I get married next march and I've been with my fiance for 4 and a half years. I can't get having one last fling out of my head. I'd rather do it now before I'm married but I don't know if I should? He would never find out and I could live with myself for it. I know it's wrong but is it the only way for me to stop thinking about it?
2007-09-11 08:24:54 · 48 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have to ask that question you are definitely NOT ready to get married. When I was engaged the only woman I desired was my fiance. I can understand being attracted to other people even after you're married but an attraction and actually sleeping with someone else is 2 different things. ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION. Would you approve if your fiance slept with someone while engaged to you just to have 1 last fling? Be Honest with yourself. You Never want to risk hurting someone you truly Love if they are really your SOUL MATE. 1 Night of Passion is not worth A lifetime of misery or regrets. The answer is no.
2007-09-11 08:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know if this if for real or not. Is this a joke? Are you really that morally reprehensible? Wow, I was hoping women like you didn't even exist. You're like every man's worst nightmare. So you've been with this poor sap for over 4 years, are engaged, and you still want a "last fling"?! You think it makes it better because you're not married yet? You're in a committed relationship, idiot. Why bother asking a retarded question you already know the answer to? No, of course you shouldn't, but I don't really give a damn whether you do or don't. Just do one good thing in your life and break off the engagement. You don't love him. In fact, if you have that little respect for his feelings and welfare I doubt you even like him. If you could "live with it" if he never found out then it simply points to the fact that you don't have a soul, which explains a lot. Of course it's immoral to lie and cheat on someone and put them at risk from contracting an std because of your own failure as a human being. Most normal people already know this, but apparently you need someone to spell it out for you because you're such a freak. Please don't ever have any children.
2007-09-11 13:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is very scary, especially if you look at it with an outlook that it is until death and you will be solely committed to that person forever.....so I could see why you would possibly be thinking this. I do want to throw this your way though, if the only way you can get having one last fling out of your head is by having it, then how are you going to get the regret (that WILL come later on) out of your head other than confessing or something? Then how is you husband going to feel? Then where will that leave your marriage? I will tell you, in a bad spot.
2007-09-11 08:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Angel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this right, you want to cheat on your boyfriend/fiancee one time before you get married. I really feel sorry for this guy. He has no idea what kind of woman he's about to marry. If you're truly thinking on this level, you don't need to get married. The only person you should ever want to have sex with is your future husband. Why have a fling, and risk getting pregnant or getting Herpes or some other STD. Then you'd lose your future husband forever.
Try losing the whore mentality and getting married, or break up with your man and whore all you want.
2007-09-11 08:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by TXboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know it is wrong and you still want to do it, this is not the guy for you long term. There are no guarantees he would "never" find out about it, you'd be surprised that things that can go terribly awry when we lie, cheat and are deceitful. If you really feel you need to date someone else, be honest with your fiance and break it off, otherwise you have some major thinking to do about yourself, your values, what you think marriage and relationships are all about. How would you feel if your fiance did this to you? Would you be terribly hurt? If not, then again, you two aren't meant to be together. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-09-11 08:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you are seriously considering being with someone else in any form, then you aren't committed enough to be engaged. Accepting the ring and proposal of marriage bond you to a promise of being committed only to that man. Doing as you suggest, even thinking about it, is breaking that promise.
Do not get married at this time and tell you fiance why.
2007-09-11 08:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really do not see the point of this at all. You need to realize A LOT can go wrong:
Your "fling" can be a dynamo in the sack...you still going to get married?
Your hubby can find out years from now, how would you respond?
You can get an STD (some STDs are NOT condom proof!)
You can get your heart broken.
Now...does it STILL sound appealing?
2007-09-11 08:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by kittykatsback 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready to get married,,,period. Or are you ??? if you want to have one sexual fling with someone else before getting married, do it right away. Do everything with that person that you have ever fantasied about. Oral, anal, different positions, in the batroom, on the kitchen table, start off with intercourse, finish off with oral, outside in the woods, whatever. Just remember that you will have to be able to deal with it afterwards. You might find a thing or two that you bring to your marrige.
2007-09-11 08:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lee B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are in a committed relationship, then being with someone else and not telling your partner is still cheating. The other way for you to stop thinking about it is to just think about how much better you will feel about yourself if you just don't do it! What would you say to your man if he asked for one last fling with someone else?
2007-09-11 08:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by EazyBreezy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you need a "fling" you need to reassess getting married.
Why do you feel the need? What's going on inside of you that is causing this desire?
If this is the guy you really want to spend the rest of your time with and you need a "fling" now, who's to say you won't need one after you get married?
You're on dangerous ground here. Time to really look inside yourself and see if this truly is the man for you.
2007-09-11 08:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by wentfishing2 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋