Marriage & Divorce - 9 September 2007

I hae not had a great emotianl time with my wife over the last few years, The flame has been put out by the Fire Service and without my consent. I do still ove her & want her but she has turned into a cold, dragon, life sucking, hagg like her mother.

The spark for sex, fun times, romantic meals is all gone which is sad. When i do get excited by her after we talk about life or old times and we have just finished a nice meal at home, she always knocks me back when i try to kiss her or touch her.

She says that i should have a gentle stroke and that i should treat her vulva like i was a magician trying to get a rabbit out of a hat.

In all honestly, if i was a farmer i would get my shootgun and flush out that bloddy rabbit!

How am i meant to change the habits of a lifetime when everything seems to feel wrong. I tried to listen to her but she has so few needs than meself. I have my own wanky needs and i am a little fed up of having to do it all myself. How can i reach her?

2007-09-09 23:21:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been living together for awhile although he is only separated from his wife. We have been trying to make things work, but it's tough sometimes. He recently overheard me talking with a friend about looking for another job in another state so I can start over.

He acted distant after that and ended up hanging out with his wife and her cousin and husband. Then last night, he came home and announced that he had to move home for the sake of his daughter. We talked about it for a long time, and I told him he should pack his bags and go back home. I even told him that I could move out while he is on a trip for work.

He said that he wants to do the responsible thing and go home for his daughter. I said they should just get divorced because this isn't healthy either way.

He said that he was convinced he was going home until he saw me and talked to me. He told his wife he would be back after he talked to me, but he stayed with me. Why?

2007-09-09 23:19:37 · 18 answers · asked by torn 3

well i am 39 weeks pregnant and we had a very tough time in our relationship for past couple of months because of him and finally i am ready to move on. i want to know what can i do as soon as he walks in door to blow his mind away aside from BJ. i won't strip because of stretch marks olol. specifics please?

2007-09-09 20:41:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He keeps putting other people ahead of our marriage. I have always come second to his job and I have come to accept that but it seems that I come second to everything and everyone. When he's home he just wants to watch t.v. He can't be bothered with me or my problems. He leaves his cell phone on 24/7 and gets work calls at all hours. Even on his days off. I ask him to turn the phone off when he isn't working but he won't and he often ends up at work for some reason or another. About a year ago he decided it would be a good idea to invite my uncle and cousin to move where we live. He brought them from Ve3gas and helped them on their feet. I begged him not to do this because my uncle had molested me when I was 9. He ignored my pleas and did it anyway. Then he moved them right across the street from us about 6 months later. We've finally moved about 45 minutes away but still... Now he has a cousin living here that moved in with my uncle. I told her what my uncle did because she has kids.

2007-09-09 20:26:28 · 28 answers · asked by Jules 3

2007-09-09 20:16:30 · 12 answers · asked by shardf 5

Marriages in which the husband is the breadwinner and thw wife is a stay at home mom.

2007-09-09 20:04:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-09 20:00:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 2 YEARS AND I WAS PERFECTLY OK WITH MY RELATIONSHIP UP TO LAST WEEK. I RECEIVED A PHONE CALL FROM AN EX-BOYFRIEND FROM 5 YEARS AGO. HE WAS THE FIRST LOVE OF MY LIFE. HE CALLED TO SAY HELLO AND HE HINTED HE WAS NOT OVER ME. I DECIDED NOT TO TALK TO HIM ANYMORE BECAUSE I'M MARRIED AND HE ALSO HAS A WIFE AND KIDS. THE THING IS I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!!!! EVERY DAY ALL DAY I THINK OF HIM. I'M SO CONFUSED ABOUT MY FEELINGS NOW?? AM I IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY STILL OR JUST CONFUSED?

2007-09-09 19:53:53 · 8 answers · asked by LOST!!!! 1

I have a husband in the air force. We have been together for three years and got married this August of last year. We have been very happy but today I found out that he was in love with another woman before we got married. That was during the time we were still together. We are happily married but I feel I need to confront him. Should I forgive him?

2007-09-09 19:50:28 · 24 answers · asked by Sandy B. 2

he works construction. I have a 6 month old. he has 2 kids that are very unruly and demanding. When he is home his attention is focused soley on them. Not me or the baby. He will run off and go to the bar and then come home drunk. We have no time together. What can I do?

2007-09-09 19:41:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anna B 1

I got married , and it didnt work out too well. How long do I have to stay married to my husband to be entitled to his 16 years in the military benefits and he also gets disability. Some have said 10 years and some have told me 2 .. do you know?... If the state you live in matters .. it was tennessee.

2007-09-09 18:48:33 · 15 answers · asked by lisa h 1

me and my friends are asking cause we are not sure which state it is.

2007-09-09 18:16:08 · 21 answers · asked by cazry girl 1

When I got married I promised my self that we wil (me and my hub.) will struggle and prove that we can manage to live life without anyones help.Were now married for 13 years we accomplished a house, our cars, and most of all blessed with an active sports loving son.But came my mother in law who was at the very start is against our marriage for so many reasons specially I'm from a country she hated most. Years past and the situation came up side down , she's now living with us coz she doesn't have any place to go. I feel like I'm being betrayed with my life no one seems to understand what I feel.For all my life I've been proving that I'm diffrent and I did good I have a career anyone in the family can be proud off. Now I just want to reset my life , live far and I want myself a new life a new environment.

2007-09-09 18:14:13 · 6 answers · asked by TRE 1

2007-09-09 18:13:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

stop butting in my marriage.. this is causing a lot of problems...

2007-09-09 17:51:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband of 4 years cheated on me while i was pregnant with his son. we now have 2 kids and we are going to make this work, how can i make sure it works. what goes through a mans mind if he asked me to come home and make this work but he cheated on me. Help Men!

2007-09-09 17:51:09 · 12 answers · asked by love to ask questions 1

I have been a stay at home mom for 10 years, people tell me all the time that i should not rely on my husband for all our fianancial needs, but they are always expressing how nice it must be to have so much " free " time . well let me tell you that staying at home I work twice as hard than I did when I ran my own buisness. Yes, All our $$ comes from my husband's job
but I Trust and love him , Why do people not relize that if a woman is secure in her marriage that they are not stupid. what do you think about the situation ?
P.S I have a very healthy nest egg of my own

2007-09-09 17:41:47 · 54 answers · asked by Nice Girl101 2

One of my father's friends had a sexy blonde police officer for a wife. They had a son together about my age at the time, and I hardly noticed the dad, except to say he was fairly pleasant, kind of intellectual.
Then they got divorced. The wife being a tough police officer knowing the law, got all the furniture, the car the kid, etc. leaving the dad out in the country living in an empty house.

We came to visit, but it was to a man alone living in an empty house with no furniture to his name, light spots on the walls where pictures had hung, the rooms all empty, and that 'empty house' smell.
While he was talking to my dad about what he was going to do, we kids went running all over the house looking for something to do, and he landed right on us.
He asked me, "What are you doing in there, writing your initials on the wall?
I was flabbergasted. I had no intention of messing any walls up, honest, and I don't know what he was so angry about, and his character so changed

2007-09-09 16:53:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

How harmful is secrecy to a marriage? Should spouses share everything? why or why not?

2007-09-09 16:13:43 · 15 answers · asked by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4

My friends' son married a Vietnamese lady in 1997, and he used her name to buy some land in Saigon, and build an apartment house. Later, they sold the house to parlay the money to buy more land and build a hotel out near the airport, at which time his wife started embezzling money and giving some of it to her family, particularly her ister who wanted to go to Law school.
After 8 years of marriage, she files for divorce, gets the hotel, but who represents her at her trial but her sister, whom she had sent to law School! Now she is a rich 27 year old lady who owns her own hotel, and my friends son got nothing. Really lost his shirt on that one.

2007-09-09 15:57:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-09 15:56:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

To people who dated their mates first, got married, and then moved in together... .
What are some things you learned about the your husband/wife when you moved in together that you didn't like??

Im asking because I asked another question about getting married first before you move in together or moving in together then getting married. And alot of people said to move in together first to see if you can live with that person... So Im trying to figure out how moving with someone first chances your love for a person...


So what are some things you learned about your mate after marrying them that would make you want to divorce?

2007-09-09 15:47:20 · 3 answers · asked by MonaLisa 4

My so called husband degrades me, is always putting me down, calling me names, is so mean to everyone. Even if it's not directly to them. I don't want our children to grow up to be that way. He never helps me with any of the house work. He comes home sleeps, eats and complains about the kids being in sports and being apart of that. He complains about taking them to practices to games. I want them to feel good about playing sports. He complains about the house not being cleaned. I run a in-home daycare. I do what I can when I can. We have 3 kids. I try to do laundry during the day. Dishes, run my business from 6am-6pm. I help my family when they need me too since my mom passed away. He does nothing but complain, never helps around the house. I can't do it all on my own. What things he could do he makes the kids do. He is so lazy! What do I do? It makes me so mad. When I talk to him about it he says I'm crazy. I really just want him to leave.

2007-09-09 15:39:17 · 27 answers · asked by Moon 2

Me and my husband are in the middle of a divorce but have recently decided to reconcile. We have 2 children and I desperately want to go back to school. Are ther any financial gains to going forward w/ the divorce?

2007-09-09 15:21:05 · 7 answers · asked by scared_mom 1

After being married for nearly 16 yrs, my hubby decides he would like to go play cards every other Fri with his friends. At first I felt like we ( girl, 15 and boy 9) were not enough. Then I "pretty much" came to my senses and realized he may need this time for him. B4 you think too badly of me, I want to say that we don't see him that much as it is. 4 hrs Sun, 1 and a half hours each day from Mon-Wed. From 5pm til bedtime Thurs and Fri( his second job) and all day on Sat if he doesn't have to work. When it was Fris, it wasn't too bad....but then the friend changed it to Sats which is our day to be tgthr.We go out and eat as a fam, etc. Well, Hubby was very good about it and said that he didn't want that to take from our time. So he leaves to go after we get home. So, why is this still bothering me? I feel hurt and really don't know why. He has told me he would be happy for me if I went out with friends. So, he is really great. I feel so bad for feeling rejected. Be kind please. Thnks

2007-09-09 15:20:45 · 7 answers · asked by ShineOn 4

I am pregnant with my third child and due on Halloween! The past few months have been horrendous on my marriage. Although my husband and I have been married for more then 16 years, I feel we are growing further and further apart. When I was pregnant with our first two daughters, my husband was a joy to me, bringing me things in bed, coming home early to make me dinner, and he even took a paternal leave after she was born, to stay home with me and help out around the house. But soon after I found out about having our third, he has been the complete opposite. I should add that our 3rd WAS completely planned, so it's not like he wasn't ready. He stays out later from work, doesn't help out with the kids or the cleaning, and always has an attitude. In fact my 13 yr old daughter has been three times as helpful, as my husband has in the last 4 months. I fear he is perhaps cheating, and when I questioned him of this he said no way and then jut dropped it. I am so scared for the sake of my family, and I feel I will have to raise a third child on my own. I am at a complete loss, and need some advice, please anything will help! Thanks!

2007-09-09 15:12:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is what I think is bipolar or depressed or angry or something. He explodes in outbursts all the time. Now he is threatening to quit his good job to bartend. He is 40 years old. He carries insurance for our family and everything. He drinks all the time now he wants to work in a stupid bar! Please tell me you agree a 40 yr married father need not quit a good paying career to tend bar? I tended bar for fun when i was 21 for gosh sakes!!!! IDEAS???

2007-09-09 15:10:02 · 10 answers · asked by Samantha 3

2007-09-09 15:07:39 · 13 answers · asked by Alexandriagal 6

2007-09-09 15:06:52 · 9 answers · asked by blaster1426 1

She is extremely verbaly abbusive and occasional physicly abusive even though I do everything I can for our family. She is also manipulative and great at lying.

We have 3 kids and a house. I know for my sake I need to get away from her, but I am afraid of how our kids will turn out.

We were seperated for a year and in that time I saw the trash that she invited into the house.

Im stuck between a rock and a hard place. What do I do

2007-09-09 14:55:50 · 34 answers · asked by That Guy 4