Marriage & Divorce - 11 September 2007

Our daughter is 7 weeks old and I'm currently working on a divorce. At this age, how should I propose visitation? I want to give him his fair share of course, but I worry about her since she is so little. She is both breast-fed and bottle fed, so feeding isn't an issue. He has two other children from a previous relationship (7 and 8).

Is she too little to stay overnight right now? Should I just allow day visits? I'm not going thru a lawyer as I don't have the spare money. I just would like to know others experiences and how it may affect her. Any ideas?

2007-09-11 08:33:32 · 34 answers · asked by boz4425 4

disloyalty is rejection and insult, or failure especially if someone tried real hard.how to heal the wound? should i see a psychologist. they charge so much just for listening quietly with an expressionless face

2007-09-11 08:32:30 · 15 answers · asked by jenny 2

2007-09-11 08:31:59 · 11 answers · asked by mimi ^____^ 2

called a good behavior warrant. This can be helpful in most situations, but the possibility of this right being abused exists and is being done. Not all people who raise thier right hand and swear to tell the truth is really telling the truth. This became evident in my life recently and the consequences have been devastating. Without any evidence a person is arrested, booked forced to obtain a $1000 Property bond, and thier name printed in the paper in the police blotter. Can you imagine the effects these events can have on a person's life. You don't have to be guilty, you don't get a trial, you can request a hearing but a judge doesn't want to drop it because he would have to admit he was taken in by someone with an ax to grind. A son can do this to his mother, a husband to his wife, a neighbor to a neighbor. Is this really the way to settle a domestic dispute that perpetrated no violence? Do lives have to be forever changed and families destroyed? What can I do

2007-09-11 08:31:02 · 4 answers · asked by Mamaw 2

I don't

2007-09-11 08:28:12 · 25 answers · asked by Reo 5

Is it possible for a man's penis to be to small to have intercourse?

2007-09-11 08:27:54 · 14 answers · asked by Marygoroun(d) 6

This is my previous question:

My wife is having a mini mid life crisis. She feels old and out of shape. I think that she is beautiful and in good shape for 48. She is five years older than I am. We have three kids. I love her very much. But she has started losing weight and her face is getting drawn and she is starting to look unsexy and unattractive and more wrinkled. I love her normal and contrary to what she believes, she actually looks older and sick the skinnier she gets. How do I tell her?

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5 hours ago
I love a woman with curves and she knows this! Juliiete Binoche, Britney Spears, Susan Sarandon, Madonna in her early years. I guess I have to be patient and just love her.

UPDATE:

I took her to lunch and politely told her. She said that all of her girlfriends think that she looks better. I asked her what do men in her office say? She didn't say anything. Any suggestions now?

2007-09-11 08:27:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I get married next march and I've been with my fiance for 4 and a half years. I can't get having one last fling out of my head. I'd rather do it now before I'm married but I don't know if I should? He would never find out and I could live with myself for it. I know it's wrong but is it the only way for me to stop thinking about it?

2007-09-11 08:24:54 · 48 answers · asked by Sarah 3

This question is meant to be light and not taken very seriously. I'm not looking for advice. I'm just curious to other couples' comments on this situation if they were in the same boat.

My husband and I are in our mid-twenties. We do not want any children of our own. Many people always say "Just wait and see, you'll want your own kids". Or they ask the famous question "how could you not want kids?"

Now, we have some clever ways of responding. My favorite way to respond to nosey people is to say "My husband and I are enjoying our selfish years first before we sit down and talk about having kids. When one of us decides we really want children, we will talk about it and come to an agreement". But we both already know the answer is no.

Do you have any other Clever ways that you answer these questions or statements from other people?

2007-09-11 08:24:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-11 08:22:57 · 12 answers · asked by Shelley 2

How does your current significant other feel about it?

2007-09-11 08:18:35 · 19 answers · asked by Mel 6

Gosh! It must be very nice to be Happily Married. Where the husband and wife get along so well, flawslessly, in their marriage life. Happily Married People are living Heaven on Earth, while Unhappily Married People live Hell on Earth...I FEEL SO UNLUCKY AT TIMES!!!!!!!! When I see Happily Married People....so very happy with each other...

2007-09-11 08:15:58 · 30 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

2007-09-11 08:05:09 · 15 answers · asked by Julie 1

I sent my divorce papers of to the courts and had not heard anything for ages so i contacted them and they informed that they have lost my papers including the marriage certificate. so i am resending the papers but without the certificate what can i do

2007-09-11 07:55:30 · 18 answers · asked by areyou_looking_atme 2

Hi,

Me and hubby are married for nearly 5 yrs now. I have realised early in the relationship that he has commitment issues...perhaps due to his childhood. I had conceived within 5 months of marriage and had an abortion since he was very upset about it! I wanted to wait till he was ready. Last year or so, we had been talking about having kids in this year. We actually discussed in detail how exactly we would raise the child until he/she was old enough to stand on his/her own feet. Now, when the time actually came he backed out saying he does not ever want kids. I have a strong feeling it has to do with his feelings (bad) towards his childhood and father. He says, tomorrow if the child grows up and asks him why he went through with it, even though he was not willing, he wouldn't have an answer! He says he would probly be ignoring the child and the child would feel unwanted. He does not want responsibility. I have been googling about this topic and haven't found a good suggestion yet

2007-09-11 07:55:29 · 17 answers · asked by san 2

Very unhappy in Southeastern Alabama trapped because I refuse to let somelse raise my son??/

2007-09-11 07:43:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-11 07:34:10 · 9 answers · asked by Help! 1

as usual he was not clear so i asked him to tell me on a scale of 1 to 10 how happy he was with me and he said 7. how do u rate 7 as ok or happy

2007-09-11 07:31:42 · 36 answers · asked by blueocean 2

Although this is no reflection on your relationship, do you think you could sleep better if there was no-one else in there with you?

2007-09-11 07:24:36 · 57 answers · asked by Bone 2

2007-09-11 07:07:24 · 27 answers · asked by EM J 3

this is something we have talked aboput but at the same time is wounding what it will do to our marriage

2007-09-11 06:29:31 · 36 answers · asked by new_york_coyote 1

it's kind of funny to me that my husband still doesn't know after living here for 2 years! Haha!

2007-09-11 06:28:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are the typical 'surburbia family'. Kids, house, nice things, friends, good jobs, I am an attractive woman who NEVER denys my husband sex, and he still cheats on me. I dont know why. I almost feel like its ME. I do EVERYTHING for this man and affairs is what i get in return. Why do you suppose he is like this? (BTW, I threw him out last night....so, no, i am not puting up with it anymore) I'm just so hurt and confused and am kinda feeling 'why me'? what did i do to him to deserve this? I am totally crushed right now and dont know what to do. Most people will cheat for sex, but i screw that mans brains out every freaking day...lol.... I would thing he wouldnt have the energy for sex with someone else.....but he does.....I just dont understand.

2007-09-11 06:10:00 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's kind of a rediculous question. Anyways, I've been married for 4 years now and a lot of my cousins and friends who got married after me either have kids already or are pregnant. My husband and I are not completely ready to have kids yet, but sometimes I feel bad when I am around my friends and family because they have kids and I don't. I want kids but not right now. Why do I feel this way?

2007-09-11 05:51:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance has a 16 yr old daughter who lives with her mother 4 hours away. His ex is very manipulative woman who puts the daughter in the middle of every situation. They have been divorced 12 years and both had been remarried but when my fiance was going through his 2nd divorce, she divorced her husband and did everything she could to get back with him. So Im not the cause of the divorce or anything like that but I am already the "evil step mom" his daughter didnt like me before she ever met me. She is disrespectful to me. I have tried for a year and a half to do everything in my power to be her friend. Her mother sends me nasty emails and then when I respond and stick up for myself - the daughter reads them and responds back to me in a way I would NEVER allow my teenage daughter to speak. My fiance and I have a great relationship really. WE get along and I couldnt be happier but I foresee this being a big problem but I dont her to split us up but this is his lil girl.

2007-09-11 05:40:09 · 46 answers · asked by spoildrotn 2

My husband and I seperated early in my pregnancy due to him cheating. We have a 3yr old together already. He is military, lives 3 hours away, and barely manages to visit her once a month. Now that it's getting close to my due date he tells me he is going to get a court order for a paternity test for the baby. I have no objections to this, it's his child. I think he's just doing it to hurt me. I want to tell him, "Fine then don't bother seeing the baby until you have your results!" but I'm not sure if that's because I'm hurt and angry or if it is a legit request. I know I shouldn't bring my feelings into it, because it's most important for the children to have a relationship with their father. He's already agreed on not being there for the birth but says he wants to see the baby after it's born... do I allow this? He has made life very stressful for me, and our daughter. I don't want to see another child get attached to him, just to be abandoned. Any suggestions? Thank you.

2007-09-11 05:29:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-11 05:29:32 · 4 answers · asked by Jolie 2

My wife felt necessary 2 tell me last night this guy friend she has been texting with text her and told her this. "I need 2 talk 2 you soon about something I am worried about" Then she says she is worried about what he needs to confide in her. I sat and acted calm but I know what this is leading to. She is setting the stage for her 2 go out one evening to meet up w/him or go 2 the bar or somehing like that. I have agreed that she can go out and do things she wants & I dont have to be present but it begins to bother me when in my eyes it appears there is so much wk being put into it. The guy friend, who I have met a few times is overweight, 10+ years older and I dont bel there is any affair taking place physically. I've read about emotional affairs though & I feel this may be that. I watch her when she gets text fm him and she smiles 2 herself and then continues bk & forth w/the texting. It makes me feel empty & hurt inside. Is this sometype of emotional affair?

2007-09-11 05:27:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

at the cost of putting people down ?

2007-09-11 05:25:00 · 23 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6

i tottally hate porn, i think its so disrespectful, and just plain disgusting. my boyfriend loves it and i cant seem to get over him looking at it, its ruining our relationship.....its not that i think he wants them, its just the fact i think its disrespectful for him to get turned on by another female, and want to look at other girls naked. it really hurts....anyone else gone threw this? what did u do? how i get over it...

2007-09-11 05:21:30 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous