i tottally hate porn, i think its so disrespectful, and just plain disgusting. my boyfriend loves it and i cant seem to get over him looking at it, its ruining our relationship.....its not that i think he wants them, its just the fact i think its disrespectful for him to get turned on by another female, and want to look at other girls naked. it really hurts....anyone else gone threw this? what did u do? how i get over it...
2007-09-11 05:21:30 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont think there is a emotional bond there....its just the fact that he should be turned on by me and only me. and he shouldnt need to look at naked girls when i give it to him whenever he wants..
2007-09-11 05:31:55 · update #1
im not jealous of a freaking picture, these girls are real girls, its not like they are just made up. and i am not jealous of them i just dont understand why a guy with a girl would need to look at these whores
2007-09-11 05:37:54 · update #2
There is no emotional bond there. .. it is pure fantasy, so get over your insecurities.
2007-09-11 05:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 5⤋
You're living in a dreamworld and obviously know very little about men. No man that you ever meet in your entire life will be turned on by you and only you. All men will look at other women even if that's all they do. It is a biological fact of life that no one can change. Women are no different, and if you try to tell us that you don't have fantasies about other men or look at other men in public, then you are a liar. I know that there's some celebrity or male model or some type of guy out there that just flips your switches turns you on.
Looking at porn is not disrespectful to anyone, and you need to realize that you are the one with the problem and not him. He is a normal adult male and you have issues where you need to be the center of attention and when you aren't you feel hurt. I would look into finding a therapist so that you can talk this issue over with them and get to the heart of what's really causing this.
2007-09-11 05:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Are you aware that WOMEN are some of the biggest consumers of erotica? That's right.
Now, they generally prefer literature over video, but they do purchase the latter, also.
The "Herotica" anthologies have been big sellers for decades; collections of erotica written specifically by WOMEN, not men.
The next time you are prepared to be scandalized by a degrading bimbo fest in a X-rated DVD, please consider that the exact same thing is being described, from a female perspective, in what we call 'Romance Novels.' It’s just that the objectification happens in the opposite direction.
You know how women’s bodies are the ones that always have to be perfect in porn, even if the men are kinda droopy or overweight? It's the same with romance, but in reverse! The men’s bodies are all PUMPED - the women can be whatever. Her imperfections are irrelevant or sympathetic; the hero has to be an oiled stud muffin. Fabio is Jenna is Fabio.
Since the release of "Interview with the Vampire" in 1976, author Ann Rice continues to write best sellers with her "vampire" series. She's sold more than 75 million copies of vampire erotica.
Since 1981, Danielle Steel has been a permanent fixture on the New York Times hardcover and paperback bestsellers lists; having sold more than 530 million copies of her books.
Since 1979, author Nora Roberts has written over 190 titles. There are more than 280 million copies of Nora Roberts' books in print.
- Romance generated $1.63 billion in sales in 2002.
- Romance fiction comprises 54.9% of all popular mass-market fiction sold.
- Romance fiction comprises 39.3% of all fiction sold.
- Romance fiction comprises a 26.4% share of the consumer market revenue.
2007-09-11 11:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him . . . and let him find a woman who has a healthy sexuality so he can be happy. Your basic assumption, that porn is "disrespectful", indicates that you have the traditional "woman on a pedestal" ideal, which denies porn as an important part of masculine sexuality. This usually leads to prudish behavior later on in the relationship, poor sexual behavior, and eventual cheating. It also indicates that you have an abundance of trust issues and poor self-esteem, to be threatened by fictitious competition. Obviously you aren't the physical end-all, be-all, of femininity, and your insistance on his sexuality being totally focus on you and you alone is a sign of a controlling nature and a poorly developed personal sexuality. Get some professional help, and cut this guy loose. There are plenty of women out there without your prejudices.
2007-09-11 07:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by terry m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, let me say this... I am not pro porn .. but I am not against it either. I think the reason you don't like it is what my problem is. Men are visual creatures. If you think that you are the only person he will EVER find attractive you are fooling yourself ! A relationship does not mean that you are dead. If you did not know about it, he would STILL be watching it behind your back. I don't know about you, but I would rather know what my man liked and was doing than not ! If I were you, I would get over it ! It is not even about you! Go victoria Fredrick's and find you something slutty .. I mean sexy and have fun !
2007-09-11 05:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your having a child, it's a bit late to decide that you you don't like your boyfriends habits, you should have thought about it before getting pregnant. If he wasn't doing this before, he is probably doing it now because he is giving space because you are pregnant. He is not doing any harm and the the majority of the girls are doing it for fun and making money. I think you child would prefer to have a father,
2007-09-11 06:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by njn001 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Then you need to get a different boyfriend because I don't see him changing his habit just because you don't like it. I'm sure there are things about you that he dislikes that you are not willing to change either, right? So get over it or get a new guy. Problem is, most guys like...even love looking at naked women. Like the guy above said, it's not a personal thing, it's just visual.
2007-09-11 05:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
I am married and have been through this time and time again with my husband. IT'S AN ADDICTION, and it will be very hard for him to quit cold turkey. Do what i did, I gave him an ultimatum me or the porn. You will probably have to kick him out a few times for it to sink in but if he truly loves you he will respect your feelings and ditch the porn. If you are really desperate talk to a councilor about it and see if he will go.. Good luck!
Orrrrrrrrrrr you could let him know how it feels by pinning up a bunch of naked men on the refridgerator and see if he will get the hint.. LOL
2007-09-11 05:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
I feel the same way you do. If I were you I'd tell him how you feel about it and if he doesn't at least shorten the amount of time watching it then I agree move on. Tell him he's got the real thing standing right in front of him. Try to pull him away from it. Get something short and sexy and dance around in it. Play porn star and fake a big orgasm like they do on the movies lol. good luck
2007-09-11 05:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by ilovelucy1207 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are being unreasonable. Men don't stop being human just because they get involved with a woman. There is no way he will ever be turned on JUST by you.
You decide how you react to everything. You have decided that YOU think porn is disrespectful. That is fine. Do not look at it. But you cross a line when you start telling someone else what they can or can not do.
2007-09-11 05:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
My husband went through a "Craigslist" phase right after we got married. He still looks at porn. I don't like it either, but it's just something I've learned to deal with.
2007-09-13 07:01:59 · answer #11 · answered by Kristin D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋