My husband is what I think is bipolar or depressed or angry or something. He explodes in outbursts all the time. Now he is threatening to quit his good job to bartend. He is 40 years old. He carries insurance for our family and everything. He drinks all the time now he wants to work in a stupid bar! Please tell me you agree a 40 yr married father need not quit a good paying career to tend bar? I tended bar for fun when i was 21 for gosh sakes!!!! IDEAS???
2007-09-09 15:10:02 · 10 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you say he drinks too much, what does that mean? Is he not fulfilling his obligations (Family, financial, social etc) or having legal problems(DUI etc)? Or is it that you just think he drinks too much? About the job, why does he desire to quit? Some people have a job that is more draining on them than it is worth, if he would be happier somewhere else, that may solve some of the problems. I would recommend you set him down and discuss these things with him, explain that you can't be without health insurance and remind him that you have to have a certain amount of income to take care of all of your obligations. Maybe try to convince him to see a doctor about the anger and emotional things, these could be the result of a physical illness. Remember, communication is the key to any relationship. Try to communicate and be supportive. The earlier advise about Alanon is good, go and listen, if you are having a problem with his drinking, they will teach you how to let go and concentrate on you, because you can't change anyone but yourself. Hope this helps.
2007-09-09 15:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by seniorchiefretired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he drinks all of the time, why are you with him? He is obviously disturbed b/c he turns to alcohol for help. (Maybe he hates his job that much) Bartending is not a bright idea on his part.. It could make the situation so much worse! He does not seem to enjoy his job so he should get support from you to find a new one, but stay where he is at until he does so. (Not bartending if he has a drinking problem)
2007-09-09 15:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound good if he is really leaving a good job for some stupid reason and going to work in a bar. It's not wise decision. Why don't you talk to him?
2007-09-09 15:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by jenni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 42 I use to drink allot I did tend bar on weekends it was not good on my mirage to tempting I failed but we worked it out
2007-09-09 15:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by grandpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Alcoholics Anonymous and ask them to direct you to the nearest Ala-non meeting. It is free and they have the best help you can get in the whole world.
2007-09-09 15:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should think about seeing a counselor or psychiatrist to help him figure out what the underlying issue is behind his erratic behavior.
2007-09-09 15:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's going through a mid-life crisis.
2007-09-09 15:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like depression to me.
2007-09-09 15:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAlk to him, his probably going thrue middle age crisis. Men go thrue that too. Go and get counseling together.
2007-09-09 15:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jess F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll leave if he quits his job. He has responsibilities and can't just quit his job.
2007-09-09 15:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋