Do you think traditional marriages generally work better?

Question

Marriages in which the husband is the breadwinner and thw wife is a stay at home mom.

I am a pharmacist. I used to work 84 hrs in one week, following week off. My husband hated it. We both wanted the same thing for me to work less and spend more time w/ the family. I now work parttime with my profession it still brings in good money. My husband is in school and says I could stay home once he starts his career, but I'd probably stick w/ parrtime. A woman should have something to fall back on in case something happens. A woman having a good career or profession thats always in demand is ideal. She cld either stay home, work parttime or work fulltime. And wld not have to go on welfare if anything happens.

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Answer 1

People's opinion's have changed since then and so has the economy making it very hard for the wife to stay home with the kids. My personal opinion is that the women should be able to stay home and raise the kids. I don't want someone teaching my kids morals that i might not agree with. I feel very blessed to be able to stay home with my kids to teach them right from wrong to give them all I can give not what's leftover after working all day then comeing home to cook and clean and do homework and give baths to be honest I don't know how some women do it because it leaves very little time for one on one interaction with the kids not to mention the poor husband. I am here for my kids and here for my husband and I wouldnt have it anyother way!! Oh and believe me i am not bored.

Answer 2

I don't think marriages like this are very equal. I like the idea of staying home though. That wouldn't be a problem for me, but when it comes to money, the wife should have equal access to it and it should be considered their money. If I were at home and my husband said one thing about "well I bring home the money so ...." I'd be back at work so fast. I do think it's better for the kids if one parent is at home. I kind of envied my Grandmother getting to stay at home, all her friends on the same street. They were so close with each other and could drop off their kids or spend time with their friends every day. But of course, they had no control in the relationship. My Grandmother would probably say that she would prefer my lifestyle where I work and don't stay home.

Maybe traditional marriages are a little less stressful in defining roles as well. You sort of know what is expected of you. I do feel that woman however are expected to do more than a man in both situations. I have a friend who stays home and she is expected to do everything. Her husband doesn't help out at all, never cooks, doesn't play with the kids, doesn't help out with housework. She makes him his lunches,etc. I'm very lucky in that my husband does cook, helps with chores and makes all his own lunches, etc. We both work,but he would do this stuff anyways.

Answer 3

It all depends on the people involved. My wife would never be a stay at home mom and we couldn't live with each other if that was the way it was. My wife is a head-strong career woman, but is still dedicated to our family. We make it work. That is why I say it all depends on the people involved. Besides, in today's economy, it is very hard to have a one income household.

Answer 4

I was afraid when I read your question you were referring to homosexual unions, but you mentioned the word mom which implies the creation of children. Marriages in which the husband is the breadwinner and the wife is a stay at home mom, are best for the raising of infants and children. I don't want to be crude, but, women have breasts. They are designed to suckle babies. This creates a bond of love and nurturing. To breast feed, the mother has to be near the child. It is highly impractical in most work places to watch infants and provide, continually, for the needs of an infant. Breast feeding has been proven over and over to be best for infants. Women who have infants are best at caring for the infants for exactly that reason. sure, men can take care of infants. Some are very good at it. In general,however, women are designed by God for that purpose.

While the wife is taking care of a baby, the husband needs to earn a living. We've been married 28 years now. My wife works part time While the kids were very little I worked and was the bread winner. My wife stayed home and took care of the kids. I'm going to anger a lot of people who read this now. Most marriages end because of immoral behavior. The woman has sex before marriage. Yes I said it was immoral. the reason for celibacy before marriage is to test the man. The woman should know how a man deals with frustration. This is very important. Will he go out and be with other women? Will he be quick to anger? Most women don't even know how to define what a man is. It's amazing any marriages last more then a few years these days. Let me tell you my definition of "man" ... a "man" is someone who can support a family, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially.

Answer 5

I'm 31 and have been married for 12 years. It works b/c we choose to make it work. Otherwise, we'd be divorced. It's really quite simple. People give up too easily. Everyone from my high school principal to the priest who married us said we would not last. I'm a little too busy being in love to stop and say to them all," HA HA!!! Thought YOU knew!!!" My dumb principal actually pulled me into the office to tell me my boyfriend, who is now my husband, wasn't good enough for me. I needed to find someone who would "buy me a Cadillac." I have a nice ride that IS PAID FOR, A NICE HOME THAT IS PAID FOR, AND A WONDERFUL HANDSOME SON. While that fool is still paying a mortgage anda car note or 2. Anyway, it works if you want it to. simply put.

Answer 6

It depends on the couple. sometimes it is too hard and causes financial stress. In situations where the husband makes a very good salary, it can be less stressful on both parties., because neither has many chores to help with after coming home from a hard day's work.

Answer 7

It totally depends on the financial needs of the household.

This has to be something that both parties agree on.

Some women want to work as they feel an accomplishment from working, and that is great.

The traditional marriage was more like "no wife of mine is going to go to work, I will not allow it"! seriously.

2 of my daughters are lucky enough to be stay at home moms because their hubbys make good money, now my 3rd daughter, has to work to make ends meet.

Hope this helped..

Answer 8

Depends on the expectations of the people that are married. If we had children, and I told this to my husband before I married him, I will be a stay at home mom because that is what is best for a child's development. But until then, we'll both work.

Answer 9

I think that if you look at the success rate of marriages, in general -
you'll find some that are traditional and some that are not.


WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOURSELF, beyond what any statistics say?
That's where all the power lies.

It's not about which marriages worked and which didn't - as there's always an exception to the rule.

What do YOU want???

Answer 10

HaH!!! Cute... It's 2007 not 1907! I had to learn the hard way... I stopped working outside the home, let my checking acct. go and let my husband handle all of the finances. BAD mistake. We had an argument recently where he tried to kick me out and I realized that I didn't have a pot to p*ss in or a window to throw it out of. Soooo I will be earning and saving and having my own. And I suggest to ALL women... NEVER let him control ALL of the money! Get an allowance, get a job, babysit, do something! But keep your own for a rainy day... because you never know what tomorrow brings.