Is there something wrong with me ?Help....?

Question

When I got married I promised my self that we wil (me and my hub.) will struggle and prove that we can manage to live life without anyones help.Were now married for 13 years we accomplished a house, our cars, and most of all blessed with an active sports loving son.But came my mother in law who was at the very start is against our marriage for so many reasons specially I'm from a country she hated most. Years past and the situation came up side down , she's now living with us coz she doesn't have any place to go. I feel like I'm being betrayed with my life no one seems to understand what I feel.For all my life I've been proving that I'm diffrent and I did good I have a career anyone in the family can be proud off. Now I just want to reset my life , live far and I want myself a new life a new environment.

Answer 1

it's your house, you want her out, out she should go. you and your husband worked hard to make your lives on your own. she needs to figure out something else if she has a problem with you. if your husband can't understand this then maybe it's time to figure out other arrangements for her or your out.

Answer 2

Take a breathe honey. It is perfectly normal to want to "reset" your life. Life happens in stages. My advice is to slow down and find out what you are really reacting to before you make any major decisions. If you can I would suggest a get away for you. Go somewhere for a long weekend or even a week if you can and do some real soul searching. Do this alone so you can get clarity on what your needs and feelings are away from the forces pulling at you at home. You will find where your next path lies and which direction to go only when you can quiet your mind and emotions enough to hear what the universe is whispering to you. It will be okay--change is good you are tense and upset because deep down you know you have reached a point of transistion, but if you make a rash decision it might be a wrong one and you will regret it.

Answer 3

You need to speak to your husband about the situation. If you were to leave him and take your share of everything, where would he put the od coot then. Under the circumstances, she has not right living in your house, since she does not like or respect you. You can not make him choose between you and his mother, but you may be able to find a compromise, such as the rest of the family taking turns having her in their home for a time. You could also consider finding a suitable assisted living facility for her. There are activities for them such as Bingo, and dances, etc... in most of the nice ones. She would probably enjoy it. My step father loved the one he was in.

Answer 4

I have been through an unwanted divorce, she left me & my young boys for someone else. I could have turned to so many things, as I was so distraught for my failed marriage, loss of job, home, among losing a loved one who was only thirteen years old, when she died. All of this was occurring around the same time. I was'nt succesful at much did not have a nice car, nor did I own a nice house, was renting the one I lost. I lost my job due to sleepless days, as I worked a 3rd shift position. I could not find my wife where she said she would be. When the truth came out, she wanted a divorce. I was williing to forgive her, thinking I loved her that much. I realize now, that I was
trying to fill a void that only God can fill. When I gave my life to Jesus, well he began to restore my heart, and it has been a healing process since but I can honestly say, I am healed.

Your situation sounds bleak and I can sense the anguish. No one can relate with you unless they have been through it. I'm not sure what your next move is, but I know what God did for me when he promised me a new life, if I just put my trust in him. I heard his soft voice call me by my name and said, "Son give me your life and I will bless you beyond you could imagine." I said, "Lord I have nothing else to give, I have lost everything." I thought about the dating seen and what it could be like. I really did not want to have to start all over again. But I thought about how my boys needed a Mother who would Love and care for them. We had to move back home to my Mom's house. I had not lived with my parents since I was about 19 years old. I felt so small having to move to my mom's house but I really had nowhere else to go with two small children.

After a few months of living with my mom. My Mom invited me one day to pray specifically for a woman to suit our needs.

I promise you that after serving God as a childrens church teacher, street witnessing and just plain trusting the Lord I have the life the Lord has promised me. We are all complete as a family and my boys are all grown up now and are about to leave for college. I have two beautiful women now, My loving wife and my 4 yr old daughter, and another one on the way. :) God is so good! `\o/`
I have all of what I had before and then some. I have a nice house, (loving home) and cars in a great neighborhood and good career that I enjoy. The most important thing I have in my life is my relationship with my God, Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

I hope my testimony has in any way, helped encourage you. :) Hang in there.

I'm praying for you Dear one.
In Christ,
Alight4JC

Answer 5

Sweet Pea i do think it is a bit selfish to think this way. If you love you hubbie you will stick by him no matter what the situation is. This is apart of life, and don't think for one minute the mother-in-law is not sorry for all those things she has said and done. This is what God calls making your enemy be you footstool. It means the very person that talks about you and talk down to you will need you one day. you are suppose to love her regardless of what she has said and done. God Bless!

Answer 6

It's because your mother in law is living with you. Talk to your husband about how you're feeling and about the living situation and maybe she can find a place of her own.