Very unhappy in Southeastern Alabama trapped because I refuse to let somelse raise my son??/
2007-09-11 07:43:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ewww, please don't do that. Maybe someone else needs to raise your son and teach him some morals.
P.S. you are never trapped, it is your life, take control of it!
2007-09-11 07:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't look for answers to your problems by having an affair. This just brings a third party in to add more stress to your life. You cannot stay in a marriage if you are not happy because you will still have a relationship with your son. Children do adjust and staying in a dead marriage is not emotionally good for your child. Children are very sensitive and smart and pick up on the stress from their parents. I would suggest that you talk with a counselor to get the proper direction here....because to get involved with someone else it could evolve emotionally for you and the other person and at this point you may have no choice but to leave if your wife finds out and chooses to divorce you! I would do this the right way and ask my wife for a divorce and maybe get joint custody with the son. This way you will be very involved with your child and your wife could find someone that will love her and remain faithful to her. Then you could also find someone that is better suited to your needs and desires. In the end if you all remarry other people in the future you will have respect for each other and your child will have a bonus mom from you and a bonus dad from his mother. You will all be much happier and to understand that there is enough love to go around for everybody and the child will be the winner!
2007-09-11 08:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any online dating site has plenty of married guys, whether they allow it or not. Although I'm not condoning it. Say you find someone to have an affair with...your wife finds out and ends up divorcing you over it...you end up being a part time dad anyways. If you're not happy...do the RIGHT thing and get a divorce and raise your son the best way possible, whether you have custody or end up being a part time dad. He will respect you for it in the long run!!
2007-09-11 07:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by bulldogclover75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and raise your son and if you are unhappy get a divorce. Make sure that you pay child support to your ex-wife to help raise your son or if by some curse you get custody make sure that you never get into another relationship until your son is grown and gone and in the mean time you can have sex with your favorite person....Yourself!
2007-09-11 07:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you want a cheater to raise him? This makes sense.....sorry...lol. I really think its best to get out and take your son with you if it's that bad. I know a few single fathers that do an amazing job. Other than that, I have no idea where you find someone for an affair. Maybe join one of those singles sites I see other married women complaining about...Put the word out.
2007-09-11 07:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just start participating in the relationship chat rooms on MSN, Yahoo, etc. You may get more than you are looking for or something that you are not. I don't know why anyone would want to get involved in the heartbreak of having a relationship with a married man. You can't have your cake and eat it, too. If your wife is so bad, start keeping a journal of her wrongs--drinking, drugging, neglecting the child, and then go for sole custody.
2007-09-11 07:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on Yahoo personals & be blunt on what you are looking for. I don't really condone what you are doing but I see where you are coming from on someone else raising your children. To every woman that gets on this guy & says he shouldn't cheat & he should just leave. Its easy to say when you guys know you would get custody of your child. If society would look at what's best for the child instead of giving women custody because they gave birth then maybe this man would walk & take his son with him & raise him the way a man should raise his son!!!!
2007-09-11 07:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by Big E 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
EWWW! Get a divorce if you are not happy! If you are so worried about your son how do you think he will feel when he finds out daddy is cheating on mommy?!?!
No one can take your place as your sons father. If you love him stay in his life but in the right way.
2007-09-11 07:48:17 · answer #8 · answered by Princess J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you`re married, ask your wife, she`ll be glad to help. If you`re not married and are looking for extramarital activity with a married woman, you are plain stupid. It`s not about you, it`s about your son. YOU raise him, he is first, not you thinking with that part of your anatomy that got you here in the first place.
2007-09-11 08:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife's sister or maybe her mom or aunt isn't it customary in the Alabama to sleep with family & pets?? you sound like the type being a cheater & all.
2007-09-11 07:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should not be a problem finding someone to have an affair with, if you are an attractive, complimentary person. Try church and bars.
2007-09-11 07:47:50 · answer #11 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋