Marriage & Divorce - 11 September 2007

Have you or your partner been unfaithful (once, not an affair)and you either stayed together or got back together?

If so, how did it work out? Could you trust each other again?

Was the third party someone you both knew?

We are in a long-term relationship but not married.

2007-09-11 23:26:01 · 9 answers · asked by Sammy 1

2007-09-11 22:51:05 · 13 answers · asked by Christi 1

when we have sex, that I always initiate, how come 99% of the time does she keep her body turned to me, never wanting to do it face to face? why when she is just "helping me out" or "finishing me" is it always one handed, reaching back towards me because her body is turned? Sure, these are dumb questions, the answers are quite obvious I guess, written down like this. She says "its not you, its me" and of course just recently admitted to having feelings for someone else and doesn't know if "we'll make it".....but when I leave she cries and wants me here, but when I come back it's only good for a week or so...then it's back to this. SO, any women out there done this? Weren't you just not 100% sure if you were making a mistake or not and not wanting to be the one who ended it? Is the best thing for me to do just walk away...make the decision for her, that she's obviously too afraid, for whatever reason, to make herself??

2007-09-11 22:37:13 · 20 answers · asked by Timothy M 1

2007-09-11 22:29:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

When we got married 20 years ago, I had a house with a mortgage of £17,000 and 2 sons from previous marriage, he was single and had nothing but a degree in his pocket. He worked part time for years whilst he furthered his education and we hosted students in our house. I had a full time job and other book-keeping jobs plus looked after our daughter and the home/students, but he did his fair share too.
We then purchased a house together and rented out my house. We paid off the mortgage on it. For 10 years he had half of the rents from this house. Today he has a good job and earns lots of money. He said that the fact that I never offered to put his name on my other house is a sign that I don't love him and is very upset that I want to leave the house to my children when I die. The one we have together goes to him when I die. He asked me to give him £15,000 because he helped pay off the mortgage which I did but resented doing. He says my attitude drove him to have an affair.

2007-09-11 22:03:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Given a chance to choose in times of crisis and special situations, who will you choose??

2007-09-11 21:59:55 · 16 answers · asked by ma edna h 1

What would be the proper word to describe someone who has cheated on his wife with yours and has completely turned your kids against you.

2007-09-11 21:43:10 · 12 answers · asked by DemondRider 1

This has been going on for a while now and i just dont know what to do anymore. The problem is that my husband snores and he doesnt even realize it. How can this be? It has gotten so bad that I've actully had to go and sleep in another bedroom just to my rest. I am 8 months pregnant and im so disgusted and i just need some advice to what to do about his loud snoring. I went to sleep at about 12:30 mid and i was woke by his snoring at about 2:15am and ive been up ever since. I hate having to get out of bed and go into another room just to find a good nights sleep because i love my husband and it feels so lonely when ever i do this. I even wake him and tell him to stop but he will stop for like 5-10 minutes and then start right back up and even much louder. I wake up crying because Im so frustrated and tired and i need my rest, my husband is my joy but when he snores like this im very upset with him. What can i do? I no longer want to sleep by myself in another room and i shouldnt have 2

2007-09-11 21:28:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married t o a guy I've been with for 7 yrs married for 3.I thought I loved him enough to marry him but maybe not.He has always been a lier but he has always taken care of me and our 4 children 2 of which are not his.Aout 2 years ago I caught him doing inappropriate things to my teenage neices they never complained because they are very nasty girls.He said he would never do it again but when they come around he avoids me and them and he did come close to one of them again after he was so called saved.He is very secretive and has since started to treat my kids bad,my 11 yr old is a very pretty girl big for her age I am afraid that he will one day touch her.I am a christian and I hate to just leave my husband but i need to think of my kidsOther christians say stay worldly pple say leave .I dont love him and we daont have sex but I guess I'm just afraid to be alone with the children.Help!

2007-09-11 20:40:05 · 15 answers · asked by Lynboges 2

If so, what were the circumstances and how did you react? Thank goodness I didn't catch my husband in the act. It wouldn't have been worth it but I would have probably been on the 10 o'clock news for acting a complete fool.

2007-09-11 19:34:25 · 11 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

we have a couple that have been our best friends for years, we're all married. my best freinds wife started to wear reliving tops with no bra. she has great boobs so I can understand that she is confident but.. when we all hang out together you get a eye full, not just a little bit I mean the whole rack nipple and all! to be honest it makes me really uncomfortable.I try not to look but when its right in front of your face its pretty hard not to. I mean its my best friends wife! I thought about approaching her. but I didn't know how to approach it ,what do I say "hey nice breast how about covering them up thanks.. " so instead I spoke to my best friend telling him the truth about how I felt about the whole situation. did I handle it correctly or should I off just spoke to her? I found out they han a huge fight over it, that was so not my intention.

2007-09-11 19:28:15 · 30 answers · asked by Cooter 3

I currently own the house that I live in, it is heir property, given to me by my aunt in 1977. I was divorced and remarried in
2000. My husband is 14 years younger than I am. He has given an ultimatum to make a will leaving my home to him if I were to pass away instead of leaving it to my children. His parents have pushied him to making this decision. He has threatened to leave me if I don't make this will. I feel that because he did not buy this home that I should not give it to him. I believe that leaving the home to my children is a better decision. What are you opinions?

2007-09-11 18:56:33 · 16 answers · asked by jenn 3

In the context of marriage - how many secrets are allowed.
How do you decide where the boundaries are? Who decides? Discuss

2007-09-11 18:52:30 · 8 answers · asked by flip 6

My other half thinks I don't give enough affection. What sort of affection do I need to give besides kissing, hugging, and making love?

2007-09-11 18:49:24 · 14 answers · asked by jake6969jake6969 1

The floor plan sucks, there is a manhole in middle of back yard, looking across the street- neighbors are slobs. Good points- near vo-tech school- and is my mans pet project. Big con is I was left out of the decision making, and didn't see the house til it was bought. I absolutely love my house now, its so right for me. even if its rented and not owned. I need advice cause I am stressing this situation.

2007-09-11 18:40:41 · 21 answers · asked by silversaralee 1

About a year a go me and my wife decided i stay home and raise our son when she got a promotion. Im a painter and with me working full time she makes double i do. I Cook(no microwave stuff, im ont food network evry night pulling up new recipes :), i clean, do laundry, take care of our 19montn old son, take care of the bills, everything. When my wife comes home there so nothing for her to do but relax and enjoy the rest of her day and enjoy my hour long foot rubs every night. And i still do side jobs on the side to do my part of paying the bills. But i feel like im not doing my role right, i feel like people look down or bad at me for being a stay at home dad, and not my wife like the norm is. are we all looked as if were mess ups, or lazy *** or drunks, by the way i dont drink or do drugs. so knowing all that, do you feel im playing my part. and is my style role excepted.

2007-09-11 18:40:12 · 11 answers · asked by aaronsdada 1

He married me knowing I have two teenagers... He has no kids of his own. He ignores them, complains constantly about little things that they do and doesn't make an effort to have a relationship with them. It's come down to snide remarks about them whenever he gets the chance, and I'm getting REALLY tired of it! Every time he complains about them, it pushes me farther away... I feel that he should not have married me if he's not going to at least try to like them. He's 45 and behaves like he's 13... Definitely NOT the man I married!! Oh, and the kids are good kids. One is 18 and respects him as a stepdad, and he still gets the passive agressive attitude.. I never would have married him if I had known it would be like this... Is it over??

2007-09-11 18:36:25 · 24 answers · asked by A W 5

I havent spoke to my childs father in almost a year. He left me when I was preggers to go do drugs and party. I tried to maintain a civil relationship with him after the baby but he continued to threaten me and put our child in danger. It ended in I have full custody and he couldnt do anything even with the cops. He filed a suit against me to get custody but I retained a good lawyer and he cant afford to procced so I assume. He is really a bad person, am I bad that I dont presue this?I do want my child not to have a father but he is a bad person. I really can afford it on my own

2007-09-11 18:19:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-11 17:56:33 · 21 answers · asked by cmarti 1

We been seperated for only two weeks and I thought maybe he would change and get a job so he rescue our marriage.
I found out he's been talking to new girls and telling them lies like "Im trying to get back on my feet so give me a chance and ill prove myself" or " I have pictures on my cell phone call me or give your number" which is really his little brother cellphone he dosent own a cell phone.
He tells girl that he has all this money and owns all these things when really he dosent even have a car, house not even food for his own dog. Now I know that I wont ever take him back but is there any chances of him changing .... Also he hasnt called to see about his daughter or to see if she needs milk or anything. Why do yall think hes like that is it true that a cheater is always going to be a cheater hes done this before !!

2007-09-11 17:45:02 · 11 answers · asked by Raw1987 2

My brother's friend, sara is married and has two tenn children. Sara loves her husband; however she does not feel that she is a connection with her husband. A family friend, Tim. whose profession is a radiologist or doctor, has found interest in Sara and sara has found interest in Tim. Sara and Tim love each other, but Sara does not want to hurt her husband. She is lost, confused, and disoriented. This is a kept secret and no one knows about it. Tim continously tell sara that he loves her and that he has found his soul mate even though sara is a married woman. Sara shows feeling for Tim, yet she does not want to hurt her husband, children, and friends. PLEASE...anyone have any suggestions on what Sara should do? Should Sara tell her husband or keep it a secret forever. Sara KNOWS that she and Tim can never be together...please any suggestions on what she should do?

2007-09-11 17:29:34 · 18 answers · asked by imagination_inevitable 1

It's not illegal or harassment in the state of Alabama acccording to the lawyer we spoke with today. This was in response to an aswerer (Confused) of a previous question I asked by the way.

2007-09-11 17:27:00 · 7 answers · asked by weezie 3

If your ex cheated on you several times, got pregnant, left the other guy, came back to ex, got an abortion, left the ex for other guy, then came back, and then left AGAIN, all while the ex is the only one who knows about the abortion.

Would you tell the person she cheated on you with about the abortion?

2007-09-11 17:23:56 · 12 answers · asked by cappatown23 3

she says that she does love me , but she needs time to learn and trust me completely.we been married for 2 years and have two kids. Does she have to trust me completely or am i wrong in telling her that if she doesn't that i will divorce her

2007-09-11 17:07:57 · 14 answers · asked by hope is never lost 2

ok, my boyfriend is perfect. except im 16 and he's 23. were trying to have a baby. he's everything i want. he stands by my side, and i stick by his. his best home boy got into a bad fight last night, so i was the one in the bathroom pulling glass out of his arm. i cook, clean, do his laundry, and take care of him. he supports me, physically, sexually, emotionally, finantialy, ect.

i moved into his house because my dad beat me so bad and kicked me out.

my boyfriend is my life.

should i get married?

2007-09-11 16:57:05 · 6 answers · asked by WHITE*GIRL 2

I recently found out that my husband is using drugs. I left him because of this. I told him that he is not allowed to see our daughter until he gets a lawyer and the courts say I have to. They cant order me to let him see her if he is on drugs anyway (right???) I do not want my daugher (she is 2) around a drug user. I know that he can not legally come take her from me but what about when she is at my mothers house? I work and am in college and my mother watches her for me. I can not afford to work less (especially now) and want to continue my education so I wont have to worry about "getting by". At the same time I do not want to have to worry about him taking her from my mothers house. I am also 6 months pregant and do not have money for a divorce or any kind of legal work. He also basically emptied my/our bank account (without me knowing). WHAT SHOULD I DO????

2007-09-11 16:33:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been going out with this girl for about 10 months now, and last night i find out that she has been lying to me about who she is and what she does for a job entirely. she is very pretty and young.compared to me that i am older and divorced. she told me she is french-japanese, and working in finance. but last night i accidently bump into her email find out that she is chinese and university student. i really loved this girl and she really loved me. even my parents really liked her. she explain the reason she lying to me is worry that her nationality and being a student wont make us a chance to be together. the love we had for each other was reality. my parents ask me to kick her out, but i dont know if i should forgive her this time?

2007-09-11 16:31:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Husband & his Ex still claims to love him and also talked alot on me and how i'm not the right one and she doesnt know me at all..and His family still talks to her & probably about us...

2007-09-11 16:23:09 · 16 answers · asked by peachcory12 1

My husband works so much that some days I don't see him at all.. he's such a hard working man and I love him for that but I miss him. we never have time together it just sucks! I've said a few things to him . like I told him I missed him but he doesn't say anything back... so here it goes I've been having dreams about different men, in my dreams we're kissing and all and I love having these dreams.. pretty sad huh?? I don't get much action from my husband so I'm relying on my dreams? this is not normal.. any suggestions ??

2007-09-11 16:22:59 · 16 answers · asked by sue s 2

Say, my spouse asked me to commit suicide while I was very ill. Or I try to love and care for my spouse but my spouse does not seem to treasure it. Or my spouse gives terrifying responses even when I says something which is plain and not meant to be hurtful. Or ...

2007-09-11 16:20:56 · 14 answers · asked by curious 1