My husband of 4 years cheated on me while i was pregnant with his son. we now have 2 kids and we are going to make this work, how can i make sure it works. what goes through a mans mind if he asked me to come home and make this work but he cheated on me. Help Men!
2007-09-09 17:51:09 · 12 answers · asked by love to ask questions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you might want to find out why he cheated would be a start. How would you know he won't do it again if you don't know why he did it the first time. Ask yourself if that problem or situation never going to exist again.
2007-09-09 17:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is sure in this world that we live in. You
need to sit him down and have a long serious talk
with him about what he did and find out why he
cheated on you in the first place. You and him
need to set marriage standards that you and him
both will keep and he needs to prove to you that
he will be faithful to you. Only time will tell and that
will be the deciding factor weather or not he will
cheat on you again. However if after time he still
cheats on you then you need to think what is better
for you and your children, and if that means mov-
ing on then do so, however make sure he still
accepts the responsibility of helping you to main-
tain your children and as you know that will have
to be done through the courts. Good luck and I
hope he becomes a man and a loving husband
for you and his children and remains faithful.
2007-09-10 02:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard wired into men's brains to want sex so you shouldn't put that much emphasis on cheating. Given the right woman and opportunity, most married men will cheat.
Think of it this way. If the men were married and found you attractive. And, if you could be alone together for a weekend and no one would know, how many married men would turn you down if you were determined to have sex with them?
2007-09-10 08:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no guarantee about life itself. Try to pretend to start over with him and tell him if he does it again you are gone. There have been cases where once was enough and the man remained true for the duration. But find a good lawyer and have his card where you can get at it in a hurry just in case.
2007-09-10 01:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated once he will again. I know cause it happened to me...my wife cheated , that is. He knows now how great it was to have 2 women, and knows how not to get caught now. Either dump him or do all you can to find out if he is again...or will. Follow him, check his cell phone history, internet history, credit card bills, pants and jacket pockets. Then, if u find he is cheating, don't confront him...just leave! Cause he'll just talk u into staying again!
2007-09-10 01:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by indyfaninark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not want to loose you or the kids. I don't know how he started to cheat on you. He wants his cake and eat it to..
It takes a big hearted women to try to make it work after he cheated on you and while you were pregnant. Have you gotten him back yet? cheated on him?
2007-09-10 01:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by dan e 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All men are different. What you need to do is develop a stronger self esteem and if he does it again. Take his *** to the cleaners and raise your kids in a healthier environment. Good luck. Hope you can work it out.
2007-09-10 00:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea i know you wanted to hear from men but I just wanted to encourage you a bit. See your hubbie made a mistake and the best thing you can do is forgive him and move on. See, when you forgive him it will release the hurt and the pain that is stored in your heart. We are all human and we do things at times that causes our love ones to get hurt. If you love him, you will forgive him. The moment you truly forgive him is the moment you can start to repair what God has brought together. God Bless!
2007-09-10 01:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a woman but face it, you know what was on his mind. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you keep taking him back, you're in for a miserable marriage.
2007-09-10 01:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by SinSister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him, you have to trust him. Do you? If yes, then make the most of what you have with him. Be sweet to him. Pay attention to him. Keep him happy, and you'll have a much better chance of keeping him at home with you.
2007-09-10 00:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by back from the dead 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋