I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 2 YEARS AND I WAS PERFECTLY OK WITH MY RELATIONSHIP UP TO LAST WEEK. I RECEIVED A PHONE CALL FROM AN EX-BOYFRIEND FROM 5 YEARS AGO. HE WAS THE FIRST LOVE OF MY LIFE. HE CALLED TO SAY HELLO AND HE HINTED HE WAS NOT OVER ME. I DECIDED NOT TO TALK TO HIM ANYMORE BECAUSE I'M MARRIED AND HE ALSO HAS A WIFE AND KIDS. THE THING IS I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!!!! EVERY DAY ALL DAY I THINK OF HIM. I'M SO CONFUSED ABOUT MY FEELINGS NOW?? AM I IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY STILL OR JUST CONFUSED?
2007-09-09 19:53:53 · 8 answers · asked by LOST!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have TOTALLY been there!!!!
You need to sit down, when you are ALONE and...maybe play some light music. Turn the lights down and just sit there and think.
Think about what you really want. Do you love the man you are with???
Do you really have the urge to drop him and be with the guy from before? Tearing your family apart for something that might have just been a booty call?
He is going to be on your mind for a while, but just think of every reason why your NOT with him anymore.
Think about all the reasons as to why you are with your husband, and it you truly love him, you will see how much he means to you.
I do not think your in love with that other guy. I think he called you to start some **** up and he is just messing with you. For all you know he is upset that he lost you and is trying to mess up your marrige.
Dont be the girl that falls for the bad guy, when she has such a fantastic guy already.
2007-09-09 20:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur probably juzt have mixed emotionz I would advise u not 2 take n e mo phone callz if u need 2 block hiz # or wuteva u have 2 do kuz how u feel if u husband wuz secretly talkin 2 an ex. U'll b juzt fine juzt remember why u married ur husband & why thingz didn't work out 4 u & ur 1st love & 2 juzt bring a rain shower ova sum1'z head when u know dere married iz juzt plain ol inconsiderate
2007-09-09 20:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by mz_alwaystruthful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took vows. Put yourself in your husband's place. How would you feel if he did that to you? You need to think about what you would be losing. Do you honestly think that this guy is going to leave his family for you? He just wants some on the side, I would bet. Why put yourself in that situation. Why hurt the man that has dedicated the last two years of his life to you? I would seriously rethink that situation. Does not sound like a good idea to me!!!!
2007-09-09 20:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you still have feelings for your first love we all do it's your first love for heavens sake. Listen he is married and you are married and remember one thing. There is a reason you two are not married to each other, I am sure you will remember the reason if you think about it. That is alot of hurt you will cause if you two hook up, my advice is don't do it.
2007-09-09 20:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by pattycake046 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe everything happens for a reason.
If your meant to be with this guy, it will happen naturally, just don't think about it.
I guess people dont always marry the one they are meant to be with.
But you cant stay with someone just because "Oh we married"
Gut instinct usually knows best, follow that, you can not regret going with what was right to you at the time.
2007-09-09 20:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why don't you two go out to dinner just as friends that way you two can talk, then that way you may see why he is an ex-boyfriend wut i mean by that is whatever reason ya'll broke up could show up at dinner whether he has a bad attitude, he always look at other girls, you see what i mean?? hopefully it does show up so you won't be confused anymore and you'll realize that you're in love with your husband!! i hope i helped you at least a little bit GOOD LUCK!!
2007-09-09 20:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sexii~Caramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are still in love.
2007-09-09 19:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both because your married and he is too.
2007-09-09 19:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by DancingInTheMoonlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋