2007-09-09 15:56:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people are selfish and are only thinking of themselves. Sometimes, there are circumstances behind why people don't get married.
I thought about marrying my son's father...but then something happened and i think it was the best thing in the world. It opened my eyes and I know I would have been miserable in that marriage.
My best friend has 4 children by her long-time boyfriend and they don't want t o ruin the "perfect relationship" they currently have by getting married. (That's what they say) Getting married changes people and not always for the better.
Marriage is just not for everybody...but people still want kids!!
Look at Halle Berry....Marriage is not for her!!!
2007-09-09 16:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by shay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well people defiantly don't have to trust each other to have sex. Some people don't really even like each other and are still willing to have sex with each other. But as far as having children...
There are many reasons here are what I think are some of the top ones:
1.Either they are irresponsible and immature and accidentally end up with a child.
2.They want to have a child for the wrong selfish reasons and don't take into consideration that the other person they don't love / trust enough to to marry is going to be the child's other parent, a part of their life and a big influence on the child.
3. They think getting pregnant, or getting someone pregnant is the way to get them to want to marry you. (Hard to believe in this day and age right?)
4. One person is obsessed and wants to use a child as a way to forever be bonded to the other person, married or not. (scary, and sad, but true)
2007-09-10 00:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a religious person and believe that marriage is a religious ceremony. Why would anyone want to force me into something I don't believe in? My girlfriend and I live as husband and wife and have done so for five years. We are getting the paperwork to establish all the legal rights of a married couple and doing so without insulting our beliefs.
Maybe the question is: Why do people not trust each other enough to have sex and children without getting a legal document that binds them together?
2007-09-09 16:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by Zamboni1988 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have wondered this my self like a lot of movie stars are doing it all backwards. I believe if you are going to have children you should be married and give them a good stable home. I know there are people out there that say they can do this. But this is the exception to the rule. I work in a pediatric hospital and I have seen this many times.
2007-09-09 16:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is easy to have a no commitment relationship. If people took the time and effort to make a real relationship work they would get married instead of just shacking up and playing house. Lots of people don't want to even be with one person, so they hop from one situation to another having multiple children by different mothers. Our society has lost respect for itself. We each have to take responsibility for our own actions.
2007-09-09 16:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that they don't trust each other enough to get married, it's just that I think it's cheaper to live and have kids together and consider yourselves married than to actually do it.
2007-09-10 03:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because having sex with someone and a child you can mold into fitting into your life is easier than having to agree with another adult and mold your life to fit with theirs.
Older people are set in their ways. They don't trust as easy or for as long. One night stands can be pushed out of our heads and children can be taught to be the way we want them to be...but...another person...
2007-09-09 16:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and illigitimate babies has nothing to do with trust. That's just raging hormones and very poor decision making skills.
2007-09-09 16:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are afraid to, I think that the world looks down on marrage and that if we had more "married family" the world would be a better place and ther would be less hate in the world another is that people are afraid of responabilty
2007-09-09 16:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly RIch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They think that if they don't make the LEGAL commitment, that they will be able to just "walk away" if things don't work out - it has nothing to do with trust - it has EVERYTHING to do with laziness and selfishness.
2007-09-09 16:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋