as usual he was not clear so i asked him to tell me on a scale of 1 to 10 how happy he was with me and he said 7. how do u rate 7 as ok or happy
2007-09-11 07:31:42 · 36 answers · asked by blueocean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it sounds like YOU might also give the relationship a 7. the rating doesnt really matter. you need to find out why it is not a 10 and what you can both do to make it better. what isnt he happy with? do you go out together? has your relationship changed since you got together? are YOU happy with him? do YOU give the relationship a 10? if not, what are your issues? sometimes you get stuck in the same 'ol routine. you need to spice it up, or do something spontaneous to get a little fire back in the relationship. are you intimate, and I dont mean just sex, do you kiss? cuddle? sounds like your worried about your husbands happiness, but you may want to make sure YOU are happy. if making him happy does it for you, then find out what HE needs.
2007-09-11 07:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he sensed a trap... I would say that he's happy he married you, or I guess perhaps I should use the word satisfied. Obviously only he knows what he's thinking, but as a guy that has been asked that question before I can say that it definitely feels like a loaded trap.
If he answers too high then you'll accuse him of lying, questions him as to why he could love you so much yet not show it, or any number of other scenarios that will simply lead to stress, and argument, and most likely you being pissy and him being wrong.
On the other hand he could answer low... Then you think he doesn't love you, get all depressed, and it's his fault for not caring enough. Then he gets to deal with you questioning the relationship for the next 3 months... Or at least until you come up with another question that doesn't have a simple answer.
2007-09-11 07:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Crypt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 is not bad, better than saying "2" 7 is happy, I guess you want him to be more romantic ? work on him, when you are alone, be barely dressed, maybe just a unbuttoned shirt only, do not make any move toward him, you know what he likes, sit where he can "see" you, do something simple like file your nails, I bet in a few minutes you will see him glancing at you, be just a little hard to get, just a little. Guys like that. Do this once a month + I bet he will rate your marriage 8 or a 9 !!!!
2007-09-11 07:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say a 7 is "I'd be happier if you weren't asking me this question right now". My husband was totally romantic while dating me and before we got married. Once we got married that all pretty much stopped. I let him know about it but what I learned was that it had more to do with me than him. Men enjoy the chase. He was chasing me until he got me! Once he had me there was no need to chase. What I found out was that instead of nagging him about his lack in the romance department, I spent that time working on myself. Something nice happened. He started chasing and romancing me again. It took me changing myself for him to feel that need. It's been great! We all know that some men aren't the best at communicating how they feel. Work on yourself and keep your eyes open for how he communicates in his own way. Don't ask him those 1-10 questions, I can't imagine anything that would make a man cringe more than that! Instead of wasting time on questions like that, ask him to take a walk in the park or go out at night and look at the stars. You might get more out of him if you set up some romantic time. Good luck :)
2007-09-11 07:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only asking for trouble when you ask questions like that. If he gave you a 7 then you need to work on a few things because your apparnetly not doing something right, or your asking to many dumb questions. You should be happy he gave you a 7! This means he's not planning on leaving you anytime soon.
2007-09-11 07:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay is probably like a 5 so, he feels more than just okay... I would say a 7 is happy... 10 would be like extremely happy. I think 10's only exist in fairy tales. Some men are just not romantic, they're more robotic!
2007-09-11 07:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by What's good? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rate a 7 as satisfied, content, and yes - even happy. 10 (which in my opinion is impossible because NOTHING is perfect) would be absolutely euphoric. While it wouldn't hurt to discuss what it would take to get you BOTH to say an 8 or 9, I wouldn't necessarily be dissatisfied knowing he ranks it as a 7....remember 5 is average.
2007-09-11 07:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to give you a bad answer but my question is for him to explain the other three numbers in your rating system. In other words what is a 10 and why would he NOT think of his own wife at a 10!
2007-09-11 07:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is worse. He hasn't shown any affection to me since we were married. He puts on like we are such the happy couple in public, but in private, we don't even talk to each other. At least your husband gave you a seven. If I had to guess, I would say mine would give me a 2. I will let you know.
2007-09-11 07:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by Phantiger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's happy if he's a 7. my parents are like a 3 and been married for 30 years when you're hapy ur really happy. sit with him wen he's watching tv, make weekend getaways. do things together. go to victorias secrey or fresericks of hollywood and surprise him! ur be 1000 and not a 7
2007-09-11 07:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by WiseGirl84 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋