and or a child molester then i would side with your ex wife.