This is my previous question:
My wife is having a mini mid life crisis. She feels old and out of shape. I think that she is beautiful and in good shape for 48. She is five years older than I am. We have three kids. I love her very much. But she has started losing weight and her face is getting drawn and she is starting to look unsexy and unattractive and more wrinkled. I love her normal and contrary to what she believes, she actually looks older and sick the skinnier she gets. How do I tell her?
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I love a woman with curves and she knows this! Juliiete Binoche, Britney Spears, Susan Sarandon, Madonna in her early years. I guess I have to be patient and just love her.
UPDATE:
I took her to lunch and politely told her. She said that all of her girlfriends think that she looks better. I asked her what do men in her office say? She didn't say anything. Any suggestions now?
2007-09-11 08:27:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You made your point and it's time to back off. Give her time to absorb that you think she looks fine. That fact that you're younger likely makes her feel pressured to maintain a certain image. Maybe a membership at a gym or fitness center? You could both go together. Then her focus could change to fitness/toning up, rather than losing weight and looking gaunt, and she could become healther in the process and spend time with you too.
2007-09-11 08:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you're very fortunate to have this kind of well guy...I'm married occurring 7 years, this July seventh, we've 2 children and a million at the means, after we met he used to be 250lbs I used to be 125lbs now he's 200lbs and despite the fact that I'm pregnant I have not been thin for six years, I had a affair five years in the past, but we're nonetheless in combination Some occasions in case your guy says he loves you the best way you're HE MEANS IT....I by no means doubt my husband he loves me simply the best way i'm fats or thin and after we are 70 years historical I'm definite we appear it however love can develop into anything greater than only a appeal in the direction of one one other.
2016-09-05 10:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get "before" and "after" pictures blown up and point out the differences and explain that you certainly don't want her to gain weight unnecessarily but that you want her at a healthy weight and that starving oneself is not healthy. Maybe suggest some activities you two could do together to stay in shape - walks around the block, swimming as a family at the local YMCA, taking the kids to the park after dinner? Good luck and God Bless.
2007-09-11 08:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in this boat as well for awhile. I very petite and would love to get implants, for myself not other guys, but my husband didn't want me to get them. We talked about it a lot, and I finally decided not to.
I doubt your wife is seeking out other guys, but it's never a good thing when a woman makes herself attractive for strangers and unattractive for her husband.
The bottom line though, is that she is happy with her new look, for whatever reason. I don't think men understand how most women want to be thin.
2007-09-11 08:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Leah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ay 110 my wife looks great.
All the while she complains about being fat.
We found a photo of her ar 95 the other day and she was shocked. Looked a bit anorexic, hollow cheeks, drawn and slack.. That was all it took.
2007-09-11 08:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Id ask her is it more important what her girlfriends think or her husband. Never mind what the men in the office said...who cares what ANYONE says except you. What you need to address is not the weight, but her changing priority in who she is trying to please.
Her silence when you said what do the men think was a warning sign....
2007-09-11 08:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start cooking her meals that she loves, she'll eat more and gain some weight back. I don't understand why women think skinny is sexy. I love my curves.
2007-09-11 08:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by countrygirl30143 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. Tell her she looks beautiful.
2007-09-11 08:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, her girlfriends are not gonna tell her that she looks bad if she asks... duh
2007-09-11 09:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋